NYTimes: The High Price of Being a Gay Couple

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    Oct 03, 2009 7:51 AM GMT
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    http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/03/your-money/03money.html?hp
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    Oct 03, 2009 11:44 AM GMT
    ...and yet there are still gay people opposed to equal treatment for gays. They must be really rich.
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:08 PM GMT
    McGay said...and yet there are still gay people opposed to equal treatment for gays. They must be really rich.


    Yes, it is amazing. I don't think it is because they are rich, I think it is because they are really not comfortable being gay.
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:09 PM GMT
    Agreed. I was being facetious.
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:16 PM GMT
    McGay saidAgreed. I was being facetious.


    You can be facetious and time you want to be!
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:35 PM GMT
    This might motivate some fiscal conservatives who are social progressives to move their minds toward greater equality. Further, as evidence about the disparities that we face continue to mount, more and more gay people can be moved themselves to take up the cause to advocate for greater equality.

    I say this because far too often I am challenged by other gay people who do not understand (or believe) why it's important that we move to acquiring more equal status in society by having equal protection under the law and for equal laws surrounding our relationships.
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:45 PM GMT
    makes me wonder how other country,s measure up to the us
    other country,s where gay marriage is accepted and legal
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    Oct 03, 2009 12:45 PM GMT
    OMG, I just realized I know the couple featured in the photograph aside this article...wow!
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    Oct 03, 2009 3:29 PM GMT

    Hey thorn27, we're in Canada where it's 100% legal. What did you want to know? We're married.


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    Oct 03, 2009 7:06 PM GMT
    this just answered my bf's question why most gay men he know were rolling in money and so successful... not because they wanted to be... sure they did but by the looks of this you have to be to really make it and be comfortable.
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    Oct 03, 2009 7:18 PM GMT
    Yeah, I saw this article this morning. I'm always opposed to inequality and injustice, and just about everything that comes out of the mouths of the religious right. But this article left me a little indifferent, because the entire comparison is based on couples together for 46 years with 2 kids.

    Where does that leave single people? Has anyone done a comparison of that? Sometimes I think the LGBT community has much more in common with the swelling number of single Americans than with any other group in our society. The vast majority of gays and lesbians are single, even in states where gay marriage is legal. And in fact, there are more single people in the USA now than at any time in our history, except in the years immediately after the Civil War (and that was because of all the war widows), and the percentage is just growing every year. But all you ever hear about from politicians is "family" this and that.
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    Oct 03, 2009 7:25 PM GMT
    Where does the leave single people?

    Um, the article is titled "The High Price of Being a Gay Couple". It doesn't discuss radioactive halflife, marsupials, amoebas, salmonella, or single people.
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    Oct 03, 2009 7:34 PM GMT
    McGay saidWhere does the leave single people?

    Um, the article is titled "The High Price of Being a Gay Couple". It doesn't discuss radioactive halflife, marsupials, amoebas, salmonella, or single people.


    LOL. Yes, thanks for that.

    I guess my comment is: "Why should I care?" I got very financially and emotionally involved in the Prop 8 campaign, and election night last year was very bitter for me. I've been following all the developments since, and I'm kind of "gay marriage fatigued". I never thought gay marriage should be anywhere near our top 5 or top 10 issues, not when it is still legal to fire someone just for being gay/lesbian in about half of the states. Sometimes I feel like gay marriage is being pushed by wealthy gays & lesbians living on the coasts, because the word "marriage" is the only piece that they have missing from their "equality" china set. But most of us are nowhere near that. I lived in Ohio my whole life until I just recently moved to Arizona, and marriage is so far down on the list of legal improvements that I would like to see that sometimes it feels to me like the whole marriage push is some kind of side-show that's meant to distract us.
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    Oct 03, 2009 7:40 PM GMT
    I certainly understand the fatigue.

    I wish I could make it to the National Equality March (and maybe I'll make it for day two on Sunday). I like that language it's couched in. It's not just about marriage, not just about DADT, not just about 1 issue of equality. It's about all issues of equality for LGBT people. It's about our well deserved righteous indignation over being treated like shit by people who believe themselves superior on many levels with said belief making them inferior on all levels. I don't believe in violence, but, I almost hope for riots.
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    Oct 03, 2009 11:42 PM GMT
    lol, thanks meninlove
    but i just got info that in holland we (gay,s)
    have every right that hetero,s have
    be it in registerd partnership or marriage
    so that puts us in the same tax venue as them
    were no more, or less then the staight peeps
    along with that goes the pension rights and succesion and so forth
    makes me wonder what a great country this is, in comparison

    the only diffr we have here is that we as a gay couple can't adopt kids
    but as a single(gay man) we can
    but thats due to foreign legistation
    in holland we got no probs with it



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    Oct 03, 2009 11:59 PM GMT
    Hell, what about the fucking cost of being a single gay? If you have match.com, manhunt, gay.com and suppporting-realjock accounts for 40 years, it's like a billion dollars.

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    Oct 04, 2009 1:47 AM GMT
    hey thorn27,

    Here in Canada we can adopt. Same as straight people, right across the board.