the guy in my class (really need help with this one)

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    Oct 01, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    Hey... I my english class I have this really cute guy. He sits next to me. I know him for about a month know. I really seem to like him. And there were somethings thah make me thing there's maybe hope for me he'd be gay.
    You know that right when you sit next to someone and you're like knee-on-knee. I had this with other straight guys and they just moved fast away their legs. He doesn't seem to mind. Like two weeks ago or so he just moved his leg up and down nervously when we had "knee-contact". And the other day when i greeted him in the hallway he just smiled at me reallt cute.
    The problem is that when we're at lunch with his friends (I had to change the class, that's why I'm in his now) he like ignores me. Sometimes I just don't know what to say. But then when we're alone with certain people he so nice and friendly to me. And I heard people saying he has a girlfriend for six months now.
    But about the girlfriend thing... he just could have her like a cover up or so right?
    So guys can I still have hope?
    What can I do?
    I think I really like him...
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    Oct 01, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    Oh man. What is up with this dude? Closet case? Looking to explore a fantasy? Just nervous? Who knows what seething cauldron of insecurities awaits.

    Look, something magical isn't going to happen. You have to man up here and ask the guy to hang out. Otherwise it is just going to be shaky knee contact and masturbation fantasies for you.
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    Oct 01, 2009 4:59 PM GMT
    the problem is i'm not out... I just afrait he ain't gay and i come out to him...
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    Oct 01, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    If you are not out, and you do not know whether or not this other guy is out, then you should say nothing to him, and do nothing. Because if he is not out, he may tell others, making you out, too.

    What kind of school is this? Are you in university? Many universities have clubs for gay students. Maybe it is time for you to be out, at least on campus.

    But while you continue to choose not to be out, I do not think you can approach him.
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    Oct 01, 2009 5:50 PM GMT


    one way to get to know him is to simply spend time with him on a one-to-one basis. maybe you have qualities that he likes but you are not a woman - it is not all too uncommon for straight males to love another guy but cannot get past the idea of being intimate.

    invite him over to read through poetry. invite him over to play video games. gay or straight, you need to get to know the guy.
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    Oct 01, 2009 6:13 PM GMT
    Sie sollten ihn zum Stammlokal mit Ihnen bekommen. Dann machen Sie Ihre Bewegung. Ich wette, dass er bereit ist, etwas mit Ihnen zu tun, wenn Sie ihn allein bekommen! Ich bin sicher, dass er als Hölle und bereit hornig ist zu bumsen!
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:22 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidIf you are not out, and you do not know whether or not this other guy is out, then you should say nothing to him, and do nothing. Because if he is not out, he may tell others, making you out, too.

    Respectfully, I disagree. Life is too short to be scared of making your interest known to someone who might feel the same. Yes, it's scary opening yourself up and becoming vulnerable.

    But as someone who looks back at when I was 18 and had those crushes, I wish I would have been brave enough to pursue it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    You may end up having a great boyfriend from this. Or you could end up having a great straight friend who you can be yourself with.

    The generation in college today (especially in Europe) are not at all hung up on someone being gay. It's much different than it was 20 or 30 years ago.
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    um how about just try being his friend and get to know him without all the anticipation and expectation and hopes that he may be gay. You don't have to reveal yourself to him to be a friend right?

    I say this because I have no clue about what it's like coming out at 18 in Germany. I had a similar crush on a guy that I worked with when I was your age. I came out to him and he eventually became my first bf but that was after about a month of "accidentally" touching his hand, and sending many many signals........and getting them back. I guess that's the key - Is he sending signals your way?
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    STAY AWAY FROM HIM.....you dont have any idea his hidden intentions..again..STAY AWAY FROM HIM.
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:50 PM GMT
    jkl432 saidSie sollten ihn zum Stammlokal mit Ihnen bekommen. Dann machen Sie Ihre Bewegung. Ich wette, dass er bereit ist, etwas mit Ihnen zu tun, wenn Sie ihn allein bekommen! Ich bin sicher, dass er als Hölle und bereit hornig ist zu bumsen!


    Don't bother using babelfish.
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    Hum. Based on what I've learned here in your post, I think I would forego the small talk, rip his pants off, and suck the hell out of his cock.


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  • somedaytoo

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    Oct 01, 2009 10:59 PM GMT
    Classic Boy meets Boy,
    Boy falls for Boy,
    Boy ignores Boy,

    Happened like a million times to me.
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    Oct 01, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    Dude, it's probably not gonna happen. You want hope, but at the same time, this happens to about 99% of gay guys who are closeted. You just don't know until you ask or make a move. Since you are clearly in the closet, I suggest that you just give it up...