Do you generally prefer to have gay friends or hetero friends? Does it even matter?

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    Sep 12, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    For reasons I've never been able to comprehend, I usually don't get along with other gay men. My hetero friends and acquaintances, whether male or female, usually treat me much better than my "fellow" gays, and we simply interact better. I find this to be ironic because I've always fantasized about having a gay posse. What are your experiences, preferences, etc.?
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    Sep 12, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    Gay friends, almost exclusively. Been there, done that with the straight scene.
  • jgymnast733

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    Sep 12, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    Guess it all depends, alot of our fellow gays are so insecure thus the bitchy attitude, [my opinion].. ...Thankfully, i have a drama free gay posse whom i love, as well as str8 friends [mostly male], who are cool just hangin out with..
    It's not so much the gay or str8 issue, i think it's just a people thing...
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    Sep 12, 2009 11:26 PM GMT
    Yes, the gays with the catty attitudes. I find them absolutely insufferable. Unfortunately, those types are the ones I always seem to encounter.
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    Sep 13, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    Addicted2me saidYes, the gays with the catty attitudes. I find them absolutely insufferable. Unfortunately, those types are the ones I always seem to encounter.

    Fuck those motha fuckers [excuse my french], i also encounter those poor souls and i just ignore them,,letting them bask in their own stupidity...
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    jgymnast733 said
    Addicted2me saidYes, the gays with the catty attitudes. I find them absolutely insufferable. Unfortunately, those types are the ones I always seem to encounter.

    Fuck those motha fuckers [excuse my french], i also encounter those poor souls and i just ignore them,,letting them bask in their own stupidity...


    Yes, but they often try and suck you in to their madness. They give you dirty looks, they whisper things as you walk by, etc., all in a desperate junior high school attempt to get a rise out of you. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    Doesn't really matter.
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    I prefer hetero friends. From my observations, a lot of gay guys are pretty superficial and homogeneous. Meaning, they tend to stick with their own types. It's all very reminiscent of high school cliques. So for me at least, it's been pretty difficult making gay friends.
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:10 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI prefer hetero friends. From my observations, a lot of gay guys are pretty superficial and homogeneous. Meaning, they tend to stick with their own types. It's all very reminiscent of high school cliques. So for me at least, it's been pretty difficult making gay friends.


    Yep, exactly.
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    I prefer gay friends, but have more hetero friends. You just meet more straight people out in the real world. There is a lot more of them than us.
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    Sep 13, 2009 3:19 AM GMT
    For friends it really dosn't matter. I will not be friends with homophopic heterosexuals though.
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    Sep 13, 2009 4:45 AM GMT
    I have both--doesn't really matter to m e whether they are gay or st8--my friends have similar interests as me and their persoanality matters more to me then whether they are gay or str8.
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    Sep 13, 2009 9:43 PM GMT
    Addicted2me said
    jgymnast733 said
    Addicted2me saidYes, the gays with the catty attitudes. I find them absolutely insufferable. Unfortunately, those types are the ones I always seem to encounter.

    Fuck those motha fuckers [excuse my french], i also encounter those poor souls and i just ignore them,,letting them bask in their own stupidity...


    Yes, but they often try and suck you in to their madness. They give you dirty looks, they whisper things as you walk by, etc., all in a desperate junior high school attempt to get a rise out of you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    They always give me dirty looks and it's okay cause i know i'v got it goin on, in there eyes,,,And i like playing into their games sometimes by laughing just a little bit louder, even throwing my head back with laughter and being generally the fabulous girl they love to hate...and the fact that almost everyone comes over to greet me really makes there blood boil.... I only mess with them when i get bored,other than that i ignore them...
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    Sep 13, 2009 9:49 PM GMT
    Which ever entails the least drama. Guess that would be Hetero
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    Sep 13, 2009 11:53 PM GMT
    jgymnast733 said
    Addicted2me said
    jgymnast733 said
    Addicted2me saidYes, the gays with the catty attitudes. I find them absolutely insufferable. Unfortunately, those types are the ones I always seem to encounter.

    Fuck those motha fuckers [excuse my french], i also encounter those poor souls and i just ignore them,,letting them bask in their own stupidity...


    Yes, but they often try and suck you in to their madness. They give you dirty looks, they whisper things as you walk by, etc., all in a desperate junior high school attempt to get a rise out of you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    They always give me dirty looks and it's okay cause i know i'v got it goin on, in there eyes,,,And i like playing into their games sometimes by laughing just a little bit louder, even throwing my head back with laughter and being generally the fabulous girl they love to hate...and the fact that almost everyone comes over to greet me really makes there blood boil.... I only mess with them when i get bored,other than that i ignore them...


    Maybe I should try some of your methods icon_biggrin.gif. I usually just ignore them and pretend they aren't there. I'm always mystified by how absolutely childish gay men can be.
  • jrs1

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    Sep 14, 2009 12:00 AM GMT
    Doesn't matter until I'm with my straight friends and the issue of women and dating comes up. The only gay friends that I have, at present, are on RJ (as far as I am aware that is). I haven't met men like these guys in person, so my male friends tend to be straight and I find I can hang out with them and relax, and then come home, go on-line, and talk to my RJ guys who'll laugh about liking boys with me. I'd prefer people to be who they are and not fake themselves into being someone else, but when there is a bit of dramatics involved ... I almost always become distant.
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:01 AM GMT
    hmmm. i have found great straight and gay friends. gay friendships can be complicated if one of you is attracted to the other one.
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:04 AM GMT
    BerberKnight saidA true friend is a true friend.

    Sexual orientation, age, race, color, creed ... matter very little.


    *Nods* Its the person I look at, not the sexuality.
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:06 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI prefer hetero friends. From my observations, a lot of gay guys are pretty superficial and homogeneous. Meaning, they tend to stick with their own types. It's all very reminiscent of high school cliques. So for me at least, it's been pretty difficult making gay friends.



    Just like me, dude! I maybe wrong about this but as far as my experiences are concerned, I'm more comfortable mixing with hetero friends.Its the chemistry, I believe.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    friends are friends....sexual orientation does not matter to me...
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    Doesn't really matter to whether they are gay or straight. A persons sexual status has no bearing on my decision to want to be friends with them.
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    Sep 14, 2009 12:55 AM GMT

    We were only the only gay people at our wedding. This is largely due to many gay people we know not living in our area (we moved last year), short notice that we were getting married, and that we're an LTR of 20 years.

    Strange? Not really, because many single gays enjoy being with other single gays, and the married ones, like us, are for the most part, settled in and melting into society as a whole. We know one gay couple living on the next street over, but we have little in common other than being gay.

    We don't think you can base friendships on sexual orientation.

    We have LOTS of friends here on RJ.

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    Sep 14, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    I can't STAND most of gay men; so CATTY, troublesome, all the paranoia, the bullshit, the drama, the vanity, the games, the faking, the egos, the overcompensating, the attitude, the individualism, the lies, I could go on forever.

    The overall dynamic is so unattractive.

    I prefer my straight friends.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Sep 14, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    None of my friends are gay or straight icon_razz.gif mostly bi its great we can talk about any sex icon_biggrin.gif otherwise most of my girl friends are straight and my guy friends are straight as well

    I am like the op, I don't really get along too well with other gay men as just friends
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    Sep 14, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Doesn't really matter what their orientation is to me but my friends tend to be "str8". Guys who identify as gay usually rub me the wrong way personality wise.