Profiles with NO Info - Cool or not?

  • allamericantx

    Posts: 140

    May 05, 2007 2:01 AM GMT
    I've enjoyed the incredible dialogue and discussions on here that I've never had anywhere else online, and I really love this site. One thing that I don't like however is the number of profiles with little or NO info accompanied by NO photo.

    Visiting a "gay" site and having a profile on here doesn't bother me in the least. What does bother me is that in many cases, being "open" seems to be one-sided. A number of us put a lot of details on our pages and our photos to go along with it. Then, you've got the "no profile" profiles. I'm talking profiles with NOTHING. Not even hidden pictures that can be unlocked.

    I used to think people had reasons to do that, now it just seems like it's a cowardly approach to "having your cake and eating it too". Have you seen the number of people with no info/photos? A lot! Everyone else puts it all out there, and then you have the "takers" who don't show the same respect in return.

    Question: How do you feel about the "no profile" profiles?
  • dfrourke

    Posts: 1062

    May 05, 2007 2:04 AM GMT
    ...not sure it is so much of a question of "cool or not" as "useful or not"...

    - David
  • allamericantx

    Posts: 140

    May 05, 2007 2:08 AM GMT
    Ok, David, how about "fair or not" - however you want to say it, you get the drift. One sided. One is able to have access to other's info while the 'others' aren't allowed the same in return.

    Fair or not?
  • dfrourke

    Posts: 1062

    May 05, 2007 2:21 AM GMT
    ...I don't find a question of fairness either...

    ...this is a site people choose to participate can put any thing you wish in your profile...and even if someone fills out their profile doesn't mean the information is truthful...

    ...if you don't fill out your profile...I interpret that in many ways: your here for a "quickie" and can't be bothered to fill out the extraneous are closeted and don't feel safe divulging the information...OR...your boyfriend may find your profile and dump your ass...

    ...I don't find those type of profiles particularly useful to my reasons for being on this site...but I can't judge whether it is cool or fair if I don't know the reasoning behind it...I can only choose to entertain those people...which I don't...

    - David
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    May 05, 2007 9:51 AM GMT
    All American TEX,

    To each his own! If you find a profile that is not to your stanards - just move on.

    Just like some guys answer your messages and some don't. I am sure you either know or have come across some of these guys?
  • duglyduckling

    Posts: 279

    May 06, 2007 4:39 AM GMT
    people should fill out as much as possible in their profiles or risk getting deleted.

    but then at the same time, there is no guarantee that the information provided is accurate in any way.

    such is the internet unfortunately... for me, I just ignore those who don't have any info or pictures.

    the argument that one is afraid of being outed at work or in society is not valid, cause who else other than other gay folks would come to a site like this? I'm not out at work (since it's a very conservative and old school company), but I have no issues with putting my picture here, cause afterall, no 100% straight guy would ever venture into a site like this.
  • atxclimber

    Posts: 480

    May 06, 2007 6:08 AM GMT
    One thing I'm specifically not a fan of on RealJock is this apparent ability to hide profiles or whatever. I've gotten a handful of notifications that so-and-so added me to his hot list or whatever, and I click on his profile and it's all "I'M SORRY THIS PROFILE IS CURRENTLY INACTIVE OR HIDDEN." That's not cool. If you hide your profile, I think it should put you in lurk-mode -- nobody receives any notifications about anything you do, you can't post to forums, etc.
  • OptimusMatt

    Posts: 1124

    May 06, 2007 6:59 AM GMT
    Facebook...I expect info. People I don't know basically stay off my friend list on that network. There are a few exceptions where I've met people online and have actually become extremely good friends with in real life...but they are exceptions.

    Realjock...I came onto this site for the info. Lol, to be completely honest, since I started coming here and following some of the advice I've read from other members and largely from the actual nutrition articles published by realjock, I've dropped 8% of my bodyfat in about 1.5 months. I've quit smoking, I'm exercising every day. I'm getting my old life as a hot jock back after years of neglect. I walked into the bar last night and spent the entire night being ogled by every homo in the place.
    I attribute that to everyone I've encountered on this website.
    It pushed me to change, and there's one specific person on here who actually inspired me to get started on one of my dreams. Lmao, all he really did was talk to me about...well, nothing, really, lol.

    Which brings me to the point I'm trying to make. Yeah, it's a little one-sided...but who the f*ck cares? I am who I am - open, honest, no bullshit, no drama kind of guy. I love life, I like people, and I like having conversations. Even if someone's lieing through their teeth, something they say could be the next thing that pushes me towards my goals.

    Christ, an episode of SAILOR MOON did it for me ( roflmao, don't judge me! >< )

    Ha ha

    profile or no, it doesn't matter. It's not like I'm ever going to meet any of you. And basically, that applies to most of the people on this website. It truly makes no difference whether you have a profile or not...but it IS a bonus. I like reading about people, and I always read the profile before I start talking to someone, out of respect for them. If they were willing to spend the time to put that info there...I'd better be willing to read it before I talk to them.

    Now that I think about it, THAT'S a deal-breaker. Don't message me if you haven't read my profile. I don't care what you put in yours, but I wrote what I did for a reason. Nothing infuriates me more than being asked questions I've already provided answers to.
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    May 06, 2007 8:27 AM GMT
    What's the drama? Just skip past the profiles that don't accomodate your needs and be done with it.
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    May 06, 2007 11:46 AM GMT
    I dont respond to people with little to no information on their profile. They could be posers. I have received a few emails and IM's from a good amount of people with these types of profiles. Some want me to do something on Cam. Nothing gets done on my end. I tell them to update their profile and add some pictures.
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    May 06, 2007 12:04 PM GMT
    ATX: That is another place I have encountered a frequent glitch here. If you log off, log back on and then click on the "hidden" profile name, it often appears.
  • GQjock

    Posts: 11648

    May 06, 2007 11:56 PM GMT
    I don't respond to hidden profiles or profiles without pictures
    I make like they don't exist
    part of having a site like this is basically meeting other guys ... be it only online most of the time but a pic with info is part of the process
  • atxclimber

    Posts: 480

    May 07, 2007 12:04 AM GMT
    obscene: Whoa, you're right. I've never tried that before. The login mechanism on this site does seem kinda busted (the random and frequent logouts have been discussed on another thread -- but this seems like a new issue, too); hopefully the new beta gets it better (fingers crossed!)
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    May 07, 2007 1:49 AM GMT
    They are sort of lame. no pic ones are just pathetic.
  • Kharlo109

    Posts: 164

    May 11, 2007 7:20 PM GMT
    Meh. I'm the oppesate. I'm the kind of person that writes TOO much crap on his profiles. You should my's litered with all kinds of information :p.

    I find it interesting when someone writes something meaningful in their profile though :).
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    May 11, 2007 7:25 PM GMT
    People usually don't seem to be much interested in what I say, so I guess I just projected that into my online profile...maybe I should revisit that...