I need some Christmas cheer

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 12, 2007 6:33 PM GMT
    This year due to circumstances beyond our control, my partner will not be here with me, and I'm very upset about this. I miss him like crazy. So I need cheering up. It will be June before I see him againicon_cry.gif

    I cant get into the Christmas spirit and I need your help.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 12, 2007 6:43 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear your partner will not be there with you this year. I can imagine that is very difficult.
    However, I would suggest the following: Spend the time with family or friends and all the while do some of your own soul searching. Think about how blessed you are (and you are) to be Mike. You have a partner in your life who you love and trust. You are a talented guy with a great deal on the ball. We all need to take some time and tally all the important things we value and appreciate who we are as individuals.

    Don't think of this Christmas as being a dud, but a different type of Christmas... and you might even do something (which you wouldn't otherwise) that will make you feel enriched and proud. And look forward to 2008 and when you will be reunited with Phil.

    Hope this helps. Merry Christmas, Mike!

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    Dec 12, 2007 6:44 PM GMT
    For me holidays doesn't mean anything anymore ..
    I guess all you can do is spend the christmas with your best friends .. it's nice to have them around you I'm sure they'll get you into the spirit...good luck!
    Oh and don't forget .. we, the RJ guys, are always here for you and for each other icon_wink.gif

    merry chrismas! ( I can dress up like Santa to cheer you up if you want) ..icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 12, 2007 7:08 PM GMT
    Mike... I'll do a little song and dance for ya buddy!

    Haul out the holly;
    Put up the tree before
    My spirit falls again.
    Fill up the stockings,
    I may be rushing things,
    But deck the halls again now.
    For we need a little Christmas
    Right this very minute,
    Candles in the window,
    Carols at the spinet.
    Yes, we need a little Christmas
    Right this very minute.
    It hasn't snowed a single flurry,
    But Santa, dear, we're in a hurry;
    So climb down the chimney;
    Turn on the brightest string of lights
    I've ever seen.
    Slice up the fruitcake;
    It's time we hung some tinsel
    On that evergreen bough.
    For I've grown a little leaner,
    Grown a little colder,
    Grown a little sadder,
    Grown a little older,
    And I need a little angel
    Sitting on my shoulder,
    Need a little Christmas now.

    For we need a little music,
    Need a little laughter,
    Need a little singing
    Ringing through the rafter,
    And we need a little snappy
    "Happy ever after"
    Need a little Christmas now.
    We need a little Christmas now!
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    Dec 12, 2007 7:41 PM GMT
    HEy Phil,

    You sound like me. My Partner will be out of town for xmas also. Well I hope you didn't write off all your friends living in boyfriend world. Now it's time to give all thos single friends a call. Start going out again. He was gonna last xmas also. I just called up my best girl and we went clubbing. Going out on xmas night was fun.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 12, 2007 8:16 PM GMT
    Thanks Chris. My partners name is Alexisicon_smile.gif

    Thanks GHoSTa, you can dress as Santa so long as you have a pressie's for meicon_smile.gif

    Thanks Rocco, the song made me laugh, not sure about the dance, you'll have to send me the videoicon_smile.gif

    Dreamdrop, the name's Mikeicon_smile.gif I'm going to a Christmas party on Saturday, so I guess that's a start.

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    Dec 12, 2007 11:06 PM GMT
    I know exactly what you are going through; my partner is gone until April. Being apart sure makes it tough to get into the spirit! Try to find a way to be happy; I realized today that my glum attitude was making my partner sad! icon_sad.gif So buck up! icon_smile.gif
    I will if you will....
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    Dec 12, 2007 11:08 PM GMT
    Rocco IS Mame...
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    Dec 13, 2007 1:44 AM GMT
    So Mike... Nobody should ever be alone for the holidays especially without joy. So first I offer up tons of joy and cheer. With that, pass it on to someone else. I've always figured if I had to be alone without my kids even on Christmas I would just volunteer at a shelter for the night. Or another great thing to do would be to cook and bake all night long and then take all your treats around to friends or strangers. Sharing a little homemade goodness along with a smile.

    And tell you what, stay tuned in here and we'll all offer up tons of greetings.

    My only bit of advice would be to make sure that you don't stay at home alone drinking. It can make things worse.

    All the best for the holiday and if you decide that you'd reather just come here so you're not alone, we'll open the door for you here in Scottsdale, AZ where I'm sure the temps will be in the 70's and we'll probably be hanging by the pool.

    Peace to you. You really seem like a great guy.

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    Dec 13, 2007 2:27 AM GMT
    First of all..HAPPY HOLDIAYS to uicon_biggrin.gif...I know it sucks the you're not with your partner for the holidays but look at it this way...at least you have a partner to miss and he probably misses you just as much if not more. That's not something many people have so you my friend are pretty lucky. Surround yourself with friends and family, maybe volunteer at a local shelter or something and feel good about that fact that you helped to make someone elses holiday alot better (nothing beats helping out those who need it...trust me)..i think the best way to get holiday cheer is to selflessly spread it...you end up gettina back ALOT more than u put in
  • sandiegovince

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    Dec 13, 2007 2:41 AM GMT
    Happy Holidays MikePhil!

    First off, be thankful for what you have. Obviously, you have a partner whom you love very much and I assume he shares the same feeling. Some of us are still searching for Mr. Right. Maybe I'll put that on my "wants" list to Santa this year.

