Self perceiptions

  • Fritter

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    Sep 28, 2009 12:25 PM GMT
    I was just wondering if this happens to anyone else. One day I can look in the mirror and see Arnold Schwarzennegger, and the very next day I look in the mirror and see Rosanne Arnold. Anyone else have a yo-yo self perceiption on their progress?
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    Sep 28, 2009 2:12 PM GMT
    Yeah it all kind of depends on my mood. Like one day I'll be looking in mirror and saying out loud: "damn I look hot"

    And then another day I'll look in it and just feel awful like I gotta increase my intensity or something.

    Being a bottom/verse, and this is going to sound funny, I'm much more worried about my ass sometimes than I am the rest of my body. I'll look at it and feel it and think its just not as firm as it was the other day.

    My boyfriend will laugh and say I look exactly the same as I did the other day and that its all in my mind.

    And I know he's right, but it doesn't stop me from feeling it though.
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    Sep 28, 2009 2:52 PM GMT
    There is no spoon.

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    Sep 28, 2009 3:01 PM GMT
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  • bmw0

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    Sep 28, 2009 3:34 PM GMT
    We are our own worst critics. The truth is out bodys can change daily. Depending on what we eat, what we season our food with what we drink and a lot of other variables. In our minds i think its just worse than it truly is. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 28, 2009 3:39 PM GMT


    lol, Fritter, Phoebe Snow knows just what you're talking about (and so do we)!

    Here, we'll let her explain it:




  • GQjock

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    Sep 28, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    [b]Aaaaahh[/b] icon_biggrin.gif I love the smell of Body Dysmorhism in the morning
  • Fritter

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    Sep 28, 2009 6:00 PM GMT
    The day to day change in perceiption dosen't really send me into a tailspin of dispair. I thought it was just interesting that our perceipions can change so drastically. I'm glad I'm not alone on this though. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 28, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    nah I rock icon_wink.gif
  • JP85257

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    Sep 28, 2009 6:46 PM GMT
    I have lots of problems with self-doubt. Thats my issue.
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    Sep 28, 2009 7:15 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidI have lots of problems with self-doubt...


    How do you know?

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    Sep 28, 2009 7:34 PM GMT
    i know exactly what you mean...right after a haircut i see myself as tyson beckford and my confidence lvel is through the roof and as soon as my hair grows back i feel like the ugliest thing on this planet......self-consciousness at its best...the struggle to look good on a daily basis....because of society's ideology of what attractiveness is....wreaks havoc on ones self esteem.
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    Sep 28, 2009 7:38 PM GMT
    i've never seen rosanne arnold. and if i were to ever see her... well i would instantly put myself out of my misery.


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    Sep 28, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    I think it is the result of how you feel inside. You may feel bloated or physically tired or you may be feeling anxious about something in life. For me, exercsing and working out, being active and playing some kind of sport makes me feel good and when I feel good I think I look good.

    If I do see Rosanne in my mirror from time to time, I recognize it for what it is and don't make it bother me because its all in my head.
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    Sep 28, 2009 7:57 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you saidi've never seen rosanne arnold. and if i were to ever see her... well i would instantly put myself out of my misery.




    Nah! don't do that just go to Brazil get butt implants. Than at 25 after you jointed the rest of the First Alert group ( help it has fallen and can't get up ) you will still have a perky butt......oh and good self esteem!
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    Sep 28, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    When I pose in front of the bathroom mirror, I think "Holy cow, I'm hot!"

    When I walk by a mirror in the mall or something, I think ""Holy cow, not hot!"
  • jrs1

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    Sep 28, 2009 8:02 PM GMT


    I used to ... but then I started focusing my interests more outwardly.
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    Sep 28, 2009 8:04 PM GMT
    You have bad days?.....Really? (JK)

    I have good and bad days but never that drastic
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    Sep 28, 2009 8:11 PM GMT
    Roccoe said
    Blackguy4you saidi've never seen rosanne arnold. and if i were to ever see her... well i would instantly put myself out of my misery.




