Okay, what does it mean when. . .

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    Sep 27, 2009 2:25 AM GMT
    A cute guy who initiated conversation at the gym and is friendly and (it turns out) gay. . . yet puts up a wall when you try to get to know him better. . .

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    Sep 27, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    Check your breath

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    Sep 27, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
    Maybe he was just being friendly?

    When a guy at the gym (or where ever) is friendly to me, I don't assume he wants to hook-up.

    What exactly did you do/say to try to get to know him better?
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    xrichx saidMaybe he was just being friendly?

    When a guy at the gym (or where ever) is friendly to me, I don't assume he wants to hook-up.

    What exactly did you do/say to try to get to know him better?



    Well, I'm not totally sure, but I think he was being more than friendly, because he went out of his way to come over to say hi and has that look on his face. . . y'know, that look that suggests it's more than friendly

    And I've made general convo to get to know him better but getting nowhere

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    Sep 27, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    Maybe he wasn't looking for a conversation? Maybe he was looking for a quick pick-up?
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:49 AM GMT


    Move at his speed! He could just be shy.
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:51 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidMaybe he wasn't looking for a conversation? Maybe he was looking for a quick pick-up?



    Well, it's hard to tell, but I don't think so. . . don't think that's what he wanted
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:52 AM GMT
    Hillie said

    Move at his speed! He could just be shy.



    I tried that for a long time. . . but it's been a couple months now
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
    Maybe he's just disappointed...

    He didn
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    Maybe talk about mutual intrests and try to make a date of doing something w/out the pretense of a date. This way your not expecting anything other than the company of a new friendship. Your conversation should flow easy as you have a common intrest in whatever your doing. Just make sure it's something your both intrested in. Most of all have fun!
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    Sep 27, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    Mmm does he go in the steam room at all?
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    Sep 27, 2009 3:22 AM GMT
    He's just not that into you.
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    Sep 27, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    LittleDudeWithMuscles said
    Well, I'm not totally sure, but I think he was being more than friendly, because he went out of his way to come over to say hi and has that look on his face. . . y'know, that look that suggests it's more than friendly

    And I've made general convo to get to know him better but getting nowhere

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    Hmm.. I retract my previous reply. I think he wanted you to ask him out. It's possible that he wants to get to know you too.. but outside of the gym.

    You should suggest something casual. Maybe grab a coffee or a smoothie after the gym. If he opens up and seems into it, then suggest a date for later that night or sometime during the week.

    Or I could be totally wrong, and he just didn't like your breath, like Caslon said. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 27, 2009 3:30 AM GMT
    silkrock saidMmm does he go in the steam room at all?


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    Sep 27, 2009 3:48 AM GMT

    It means a hotter guy was standing right in front of you. WTF! Move stretch, lol. icon_razz.gif

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  • Webster666

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    Sep 27, 2009 6:53 AM GMT
    Perhaps he has changed his mind.
    Give him some distance, concentrate on your workout, instead of him, and see what happens. Shrug.
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    Sep 27, 2009 7:08 AM GMT
    It means what started out as something friendly has turned less then friendly.

    Do not blame yourself for wanting to get to know this person before anything happened. you did nothing wrong. It could be that the guy just wanted to reach out and be nice or maybe he things he might be out of his league with such a hot guy like you.

    In any case I say continue just being a friend and look else where since this guy is obviously showing you no interest.
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    Sep 27, 2009 7:54 AM GMT
    maybe he just wants to fuck and doesn't care what your favorite color is.
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    Sep 27, 2009 9:09 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidMaybe he wasn't looking for a conversation? Maybe he was looking for a quick pick-up?


    ... annnnnddddddd there's the potential answer.
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    Sep 27, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    LittleDudeWithMuscles saidA cute guy who initiated conversation at the gym and is friendly and (it turns out) gay. . . yet puts up a wall when you try to get to know him better. . .

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    That means you need to spend your time working on things more productive. Don't waste time on messed up folks. There's nearly 8 BILLION folks in the world. Spend your time on the ones that aren't messed up.

    The gym is to workout; not a pickup joint. Stay with the program.
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    Sep 27, 2009 6:36 PM GMT
    LittleDudeWithMuscles said

    it's been a couple months now



    Dude.....he's just not that into you. Let it go.
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    Sep 27, 2009 6:44 PM GMT
    Play 'hard to get' because you SHOULD be! Let him make an overture; at that point you'll either be into him or tired of his stuff.
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    Sep 27, 2009 7:27 PM GMT
    A. He only wants to get his workout done
    B. Yeah he's gay, but he's not interested in you for one reason or another.
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    Sep 27, 2009 7:37 PM GMT
    LittleDudeWithMuscles saidA cute guy who initiated conversation at the gym and is friendly and (it turns out) gay. . . yet puts up a wall when you try to get to know him better. . .

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    jprichva saidIt means he's another damaged case.


    Uh-oh. This sounds an awful lot like me.
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    Sep 27, 2009 8:51 PM GMT

    Holyshit, one of my favorite screen names to date above! LMAO! icon_surprised.gif