What do you do when your dad adds you on MySpace??

  • DrewT

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    Sep 30, 2009 4:48 PM GMT
    Apologies if this has been answered before (didn't look too hard, but I did look!)

    Okay, my dad added me on facebook a couple weeks ago, and of course I added him, but I hid a lot of my profile. I am out to my family but they are very against it, and I don't really want him snooping about.

    I know MySpace is a little less privacy friendly, but is there a way to hide pictures, status updates, etc?

    I don't know if I'm being overly crazy or what. Should I just add him as is and not worry about it or go the safe route like I did with facebook. My dad's is very "Christian" for the most part.

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  • DrewT

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    Sep 30, 2009 5:00 PM GMT
    Add:

    I don't live at home, but I may have to move back with either my dad or my grandparents (his parents) if things don't go well where I currently am at.
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    Sep 30, 2009 5:12 PM GMT
    sounds nightmarish. I wouldn´t let my parents on, and I get on fine with them
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    Sep 30, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Damn bro that sucks! Id say dump myspace and get facebook lol. I would never add my parents to either of my profiles. screw that.
  • Bunjamon

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    Sep 30, 2009 6:30 PM GMT
    Both of my parents, as well as my aunts and uncles and some young cousins, can see my facebook page. My general rule is if you don't want you parents looking at it, it probably shouldn't be out there on the internet anyway. icon_cool.gif
  • KepaArg

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    Sep 30, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    Well I have my grandpa on Facebook and Mixi (The Japanese Facebook), half naked pictures and all. I just assume he´s use it with my cousins and I spending the summer half naked at his house in Tokyo because of the heat. On top that he met my BF both when he came to see me in Argentina and I took my Ex to Paris and Tokyo with us.

    But my family is non-practicing Catholic and in a sense open minded so I never had this cloud of fear/doubt about what to show or hide from my family.

    I would say hide what you can if want to add your father, or create two accounts . I have a few friends who have really strict Italian like family families and have two Facebooks one with their true self, and the other basically for work and family.
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    Sep 30, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidBoth of my parents, as well as my aunts and uncles and some young cousins, can see my facebook page. My general rule is if you don't want you parents looking at it, it probably shouldn't be out there on the internet anyway. icon_cool.gif


    They are on RJ too?
  • Mepark

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    Sep 30, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    "I would totally confirm."

    -Jessica Pierson, Sorority Row.
  • Celticmusl

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    Sep 30, 2009 6:39 PM GMT
    Oh, that's too delicious, it just has to be fattening!
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    Sep 30, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    ADD HIM TO MAFIA WARS TOO!! hahaha
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    Sep 30, 2009 6:47 PM GMT
    Yeah my dad joined Facebook and 'friended' me.

    I accepted, but blocked him from my photos, status, and wall. I figure there is stuff that could pop up in there that he'd just have all sorts of 'oh no' moments. (ie. Photos from a gay cruise). Im out and he's 'ok with it'. So thats not the issue....

    However....

    when my dad became a facebook 'fan' of both Meghan Fox and "That's What She Said!" .... I had second thoughts.

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    Sep 30, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    yes you can hide your pictures....or make that album only open only for you..go into account setting..or pictures album and then select the privacy rate for each album.....and make sure all is well before you add him...and i would put him on my top friends list..
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:01 PM GMT
    I'm only friends with my sister on facebook, but she has a busy job in New Zealand so she doesn't snoop on my facebook... plus I blocked her from viewing my basic information (ie.; religious, political views... relationship... interested in, etc.).

    I'm not out to my family (it would be hell on Earth) nor the majority of my friends, only the ones that I'm close to know about me.

    I think if my parents added me on facebook I probably wouldn't add them. Mainly because if they have any questions, I'll answer them honestly (except for being gay. Beyond that is OK. ) I don't have any pictures of anything displaying me in a negative way (drinking, doing stupid things, etc)... just social pictures with my friends. and I also heard medical schools (grad/pharm/medical) look at your facebook, so I keep it clean for that day I apply. icon_mad.gif

    Plus, there really isn't a reason. If I don't call home every day, my mom will call me up and ask me why I went missing. icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:02 PM GMT
    My parents and technology do not mix, so I guess I'm lucky in that aspect.
  • jrs1

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    Sep 30, 2009 7:06 PM GMT
    my mother has a facebook and so do I ... are we fb friends? no.
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:20 PM GMT
    Modern technology, being new, often confuses us regarding behavioral norms. But I look for preexisting parallels and equivalencies, which often provide the answers. Not always, but I find them helpful to sort these things out.