    Nah! don't do that just go to Brazil get butt implants. Than at 25 after you jointed the rest of the First Alert group ( help it has fallen and can't get up ) you will still have a perky butt......oh and good self esteem!


    ok i'm down for going to brazil, but only if you come along and hold my hand.
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    Sep 28, 2009 11:10 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you said
    Roccoe said
    Blackguy4you saidi've never seen rosanne arnold. and if i were to ever see her... well i would instantly put myself out of my misery.




    Nah! don't do that just go to Brazil get butt implants. Than at 25 after you jointed the rest of the First Alert group ( help it has fallen and can't get up ) you will still have a perky butt......oh and good self esteem!


    ok i'm down for going to brazil, but only if you come along and hold my hand.


    Hey maybe we can get a whole group to go! I bet many more need perky butts.icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2009 11:22 PM GMT
    Roccoe said
    Blackguy4you said
    Roccoe said
    Blackguy4you saidi've never seen rosanne arnold. and if i were to ever see her... well i would instantly put myself out of my misery.




    Nah! don't do that just go to Brazil get butt implants. Than at 25 after you jointed the rest of the First Alert group ( help it has fallen and can't get up ) you will still have a perky butt......oh and good self esteem!


    ok i'm down for going to brazil, but only if you come along and hold my hand.


    Hey maybe we can get a whole group to go! I bet many more need perky butts.icon_cool.gif


    I would go along to accompany you guys. but in terms of needing a perky butt now for myself...hmmmmmmm i think i'm good for the next 25 years or so.

    howevr if we are talking about needing a perky butt on someone else to munch on ... well it's more a want than a need and i'm down for that as well ..... icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 29, 2009 3:49 AM GMT
    I tend to get disheartened if I look at parts of myself, but when I take in the whole of me, I'm usually ok with what I see.

    Oh, and having now looked at the pictures in your profile, I think you need to find two new extremes with which to torture yourself. I didn't see that much of Arnold Schwarzennegger (which is no bad thing in my book) and I certainly didn't see Rosanne Arnold. I can say this though: I certainly like what I saw. Carry on...
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    Sep 29, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    I'm currently doing research for one of my psychology professors on Body Dysmorphic Disorder....very interesting how some people see themselves..
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    Sep 29, 2009 10:11 AM GMT


    Oh, and having now looked at the pictures in your profile, I think you need to find two new extremes with which to torture yourself. I didn't see that much of Arnold Schwarzennegger (which is no bad thing in my book) and I certainly didn't see Rosanne Arnold. I can say this though: I certainly like what I saw. Carry on...[/quote]

    Aw shucks, I'm blushing.icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 29, 2009 11:04 AM GMT
    surferdude1101 saidI'm currently doing research for one of my psychology professors on Body Dysmorphic Disorder....very interesting how some people see themselves..

    I should offer myself as a study subject. Here's 2 things about my self-perception that have always puzzled me:

    My mirror reflection looks totally different to me, and much slimmer and better, than my photograph. It's been that way since I was a teenager, and never varies. It seems as though my mind somehow morphs my reflected image into a younger me, while a photograph shows the current and less flattering reality of an old, overweight guy.

    Second, a story I've mentioned here before. I've always believed my wrists are spindly, like a really old lady's. I believed my late partner had very thick wrists, very powerful & strong looking.

    One evening I wanted a gold dress watch to wear, but I think the battery in mine had failed or something since the last time I had worn it. So I asked if I could borrow one of his, saying to him I hoped I could make the band fit, my wrists being so much smaller than his.

    Instead, his watch was entirely too small for my wrist! I couldn't wear it! I asked him if he had worn it recently, and he said yes, and put it on right in front of me. It fit him perfectly, with adjustment to spare.

    I took the watch back, and it still didn't fit me, and I made him go through that drill several times, I was so confused. I even had us compare our wrists side-by-side, and his wrist STILL looked much bigger to me than mine. He said he thought they looked about the same. It was like one of those optical illusions, that asks which line is longer, and so forth.

    And my wrists still look spindly to me today, and I still usually have to buy larger than average wristwatch bands. It really amazes me.