Guys Who Talk Shit About You Behind Your Back

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    Oct 06, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    Why do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?
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    Oct 06, 2009 11:04 PM GMT

    We suggest changing social circles.
    We know some gays like that and some straights like that. We distance ourselves a little from them. Sounds like bad luck in your case.

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    I think if you read a lot of the forums you'll find that people are VERY up front around here.


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    Oct 06, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    Maybe start with yourself and some personal honesty and integrity and post an image of yourself on this website....Get a better class of friends and go to better and different types of gatherings.....your "not-so-honest friends" will fall by the way-side....You need to "grow a set" and maybe cultivate a wider variety of friends and cut the old ones loose.... the "real" and or "honest" friends will still be there.......... "if you love it set it free, if it returns it was always yours to begin with...icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    Yeah!!! Why the fuck do folks need to be picture-less and then whine to death? Jeeze.

    What? Did you pick creepy friends that sneak around? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!!!

    Get new friends. Get pictured, profiled, and real.
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:05 AM GMT
    I don't think you can categorize that as just gay men. I think that would just be punk ass shady people which comes in all colors, shapes, sizes and sexual orientations. I personally don't give a damn what someone has to say about me if it is negative. If you notice this in random people you come across than don't sweat it but if this is your so called friends you hang out with, I would suggest finding new ones.
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Troll Alert!!
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    Have no need for people like that, learned a long time ago to surround myself with positive happy people. Honestly I could care less what other people say, if something said that could improve my awarness on life in general, I'll look at it, think about, see if I have room for some personal improvement.. If it's random BS nonsense, then I file it away as such
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    Oct 07, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    Well have met such people on both sides, gay and straight. So its not that something is wrong with the gay guy, something is wrong with the guy. Why do you have to socialise with these people.
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    Oct 07, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    this is not limited to gay men, this is a people problem, Ive noticed at work its getting worse, and within the family, like a past time!
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    Oct 07, 2009 5:00 AM GMT
    Everyone has talked shit about someone w/out them being present. Gimme a break
  • Sparkycat

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    Oct 07, 2009 5:02 AM GMT
    Perhaps people don't like you because you make a point of being confrontational. Maybe you need to objectively examine you social skills.
  • NyRuinz

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    Oct 07, 2009 2:57 PM GMT
    Their probably just jealous catty queens, I would advise you to find a new group of friends, life is too short to put up with anyone's bullshit. Once you take yourself out of the equation they will be left to talk about each other.
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    Oct 07, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know each other) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?



    Sounds to me like you are hanging around the wrong crowd, mate. Even your "friends" tell you things said behind your back. Some things are simply better off left unsaid. You said that in your social group a lot of people don't like you. Why is that? You need new friends and more positive social outlets.
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    Oct 07, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    My motto about this sort of thing is "I've been called worse by better people."
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    Oct 07, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


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    Oct 07, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    No need to be crunkin' over some childish behaviour...if that's what it takes to help them sleep at night...let them go about doing it. I do make a point to let it be known that if I don't like you, I will not hide it nor put up a front. Fronts are for cowards with no backbone...hence the word "backbone". Get some integrity & dignity about yourself & call them on their bullshit the moment they try to smile in your face & show them where thay can bounce to.

    My take is, grow a set & get you some straight friends with some backbone. That kind of mess is what a GROWN person doesn't need in their life as they get older & it needs to be left back behind where it belongs...in high school.
  • _gingin

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    Oct 07, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    hon
    you sound just like a gay man yourself.
  • sfboy987

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    Oct 07, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    Yeah!!! Why the fuck do folks need to be picture-less and then whine to death? Jeeze.

    What? Did you pick creepy friends that sneak around? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!!!

    Get new friends. Get pictured, profiled, and real.



    Do you have attack everybody on this site?
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    Oct 07, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
    sfboy987 said
    chuckystud said
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    Yeah!!! Why the fuck do folks need to be picture-less and then whine to death? Jeeze.

    What? Did you pick creepy friends that sneak around? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!!!

    Get new friends. Get pictured, profiled, and real.



    Do you have attack everybody on this site?


    Yes, he does. He's a prick. If you want to use this site you need to get used to it.
  • oookellyooo

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    Oct 07, 2009 11:11 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    hmm some gay guys are queens and inherits the feminine passive-aggressive-stab-you-in-the-back attitude...just not my thing, i'd rather be upfront and direct than have your friend carry a monkey at his back w/o him knowing it..it's just mean...
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 07, 2009 11:14 PM GMT
    I think I would drive myself crazy if I worried about what people were saying behind my back all the time. You learn to just not think about that stuff. Your friends are your friends, and then there is everybody else. At the end of the day, most people can probably count their truly loyal, supportive friends who will "be there for you always no matter what" on one hand...if you're lucky.
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    Oct 09, 2009 12:20 PM GMT
    sfboy987 said
    chuckystud said
    The_Austonian saidWhy do so many gay guys do this? Having been in straight social settings with straight guys, I can say that most of the time if a straight guy doesn't like you he will come out and say it. Gay men have the tendency to talk shit behind someone's back and act nice to their face.

    Apparently, in my "social group" of acquantances, a lot of people don't like me. However, when ever there's some kind of social event, no one says anything and are cordial but then it usually comes back to me through my friends about what was said.

    When I confront the offenders, they usually try to deny it despite several witnesses (who often don't know eachother) saying they did.

    I guess if I don't like someone, I tell it to your face and you KNOW I don't like you. Why can't gay men grow some fucking balls and stop acting like little girls about these things?


    Yeah!!! Why the fuck do folks need to be picture-less and then whine to death? Jeeze.

    What? Did you pick creepy friends that sneak around? Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!!!

    Get new friends. Get pictured, profiled, and real.



    Do you have attack everybody on this site?


    Have to giggle. You're no better than the guy you're whining about.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 09, 2009 12:40 PM GMT
    Well to begin with, I have, what I consider to be more important things to worry about than what may or may not be said behind my back. Actually I don't think about it or have time to do so. It isn't healthy to think that way.

    If you find there are dudes who are saying adverse things in that way, I would think they are either resentful, jealous or have an empty life. I'd move on and make a different group of friends (as many have said above).

    Life is way too short to be concerned about such things...
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    Oct 09, 2009 12:46 PM GMT
    MARC0 saidI don't think you can categorize that as just gay men. I think that would just be punk ass shady people which comes in all colors, shapes, sizes and sexual orientations. I personally don't give a damn what someone has to say about me if it is negative. If you notice this in random people you come across than don't sweat it but if this is your so called friends you hang out with, I would suggest finding new ones.


    I agree! I have totally straight guy buds who talk smack alllll the time!
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    Oct 09, 2009 12:58 PM GMT
    gay and straight dudes talk everybody behind back. If you go to the barber shop, the barbers gossip about their families, friends and etc....