Im copying this from the forum i posted a couple of weeks ago... Maybe it will help?
There are basic rights at stake here. I have been talking about this with my super conservative parents. I have gotten some arguements from them, which are plausible.. but i think i have diffused them well.
-The definitin of marriage says between a man and a woman.
Well to this i say that definitions change. There is a country song called "I Miss Back When" that i quoted to them. "back when a screw was a screw." I also brought up the word fag. How it used to mean cigarette. And how gay used to mean happy. Point being, definitions of words change and evolve.. this one will do the same.
The fact of the matter here is that any religion is by no means required to recognize any marriage. Because of this being both my mother and step fathers third marriage, the baptist church to which they belong does not recognize that they are married. Therefore they do not have to recognize mine either. However some religions do, so why does one religious group trump any other and their beliefs. There is a separation of church and state for a reason. And for that matter, should athiests not be able to marry either?
-Marriage was meant for pro creation, and god made adam and eve..not adam and steve.
Well thats funny because god made me to. In my opinion pro creation is out of hand. How do you know that being gay isn't gods version of population control?
-Being gay is a choice, you choose that and these are the consequences.
No, being gay is a preference of orientation, as simple for me as not liking chinese food You know Mcdonalds has a menu for a reason. Different people prefer different things. The choice is deciding weather to live your life as a lie and trying to pretend that you love a woman, or being happy and accepting yourself as gay and embracing it. Would the family rather i lived a lie? or be honest...
-Whats next, a man can marry a horse?
Good god, you have got to be kidding me. A horse is not able to conciously decide weather or not it would want to be in a relationship with a person. A human being can. We are talking about two people who care for eachother wanting the same rights as straight couples have. I havent seen a talking horse since Mr Ed. Come on now.
I get heart broken when i hear of people losing their homes to a persons family because they dont have the legal ground to keep after their partners death. Wills are challenged all of the time, and the only way for that not to happen is to issue legal marriage equality for every person. If you can add to any of these points please do. I'm sure there will be more discussions on this topic and any new fresh points would be welcomed.