TrowelMonger saidI understand what you are saying but what if you really wanted to meet bears that could ride motorcycles but you didn't like going to the circus? I'm sure there a lot of bears out there that can ride motorcycles, but how do you know which ones can? Just go up and ask... you may be mauled. At the circus, you know that the majority of the bears there can ride a motorycle.
If my analogy made any sense it was at the beginning. It kinda got messy towards the end.
Small town bars, both gay and straight, are like this. You get the motor cycle riding bears, the bearded ladies, the clowns, everyone from the circus. But, since it is the only game in town, you also get retired cosmonauts, the paint huffers, the stock traders, the PETA freaks, everyone.
You either learn to enjoy what is enjoyable about the bars, stick to the internet, or get the hell out of small town life. The queer race (Homo Superious
) exists in pretty small numbers. Your odds of finding someone else that is compatible in that environment is not nearly as good as it is in cities and their surrounding area. So, if the OP wants to stay in a small town, he should learn to accept what he cannot change.