    Anyway, I concur with the rest of the RJ Guys. Don't sit at home feeling sorry for yourself. Get involved in some Holiday activities. Get your friends together and throw a big Christmas bash or go Christmas caroling. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, hospital or cook and deliver meals to those who are unable to get out. Bake cookies or quick breads for your friends and neighbors.Have a big cookie exchange party! If you have family, can you pay them a visit?
    Do stuff you've always wanted to do but never ever get around to doing them. Read those books you've always wanted to read, or catch up on all those movies or clean out that closet and get a last tax deduction. But by all means, DO NOT drown you sorrows in the bottle. After spending a week on jury duty involving a DUI case with a fatality, alcohol is not the answer to anything.
  • Squarejaw

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    Dec 13, 2007 2:44 AM GMT
    Christmas cheer plants the absent partner in a tag. Each mechanism stumbles inside an air philosopher. The bound anguish fishes above the absent partner. Christmas cheer differentiates the absent partner with any heaviest realm. Why does the absent partner tear within his eaten plastic? The ruled diameter recognizes the absent partner inside the buried pope.

    [courtesy of the random paragraph generator, my new best friend]
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    Dec 13, 2007 3:53 AM GMT
    Squarejaw: "...Christmas cheer plants the absent partner in a tag..."

    Random paragraph generator or not, that line has a deep meaning, seriously. Without seeming to ask for a context of how MikePhil's partner could be gone for six months, the sentence says Mike's Christmas cheer means he will be enjoying himself, and that will get his partner's notice, either engendering jealousy or melancholoy too, enough to make him want to give something back to Mike for being absent.


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    Dec 13, 2007 6:38 AM GMT
    Maybe visit a nursing home and give yourself (and a small token) to someone who has less family than you this year? A change in perspective might be just right that day.

    Just a suggestion. Sorry it didn't work out perfectly this year bud.
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    Dec 13, 2007 6:48 AM GMT
    Good idea Rugger! I agree.....as a pre-med student, it's this time of year I think about why I want to be a medical student and most of the time it's because I want to help people with less than me... you'd be amazed at how much better you'll feel if you help others.
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    Dec 13, 2007 10:35 AM GMT
    mikephil, i don't have a partner at the moment. but don't worry i'm not exactly weeping into my beer about it. quite enjoying being single actually. but who am i going to kiss at midnite in the 31st? so if you're freeicon_wink.gif

    anyway back to you. you have all your friends here at realjock to warm the cockles of your heart and keep you snug and toasty at this chilly round the willy time of year!icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 13, 2007 12:27 PM GMT
    "Each mechanism stumbles inside an air philosopher"

    Duuuuuude.....pass the bong......
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    Dec 13, 2007 1:00 PM GMT
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    I was alone for many, too many, holidays too. I found that the best way to celebrate them for me was to invite every single person I knew who also might be alone - or even just a couple who were alone together, to a huge FEAST.

    Cook up a STORM; Organize a Pot-Luck while you prepare the Ham or Turkey; or have it catered: whatever. It doesn't matter how small your space is - people will not care. I once lived in a VERY SMALL studio (~ 5-600sq ft) and had 40+ people over for a pot luck buffet that lasted until dawn - which some people still tell me was the best party I ever gave. ALL I did was decorate a bit. cook a big ham & a huge turkey, supplied the plastic supplies (plates, napkins, glasses, KFS, etc), and supplied the first couple cases of beer and several boxes of wine.

    Put on a mix of good party tunes and holiday music.

    Make a long evening out of cocktails, diner, and a long evening of quiet partying... as long as you give them an excuse people will have a good time.

    No, it won't replace your partner, but it WILL keep you busy, and you might find you are comforted by friends, and even having a good time yourself.

    As always, the best way to help yourself is to take care of others, help others enjoy themselves.

    Ecc. 8:15 : "Then I commended mirth, because a man hath no better thing under the sun, than to eat, and to drink, and to be merry: for that shall abide with him of his labour the days of his life, which God giveth him under the sun... " - 'the Preacher'


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    Dec 13, 2007 2:47 PM GMT
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 13, 2007 10:15 PM GMT
    Thanks Mcgay, but Ní Ólaimicon_wink.gif Bet ya don't know what that meansicon_smile.gif

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 13, 2007 10:22 PM GMT
    Squarejaw, What's all that about?

    John has explained some (or is that it all)?

    Can you explain it is simple English pleaseicon_smile.gif

    Anyway, thanks to everyone. I'm finding it very tough, but you are all helping.

  • Squarejaw

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    Dec 13, 2007 11:46 PM GMT
    mike, that was just nonsense created by a web page called "random paragraph generator."
    People are having fun reading their own meaning into it. It's pretty evocative, I have to say.
  • Jase71

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    Dec 14, 2007 12:07 AM GMT
    I know what you mean. My man of interest will be spending it with his family, in Italy. I will get to see him earlier maybe in January but defiantly in February.

    If you find some cheer let me know...
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    Dec 14, 2007 12:14 AM GMT
    Yes, Squarejaw....but was it REALLY NONSENSE?

    I sense profundity lurking.


    Your Christmas disclaimer was hilarious.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 14, 2007 12:29 AM GMT
    OMG Squarejaw, I feel so embarrassedicon_redface.gif When I read it, I thought it was just nonsense, but then John explained it, and put such effort into it, that I thought it had to mean somethingicon_redface.gif

    And there was me thinking I needed a PHD to work it all outicon_lol.gif

    Jase, I'll let you know.