Ryan_Andrew saidI dont care how straight acting or "masculine" any gay guy says he is... the woman in all of them comes out and snaps her finger at the right moment. ... I think we all want our guy to act like a be a guy but its okay at a certian time and place to let loose.
How wise you are, IMHO! I wonder if being gay isn't all about options: we can be anything we want.
I can be so butch I make Georgia Bubbas jealous. Yet I can dress up in drag and cavort all over a stage. So can lots of masculine gay guys I know.
I HATE labels & stereotypes. I do what I choose, and for myself I am always a man, never a faux woman, but I still do a bit a silly dress-up for a giggle. I know gay effeminate men, who revel in drag, and they are also my friends.
The damn thing is, I love PEOPLE, in every shape & form. I love women, I love men, I love every variation there is (except for psychotic criminal types).
My partner is the same way, and our friends include straights, and lesbians, and gays, and bi's, and everyone. Last night we went to the opening of a tiny little cafe owned by a lesbian couple, and we had a $100+ custom-made floral arrangement delivered a few hours before we arrived.
Why not? They are family, and we wish them the best. They tried to give us our meal for free, and we refused. We have more money than we know what to do with, and they are just starting out, so we insisted on a proper check.
This is what our gay community is all about here, we are not exceptional or praiseworthy. My hope is that some day enclaves like ours will exist all over the US, and maybe beyond our shores. And then all of us can "let loose" when we wish.