Halfstep saidI think you never know which way relationship will go in the beginning. I think whereas having someone start off charming, and energetic and hopeful is incredibly uplifting, sometimes its better to invest time in those people who don't seem like they're planning your future out before they even truly know you.
I knew guys like that back when I was single. And they'd be so into me, they'd be handsome, attractive, young at heart yet successful and responsible. And when I think back on what all these people had in common, they were the ones that suddenly for some reason they just dissapeared or found some really stupid reason to break things off, they were the ones that supposedly couldn't wait to settle down, wanted to take me to places I'd never been, just those ones that painted an extremely vivid picture that now when I think back on it was being said way too soon to actually be true.
I've read some of your post and seen some of your pics. You seem like a great guy. What I learned was that those guys, though they had wasted some of my time, had done me a favor by finally calling things quit. Whereas sometimes it helps to get that feedback on what went wrong, it would truly be a waste of your time. I think just look at it as them giving you a chance to go find someone who's truly right for you.
When I met my boyfriend, before I would even give him the time of day, he taught me something really important. If someones really into you, they don't need to paint grand pictures in your head. They put their money where they mouth is and you couldn't shake them off you wanted to. Just remain patient and keep thoughts traits of yours that make you you. At some point you'll find something.
RIght on, 1/2 Step.. light and progress be upon you (and your mate whomever he is for setting an example)
Most guys like to talk a good game and promise you the world, however very few come even close. It's one thing to say it, and it's one thing to bring it.
To anyone (not just those whom you're interested in) who you come in contact with, pay attention to their actions (or lack thereof). They'll tell you everything you need to know.
And try not to feel too bad. Most of the time it has nothing to do with you as much as it does with their lack of accountability, consistency and overall ability to follow through. Consider it a blessing that they disappear. That's 1 less flake to deal with. I've just recently learned that lesson and it's worked WONDERS!!
MC Lyte definitely had it right with this one..