    In this case of a MySpace or a FaceBook, should a parent also read your diary book? Go on your honeymoon when you get married? Read the love letters a couple exchanges, whether straight or gay? Should Dad sit in the same room while a couple is courting? (Though I know that once could happen) Should Dad go to the movies with a couple, when they're first getting to know each other, go out to dinner with them?

    Or conversely, should kids watch their parents making love in bed? (EWWWWW....)

    Parents are acting responsibly when they monitor their underage children. They are acting irresponsibly, in my opinion, when they don't know when the time has come to stop.

    We all need our adult privacy, and our space. I would never dream, and have never attempted, to intrude upon my own sister's online privacy (our parents are deceased). Why is online any different than the etiquette that has always applied among family members? You simply don't pry, period. The Father is this case needs to grow up and back off.
  • kietkat

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    Sep 30, 2009 7:40 PM GMT
    Meh... I'd say just keep all your pics up. It's YOUR profile and if your dad decides to snoop then tough shit for him. He'll get over it.
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:43 PM GMT
    the majority of the people on my Facebook and Myspace page are my family (I have a VERY big tribe). Being away from them it is great to feel connected. I have been "out" for over a decade and everyone (I assume) knows.

    Being not into calling home alot, I find it a great way to keep up with my siblings, cousins, etc.... My parents aren't on all that much but I do enjoy when the manage to post pics.

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    Sep 30, 2009 7:45 PM GMT
    My facebook page is something I choose friends for carefully. I will only add someone if I think they will be comfortable with everyone else there, or at least not judgemental or inappropriate about it.

    I have not 'friended' my own brother for this reason. I can't live my life in such a way that requires constant vigilance of how much one person is going to see or not see. It's just too tedious. I also don't have 500 friends.

    It's a small group and that velvet rope is guarded quite well.
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:47 PM GMT
    who still uses myspace?
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    Sep 30, 2009 7:56 PM GMT
    I quit using myspace when students of mine joine. Facebook is a different animal of course. I'm friends with my mom on there; my dad, being computer programmer, is anti-technology and won't join. It helps that I'm out to my family and they are very cool with it.

    At the beginning of the year, I tell my students they are free to add me as a facebook friend but they should consider adjusting their privacy settings-- do they REALLY want their teacher to see everything? I would say the same thing to my dad! Tell him you're going to adjust the privacy settings and tell him he should be grateful for it!
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    Sep 30, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    Simply_Drew saidApologies if this has been answered before (didn't look too hard, but I did look!)

    Okay, my dad added me on facebook a couple weeks ago, and of course I added him, but I hid a lot of my profile. I am out to my family but they are very against it, and I don't really want him snooping about.

    I know MySpace is a little less privacy friendly, but is there a way to hide pictures, status updates, etc?

    I don't know if I'm being overly crazy or what. Should I just add him as is and not worry about it or go the safe route like I did with facebook. My dad's is very "Christian" for the most part.

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    haha, this is kind of funny, but I realize your dillema and don't wish to make light of it, but if you were my son , I 'd add you to my facebook too. you are beautiful. I';ve dreamt many dreams of having a son who looked as cute and beautiful as you.

    I have a beautiful daughter, but no sons. I'll adopt you. lol

    Sorry I can't help you out with your dilema. Maybe somebody else can.
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    Sep 30, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidBoth of my parents, as well as my aunts and uncles and some young cousins, can see my facebook page. My general rule is if you don't want you parents looking at it, it probably shouldn't be out there on the internet anyway. icon_cool.gif


    sounds like good advice to me, but I understand his dlilema and doesn't want his parents snooping into his life, but most of the time, they know or find out anyways through the grapevine. hehe .
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    Sep 30, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    "I';ve dreamt many dreams of having a son who looked as cute and beautiful as you."

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    Sep 30, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    sxydrkhair said
    danielryan saidwho still uses myspace?
    Me... I can't stand Facebook... Annoying "What's on your mind?" on my page. People write stupid thing like "i am going outside" or "I am going to the bathroom." Why do we need this "poke" button? That is annoying too.


    I agree. I have no use for myspace or facebook. nobody needs to know when have to go piss and more important things in my life, I tell my friends personally., I don't need to tell them impersonally on the internet.