Betrayal

  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 22, 2009 12:36 PM GMT
    I know this guy for about 3 years. I have sex with him 1 times when we first meet. For the next 3 years we short message each other, talk ,phone sex and plan the next times we gonna be together (he live 300km away). We finally did , last night.

    I took him in the hotel. He told me to take a shower. By the times I come out from the shower, he is gone. Together with my wallet , all my money, credit cards, identification, driving licence., teller card, ........... everything. He also took my cellphone.

    I just cant believe it. I usually are very careful with stranger and one night stand. I wrongly trusted this kid. After 3 years as so call a friend, his not a stranger anymore.

    When I make a police report. All I can say, is I misplace or somebody pickpocket me. I even lied to my own sister, how it happened. I just cant risk exposing myself as a gay men. (why do you bring him to your hotel in the first place)


    I have block all access to my credit card, bank account and block the usage to my cellphone. Hopefully the financial damages is minimal. But we never know.

    I feel so betrayal, lied to and a total sucker. I know misery love company and I shoudnt get you guys involve. But I just need to get this thing out, and I have nobody else to talk too.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 22, 2009 12:43 PM GMT
    Man, so very sorry for whats happened to you. What a nightmare!

    What you've relayed should be a wake up call for anyone on a hookup
    with someone they don't know and when I say "don't know", I mean who they are (their name, background, something about them). You might be looking at them sexually, but they might just see you in a very different way.
    Don't be a victim... think about what your doing!

    Very sorry about what happened to you. Don't let this destroy your desire to meet a new guy.. just be cautious in the future.

    And this wasn't "betrayal", this was just criminal......
    The criminal in this case "banked" on the fact you probably wouldn't give his name (if you knew it) and certainly not the facts of the matter. I don't want to change this discussion into one about "gay crimes"... those that are not reported because the victim feels compelled to remain silent because he is gay (to avoid embarassment)... he becomes a victim all over again. We all need to think about it.

    Again, sorry you had to go through such a thing.....



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    Sep 22, 2009 1:34 PM GMT
    Hnds pretty m uch said what i wanted to say. Im sorry this has happened to you and I do hope things work out for you.
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 22, 2009 1:46 PM GMT
    I am sorry to hear that, I really hope other members can learn from your bad experience, and be more careful when hooking up for sex.
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    Sep 22, 2009 1:54 PM GMT
    sounds like what happened to a friend of mine two times over. he goes home with a guy from the club and they take his wallet and what not from his house! then my friend being crazy as he is... not only makes the police report and all that but steals the mic away from the drag queen at the show the next night at the club and walks over to the asshat that took his shit and is saying all this shit... "DONT EVER HOOKUP WITH THIS BITCH! SHE'LL FUCK YOU AND "FUCK YOU" AT THE SAME TIME BY TAKING ALL YOUR SHIT WITH HER WHEN SHE WALKS OUT" ... Never have I ever had a more livedly hilarious moment. Needless to say we got all his stuff back and the police followed through with charges. Sorry to hear what happened to you bro but yeah... fruther reasons why I dont do hookups.
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    Sep 22, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    you should be banned from posting anything... Trying to make sense of your horrible grammar... ugh, it hurts my brain!
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    Sep 22, 2009 4:42 PM GMT
    Dude that suxs and I can't imagine how you feel. You need to arm yourself w/ a can of WHOOP ASS! In the meantime stay on top of your financial situation to notice any changes to your account. Be careful and greatful as it could have been worse, he could have harmed you physically.
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    Sep 22, 2009 4:49 PM GMT
    jrunner25 saidyou should be banned from posting anything... Trying to make sense of your horrible grammar... ugh, it hurts my brain!


    Give me a break! You don't have to read it if the grammar bothers you. Use the "Ignore" feature if your brain hurts that much. Apparently other people have the ability to understand what he wrote and don't mind it.
  • scrumrob

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    Sep 22, 2009 5:02 PM GMT
    jrunner25 saidyou should be banned from posting anything... Trying to make sense of your horrible grammar... ugh, it hurts my brain!


    Look at his profile. He is trying his best to communicate in a foreign language. On top of this, he is in a Muslim country where homosexuality is a very serious thing. Sharia law does not allow for our existence. Talk about Ugly American, sheesh!
  • GQjock

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    Sep 22, 2009 7:48 PM GMT
    Errr .... is it me?

    Or are you forgetting that you have his email and phone number icon_confused.gif
    Mr Policeman ..... you can find the dude who ripped me off at this number
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 22, 2009 9:09 PM GMT
    Thank guy. For those who give me some conform on my misfortune. Yes, I agreed , I am dumb and a fool for trusting this guy. But as I said we have know each other for 3 years and I thought I can trust him. That the problem when you are living in a country that condem homosexuality as a crime. You are exposing yourself to all kind of criminal attention and the law doenst protect you .

    This is not the first times I become the victim. Earlier another straight men (that hang around in gay pick up areas), threating to expose me to the police unless I give him money. I have also heavily bribe some policemen after I was arrested with my pant down with another guy in some dark public park (I have just start work then, and cant afford a hotel room)

    Probably, now you guys can understand how lucky you are to live in a country where homosexuality are accepted.

    jprunner.

    Why are you keep reading my post if it bother you so much. I have been here nearly two years. I have make wonderful friendship with some of RJ member. I have post thousands of posting in this forum. It the only place I can be an open gay men sharing my thought and emotion with fellow gay men. I hardly use any written English where I live. Nobody here complaint beside you. Who are you, trying to get me banned from RJ.

    The next time you saw my post, do me a favor will you. Just ignore it.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 22, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    When I make a police report. All I can say, is I misplace or somebody pickpocket me. I even lied to my own sister, how it happened. I just cant risk exposing myself as a gay men.

    One more GLARING example of why someone shouldn't be in the closet
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    Sep 22, 2009 10:54 PM GMT
    GQjock saidWhen I make a police report. All I can say, is I misplace or somebody pickpocket me. I even lied to my own sister, how it happened. I just cant risk exposing myself as a gay men.

    One more GLARING example of why someone shouldn't be in the closet
    .....


    read this whole thread.

    he's in the closet because there's a guy with a sawed off shotgun waiting for him to open the fucking door.
  • zakariahzol

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    Sep 22, 2009 11:11 PM GMT
    CQ,

    How about you and I exchange our citizenship? You live in a country where homosexuality is norm. You can walk the street , carrying banner demanding equal right for gay to get married something unthinkable where I live). You dont get prosecuted by law for committing sodomy or unnatural sexual act between two men, carry a maximun penalty of 20years in prison with 20 stroke of flogging. (in Iran and Saudi Arabia is death penalty). You not going to have you name humiliated in some newspaper/tabloid if your are presented in court.
    You dont have people left and right telling you, a homosexual are scumbag, crazy sicko, gonna be burn in hell , a sign of the coming doomsday and all kind of horibble name.

    You have no idea how difficult it is to be born gay in a country like mine.
    To be a dead men are a better option , than to be an open gay men in this country.