altair89 saidthat's absurd. I am a masculine gay, and I work with a feminine gay guy every summer. I choose not to be around him not b/c he is a feminine gay but for the sole purpose that is fucking obnoxious and bugs the shit out of me. whereas one of my closest friends is a feminine gay, and have no problem walking down the street next to him. maybe part of the problem is that you're making an issue out of it when maybe some people judge by how they feel about the person as a whole, not how they feel about them as a "masculine" or "feminine" gay.
Its how the person acts and not weather he is masculine or feminine. I have friends and acquaintences who arguably can be called a bit feminine but they are fun, respectful ad I enjoy their company a lot. Then there are the guys who are fem, always talking loudly and outrageously, incapable of having a spirited intelligent conversation, everybody is called "she", they get insulted and pissed too easily........bascially thy get on my gay nerves real fast.
Conversely, there are masculine guys who are my friends. But then there are other gay masculine guys who are clinging so damn hard to that image of masulinity that they basically are assholes that have lost all their sponteneity and assumed identities that are so laughale. They don't mingle with anyone they may not be up to their standards of masculinity. Their masculinity seems so unatural and forced.
I'm one of those gay guys that can easily be assumed to be straight. In fact, sometimes at gay clubs, a gay guy will approach me and ask me if I am straight and "experimenting"......offering to be my "muse" and show me the ropes...LOL. Straight women is gay bars sometimes think I am straight and hit on me. At the same time, its very liberating to be able to flirt with a fem guy and have a few laughs. I'm just myself.
Maculine or fem......if you are kind, considerate, intuative and a nice person, you are fine.