Desire and Libido

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    Oct 01, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
    I am 50 and my sex drive seems to run in a predictable cycle. After having one or two sessions with orgasm, it takes around 3-4 days to feel horny again. I don't have any health or impotence issues, and I get as hard as a rock. I was wondering if anyone else has the same experience. It would be great to feel horny and ready to go endlessly but I just don't. Sometimes I feel like I am missing out.
  • jrs1

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    Oct 01, 2009 6:27 PM GMT


    for me my desires are tied to mental images. I get turned on by the spontaneous and the unplanned. without an image in the back of my mind, I can go for quite a while ... but with the addition of a mental stimulus, I feel as though - for all intents and purposes - my entire body is a single, stimulated nerve therefore I do not last too long. I would think that you should enjoy your libido for where it's at. no need to want for what others have when they do the same.

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    Oct 01, 2009 7:11 PM GMT
    So, that is what you are like now. What were you like ten years ago?

    Have you talked to your doctor about your sex drive?
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    Oct 01, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    Schmid993 saidI am 50 and my sex drive seems to run in a predictable cycle. After having one or two sessions with orgasm, it takes around 3-4 days to feel horny again. I don't have any health or impotence issues, and I get as hard as a rock. I was wondering if anyone else has the same experience. It would be great to feel horny and ready to go endlessly but I just don't. Sometimes I feel like I am missing out.


    It's completely normal for men's refractory period to get longer as we get older and for sex drive to wane. You could probably look up some kind of intervention, like testosterone supplementation, but that's still just delaying the inevitable. Sexual peak for a male homo sapiens is like 18. It might be an exaggeration to say "it's all downhill from there" but, well, there's a reason it's called a 'peak.' An alternative strategy to fretting and popping hormone pills would be to make peace with the realities of biology, enjoy what you still have while you have it, and try to age gracefully. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 01, 2009 10:17 PM GMT
    While there is definitely a physiological element to feeling "horny", I think that so much of what fuels your sex drive is psychological (I'm trying to avoid using the word "mental" : ) ).

    Given the proper stimulus, I bet you could feel horny more frequently, but at 50, or even younger, depending how active of a sex life you've had, the novelty of sexual encounters can just wear off. It's like, how many times can you beat-off to the same picture or scene from a porno mag or movie? Even with new sexual partners, it can start to feel like, "Been there. Done that. A nap sounds nice!" : )

    I agree with the others regarding enjoying what you have, but if you feel the "need", albeit not the "urge", to enjoy sex more often, even though you're not walking around with a permanent woody, then try adding variety and excitement to your sexual encounters (even if it is with the same person). There are plenty of books offering practical advice on how to just that-- safely and effectively.

    * Now, go out and f*ck the right thing!




    * That's paraphrasing a famous doctor, whose name I dare not speak, lest I face incessant ridicule on this gay social-networking site:
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    Oct 01, 2009 11:16 PM GMT
    Schmid993 saidI am 50 and my sex drive seems to run in a predictable cycle. After having one or two sessions with orgasm, it takes around 3-4 days to feel horny again. I don't have any health or impotence issues, and I get as hard as a rock. I was wondering if anyone else has the same experience. It would be great to feel horny and ready to go endlessly but I just don't. Sometimes I feel like I am missing out.


    Fortunately I am not yet running in a similar cycle to you. I do find that my level of stress has a greater affect on sex drive.

    What I have found as I've aged is that my sexual cycle has lengthened. In other words I remain hard for a long time before I cum, often for a longer time than younger guys who cum a couple of times rapid-fire then go soft. Not a bad deal if I am with a younger bottom.
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    Oct 01, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    Schmid993 saidI am 50 and my sex drive seems to run in a predictable cycle. After having one or two sessions with orgasm, it takes around 3-4 days to feel horny again. I don't have any health or impotence issues, and I get as hard as a rock. I was wondering if anyone else has the same experience. It would be great to feel horny and ready to go endlessly but I just don't. Sometimes I feel like I am missing out.


    Why do you want to feel horny and ready to go every minute of every day?

    At 50 have you not yet realized that there's more to life than sex?
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    Oct 02, 2009 12:51 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies guys. I appreciate your feedback. I probably sounded pretty whiny!