How and where do you want to be approached by a guy?

  • Little_Spoon

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    Oct 06, 2009 3:45 AM GMT
    I want to be wanted.

    I want someone to come right up and ask me for my number, or pull a sweet little line on me.

    Oh, or just start a conversation with me and flirt. icon_biggrin.gif

    Barns & Nobles seems like an idea place...
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    Oct 06, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    DanielH saidI just want to be wanted.

    I want someone to come right up and ask me for my number, or pull a sweet little line on me.

    Barns & Nobles seems like an idea place...
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    Any bookstore, cafe, coffeehouse, gallery, sparsely populated beach, or other such venue. The atmosphere just has to be pleasant, inviting, and peaceful. But that's really all romance, anyway.
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    Oct 06, 2009 4:45 AM GMT

    At a gay rodeo or at a bear jello wrestling match.

    But honey, if you see something you want, you can't wait for it to come up and ask you. If you're shy, get over it. Being shy is kinda cute, but the shy guys often never work up the courage to approach who they really fancy, just sit around and wait to be asked; only if they are lucky does a decent guy. No place, no time, will you get him wishen and a hoping.
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    Oct 06, 2009 4:54 AM GMT
    I would like the guy to start off with a converstation.Then ask if he would like to hang out or whatever. I'm not really fond of the "Can I have your number" types.

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    Oct 06, 2009 1:52 PM GMT
    It can take a bit to get up the nerve to go ahead and say hullo to someone. Though I'd say more times than not as long as you or they are polite and respectful things do tend to work out...
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    Oct 06, 2009 1:54 PM GMT
    with flowers
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 06, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    Sometimes there really isn't a good time. I asked a waiter for his phone number after he made a mistake on my food order once in front of a number of people.... he produced it.

    I would say anytime you can really talk to the guy, not in the middle of a bunch of distractions....
  • Little_Spoon

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    Oct 06, 2009 5:00 PM GMT
    lenoxx saidI would like the guy to start off with a converstation.Then ask if he would like to hang out or whatever. I'm not really fond of the "Can I have your number" types.



    I'd be so scared of that guy!
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  • JayneCobb

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    Oct 06, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    After this History class I'm going to walk out the door and accidently get ran into by a 6'1" jock with a thick, solid build, dark hair and eyes, and a a scruffy chin. He'll knock me down and spill the food he was eating on my shirt (completely by accident) and apologize profusely. I'll tell him its no big deal since it just a plain white shirt, I've got plenty, but hell insist to make it up to me. Well start chatting for a while and exchange names and numbers so we can keep in touch. Later tonight hell facebook chat me and say he was to scared to earlier but he found me interesting and attractive, and wanted to ask me out to dinner to make up for my shirt. I accept his courtship offer. He picks me up in his black dodge dakota and we go to Uccellos (local Italian restaurant) for dinner, where we talk about our lives, classes, friends, etc. After dinner he drives me home where he walks me to the door and gives me a proper farewell kiss for the night. We keep in touch, start casually dating, eventually get married and move out to the country where we live in a nice cabin with a large field in the backyard and have two german shepherds.
    And happily ever after.


    ...yeah i wish. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • EricLA

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    Oct 06, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    Daniel,

    That's what we ALL want. It's easier to be approached than do the approaching. I speak from experience. But you have to put yourself out there and engage in some risk in order to get the reward. Otherwise, you might be waiting a good long time. I bet a majority of people (gays and straights) wait passively for someone else to make the move because of their fear of rejection.

