When Fuckbuddies become friends....

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    Dec 14, 2007 1:40 AM GMT
    Hey RJ gang,

    Recently though a chance encounter I ran into an old fling at the vegetable store. We used to get it on over a year ago. What I like about him was that he was masculine and wholesome looking. Not really in my league but somehow he likes me. Also the six pack and the Ken doll bootie was a bonus. He thought I was cute and funny and he like my assets (wink wink) anyway we stop speaking for a few reasons. I was beginning a relationship with my now companion, also he didn’t really want to hangout because of his controlling girlfriend. Now things are different. He has broken up with his girl and tells me he wants to go out and do the things he could never do with me. In a way I do kinda miss him but not really sure if we could really be friends, since we were mostly in a relationship for sex. Should I open the door and welcome him back into my life? Anyone here been in a similar situation?
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    Dec 14, 2007 3:42 AM GMT
    When fuckbuddies become friends, WHOOPS!
  • cityguy39

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    Dec 14, 2007 3:54 AM GMT
    I hate to admit it, but many of my good gay male friends, were guys I slept with or dated at one point. I don't think it's all that unusual for your fuckbuddy to become your friend. Sometimes you hookup with someone and realize you just aren't right for eachother, but you would make great friends instead of lovers.icon_wink.gif


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    Dec 14, 2007 4:24 AM GMT
    Well the crazy thing is my Bf read this post now he's upset. Anyway I value my current relationship. I don't think I'll get it on with him again. I have self-control. Your right cityguy sometimes they do become friends. This is my first thou situation like that thou. I want him to meet my current bf. He's just alittle jealous he'll get over it.
  • GQjock

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    Dec 14, 2007 11:50 AM GMT
    lol...the former str8 boy came back and bit you in the ass
    ...well figuratively
    Go ahead
    sounds like he's ready to hit uncharted waters
    didn't sound like he wanted a relationship
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 14, 2007 1:42 PM GMT
    I would pass, it sounds like its still just a "fuck buddy fling" and I agree with the others, the result could be far worse than if you just pass.

    What I get tired of (locally) are those who come on as a friend (and the difference between this and a real "platonic" friend)and the objective to get me where they want.
  • BlackJock79

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    Dec 16, 2007 7:06 PM GMT
    I don't see anything wrong with you and him becoming friends and friends only. I would make it clear to him that's as far as it's going to go. I would love to be friends with some of my old fb's. Probably because I don't have but 2 gay friends and neither one of them live in the area. LOL, but I think you'll be fine as long as you don't cross that line and become a fb again.
  • drcharm

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    Dec 17, 2007 4:38 PM GMT
    u can hav a relation wit him as fried but forget the sex part now do nt be soo intouch wit him cauz sure he want to get in a relation
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    Dec 21, 2007 4:44 PM GMT
    If my partner had seen this post he would have really been upset! He has a jealous streak in him. Just be careful that if you start up with this guy again you keep it platonic, he may be looking for more!
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    Dec 21, 2007 8:52 PM GMT
    Ok, wow...what's with so many gay men objecting to a partner's internet use anyway? The first reason I don't get this is, most gay men meet over the internet and like Dr. Phil always says, how can you expect your partner to stop doing something they was doing when you met them?

    Second, sometimes gay friends or a gay support group is not as accessable for gays as it is for , let's say, heteros.
    The internet, especially a standup site like RealJock may be the only way for a boy to discuss his issues and get them offa his chest.

    I know jealous partners, I can hear you now : i'll be his friend and his support group. Sorry, to bust your bubble honey, but you ain't man enough to approach an issue from several different angles and to always be impartial or even care to listen. You can't do this the way a GROUP can.

    I hate to be cynical, ok, no i don't. I'd be highly critical of a partner like this who distrust me to the point I can't even chat on the internet. I'd seriously suspect a guy like this of cheating on me.icon_exclaim.gif
  • cityguy39

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    Dec 22, 2007 1:58 AM GMT
    Guilty Gear, can I get a witness!!!! Two daps to you my brother!!!!!!! You hit the nail right on the head with this oneicon_exclaim.gif

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    Dec 23, 2007 6:07 AM GMT
    my now fabulous circle of friends used to be my fabulous fuckbuddies at the start of the acquaintance!
    now we just exchange notes over cocktails! lol
    stick to the old skool of thought:
    never sleep with your friends.
    "that's all."
    ...spoken a la miranda priestleyicon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 26, 2007 6:09 PM GMT
    dont you have a companion? reason one to steer clear of this biguy. Controllling gf... what the fuck man i mean thats hilarious. a guy doing what a woman tells him to do, sounds like a punk pussy to me bro. drop him like she did. regardless of how hot he is, looks fade in time and so will he desire for you - all considering if youre so sure hes out of your league - which means it will happen but the excuse will be much more lame and well it sounds like hes lookin to use your booty. if thats what you want, take his dick and the evitable dumping like man. sorry to be a bit harsh, but you have someone and are questioning screwing it up... DO YOU READ THE POST FROM ALL THESE LONLEY GAYS? consider yourself lucky and blessed man.