do you have friends or are you happy with one significant other

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    Sep 13, 2009 1:42 AM GMT
    I'm 48 so that might be a factor. Just curious if it is a trend to not have people in your life to do things together ie friends as we get older. Not counting that one significant other. I don't do anything with my coworkers. My mom lives with me and she is straight with only one neighbor local friend. I know it would be diifferent if I had a gay significant other because he would probably have at least one other friend I could get to know. I have a people person job so I get alot of people interaction during the day so when I get home I don't mind being alone. I just feel like I should have more support in my life after work. Just trying to figure out what is normal and where do I stand.
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    Sep 13, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    I use to be extremely social and now, not so much. At 48 living at home w/ mom might have a touch to do w/ you extending yourself more.
    Do you feel comft bringing people over or a guy even? Do you feel you have privacy? RJ is a great start but you should invest time in activities where you can meet new people that share similar intrest. Remember that friendships involve wrk and commitment as well and is prob the biggest investment one can make in life.

    Hillie
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    Sep 14, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    I got this place and my mom had to move in with me, just want to correct that. I have had my gay friends visit a couple of times but I do feel I don't have privacy to just talk on the phone about anything gay. I do need to make friends.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 14, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
    I'm glad you are here socializing with us.

    My immediate reaction was to encourage you to get and and make several new friends (at least).. but some people would rather not be that social and appreciate a lifestyle without a number of friends.

    For me, friends beyond my partner are critical. It can be a little difficult to meet new people, when you have job obligations and other responsibilities, but I think its very important to be around people. Do you go to a gym?
    Exercise classes? I'd like to hear more.
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    Sep 14, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    "do you have friends or are you happy with one significant other"


    Our answer is,


    we have friends and are happy with one significant other.


    We're both happy to converse with you here! Is it after work yet?


  • jrs1

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    Sep 14, 2009 2:14 AM GMT

    I have great friends, but that would not need to change once I enter a relationship. I can't forget who I am because love comes along. That would seem counter-intuitive.