    It doesn't mean other people aren't attracted to you, it's just that they're as scared as you are of making the first move. You can't let that control you. Yes, the other person may not be interested in you, but so what? Make conversation and people around you will respond to your confidence.
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    Oct 06, 2009 5:36 PM GMT
    It doesn't really matter when. For me it matters that it's natural.. I want to be caught off guard in my natural habitat, like maybe coming back home on a flight where he is sitting next to me. The conversation sparks up on its own and take it from there! ALAS! this will never happen.. haha
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    Oct 06, 2009 5:40 PM GMT
    AHHA yes! JaneCobb I like your story!
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    Oct 06, 2009 5:43 PM GMT
    Remember, men don't make passes at girls in glasses.
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    Oct 06, 2009 5:53 PM GMT
    I will move to Holland and will meet a sexy, blond dutch/spanish guy who is 29 and used to be fairly into body building in his early twenties and now is just effortlessly hot. It will be in a music shop and he will be looking sheepishly through the classical music section, trying to find a song he heard on the radio and liked. It will be Che gelida manina from act one of La Boheme, but he will not know this. I will point out several recordings and our hands will accidentally touch as I reach for the De los Angeles/Bjorling recording with Thomas Beecham. He will look up and catch my eyes then look away and I will shiver with excitement and say that his hand is frozen. He will laugh at my wit and I will suggest that we go for a coffee as I am new in town and donĀ“t know that many people and moreover it will help him warm up and he will accept. It will turn out that he is an international Lawyer and a versatile bottom and we will date for 18 months and then get married and live happily ever after, taking holidays in Spain twice a year and living near the sea. We will play the love duet from act one of La Boheme at our wedding.

    I probably ought to stop buying CDs online....


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    Oct 06, 2009 5:53 PM GMT
    JayneCobb said
    ...yeah i wish. icon_rolleyes.gif


    No, honey, you swish, and it's no wonder why this unrealistic heteronormative fantasy of yours will stay just that, a fantasy. I'm continually amazed at this type of thing. You set up unrealistic expectations of some Brad Pitt or Colin Farrell butch queen swooping in and taking you off to your deserted island where you'll live happily ever after fucking each other's brains out and then you wonder why that fantasy never materializes and you end up miserable surrounded by empty cartons of Haagen-Dazs. I don't care who you are or what you look like, setting yourself up like this means setting yourself up for failure. You are a gay man, and as hard as that probably is for you and others to admit, that straight-but-gay, overly sensitive and accommodating, overly built and buffed out piece of machismo ass that you have envisioned in your myopic little world will only continue to spurn your anticipation, and probably call you a "fag" in the process. Wake up and be realistic about your romantic prospects and stop feeding yourself lies.
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    Oct 06, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    Miaaooowww, a saucer of milk to atlonglast!
  • JayneCobb

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    Oct 06, 2009 5:59 PM GMT
    JayneCobb said
    atlonglast said
    JayneCobb said
    ...yeah i wish. icon_rolleyes.gif


    No, honey, you swish, and it's no wonder why....


    It's called a joke, get over yourself you pretentious queen.
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    Oct 06, 2009 6:02 PM GMT
    JayneCobb saidIt's called a joke, get over yourself you pretentious queen.


    4 da win.
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    Oct 06, 2009 6:08 PM GMT

    steltom saidIt can take a bit to get up the nerve to go ahead and say hullo to someone. Though I'd say more times than not as long as you or they are polite and respectful things do tend to work out...


    Don't listen to this guy. He's not shy like you at all. I saw him put the major mack daddy on a young soldier who got onto the elevator with us. He had a tight little body (kinda twinky, but whatever) and a tattoo on his arm. Steltom began by complementing him on the tattoo and the conversation ended with them talking about DESTINY, bleh! The fourth floor couldn't come fast enough. I thought I was going to be sick. They sounded like morons, but the young man got all wet and everything.





  • jrs1

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    Oct 06, 2009 6:11 PM GMT

    where? on my



    duh.
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    Oct 06, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    Oh man, I say hullo to EVERYONE all over the place... The tat was cool. Down his left arm kanji lettering. It was a cool tat that said "destiny". The fact that there were many people on the elevator.,.... ARGH!@#$%^&*()
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    Oct 06, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Say "I bet you'd be fun to wrestle."

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    Oct 06, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    Where would I like to be approached at by a guy?
    Somewhere outside of Kansas City. Too many guys here who don't have the backbone to be REAL men.

    How? All he has to do is approach me by saying hi. I prefer the "corny" hello approach over the type that usually approach me: Rubbing hands together, licking their lips, saying, "What's up baby?"