Why do gay guys.......

  • gymguy81

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    Oct 06, 2009 10:03 PM GMT
    tell you your ugly or an asshole if you tell them you are not interested in them.

    has anything like this happened to you?


    any ideas of why ?
  • NyRuinz

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    Oct 06, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    gymguy81 saidtell you your ugly or an asshole if you tell them you are not interested in them.

    has anything like this happened to you?


    any ideas of why ?


    Probably because they are upset that you turned them down, people can be very petty and childish, I don't think what you have experienced is exclusive to gay men though.
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    Oct 06, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
    Check out Jake Benson's threads. He says the same thing.
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    Oct 06, 2009 10:59 PM GMT
    lol, just gay guys?
    I was hunted by a gal at work for awhile. When I turned down her not so subtle advances she lost it and said,

    "Hmmf, you must be some kinda faggit."

    I agreed. icon_lol.gif


    -Doug
  • mcwclewis

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    Oct 06, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    Happens to me all the time actually.


    Kind of annoying.
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    Oct 06, 2009 11:41 PM GMT
    gymguy81 saidtell you your ugly or an asshole if you tell them you are not interested in them.

    has anything like this happened to you?


    any ideas of why ?


    rejection is not an easy thing. some guys just cannot handle it

    i've been told the following by some guys

    "you ugly bitch"

    "you black ni***r bitch"

    "ugly mofu ni***r"

    "you black faggy ni***r


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    Oct 06, 2009 11:51 PM GMT
    This is the funny/odd side of gay websites..

    You tell them you're not interested, they get bitchy.

    You don't reply to avoid getting bitchy replies, but they send you a bitchy message for not replying.

    You can't please everyone. Some guys can handle rejection just fine. But others, turn into total drama queens. Just don't let it get to you. Brush it off and move on.
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    gay mans ego are delicate like little bubbles just waiting to pop and while the bubble might look pretty, the second you pop them all you got left is the muck that goes "splat" on the ground that you've gotta clean up...
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    Oct 07, 2009 2:36 PM GMT

    Hey where did your post go....


    Anyhow sounds to me like you are one of the guys the OP rejected.
  • Timbales

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    Oct 07, 2009 2:38 PM GMT
    gymguy81 saidtell you your ugly or an asshole if you tell them you are not interested in them.

    has anything like this happened to you?


    any ideas of why ?


    for the same reason straight guys call a woman a dyke when they get shot down
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    Oct 07, 2009 3:01 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you saidrejection is not an easy thing. some guys just cannot handle it

    i've been told the following by some guys

    "you ugly bitch"

    "you black ni***r bitch"

    "ugly mofu ni***r"

    "you black faggy ni***r

    And apparently the words of fellow gays. Damn, that gets me mad, I thought we were better than that. Not only the worst offense to say to someone, but drags us all down to the level of the bigoted, right-wing trailer-trash red necks we love to mock.

    The worst I've been told when I rejected someone was that I was stuck-up, had a superior attitude, and looked down on people. Which are all true statements, so far as they were concerned, because those become my defense mechanisms when dealing with some pushy person I'm trying to lose.

    But when people want to say something hurtful, they go for what they perceive are your weaknesses, your Achilles heel. That rarely works with me, because I already know their game, and I know my own strengths & weaknesses quite well.

    No one slams me for something that I haven't already said about myself; I beat them to the punch, so their verbal blows are harmless, merely confirming what I knew long before they did. And if they accuse me irrationally, then I know it's wild & baseless, and I've won the game without ever saying a word back.

    Over the years I've developed such self-confidence (the close relative of arrogance), that these things can rarely touch me. Spout venom at me all you want; you merely confirm my good judgment in having nothing further to do with you, and you make my saying "no" all the easier.