EVERY GUY IVE DATED LEAVE,OR CHEATS ON ME COUSE I DONT GIVE THEM SEX.....

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    Oct 08, 2009 4:03 AM GMT
    I WAS MOLESTED WHEN I WAS 6 YRS OLD..SO ITS HARD WHEN IT COMES TO THE SEX STILL...IM NOT SCARED TO SAY IT,I WAS MOLESTED...I DO TELL THEM BUT,THEY END UP LOOKING FOR SEX SOMWHERE ELSE..I JUST WANT A GUY THAT ISNT LOOKING JUST FOR SEX,I KNOW SEX IS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIOSHIP BUT IF U LOVE THAT PERSON U WILL WAIT FOR HIM.......<3
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    Oct 08, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    They're not worth your time. Someone that can't understand your situation and reason for not wanting to be intimate right away are losers to begin with.
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    Oct 08, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    ya,i always look at the bad guys and push the good ones away...but i hate feeling like im being used,,its like i have sex written on my forhead....
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    Oct 08, 2009 6:45 AM GMT
    more importantly then finding a guy is working out your problems, go see someone.
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    Oct 08, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    OH I HAVE,IM OVER MY TRAUMA BUT,,THE SEX THING IS HARD,,BUT I THINK WHEN I REALLY LOVE THAT PERSON I WONT BE AFRAID,,,,
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    Oct 08, 2009 6:53 AM GMT
    That's what I am doing. Wait for that special person to have sex with. Because personally I know if I have sex with some random guy. I'll probably end up getting attached and that will cause problems if he decides to break it off afterwards.
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    Oct 08, 2009 7:37 AM GMT
    you sound like you just want friends. Not a problem. If you date a guy then sooner or later sex will be an issue. DonĀ“t kid yourself.
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    Oct 08, 2009 10:27 AM GMT
    If you were molested and you're having problems with sex
    then you owe it to yourself and who ever you get involved with to work out those problems so you can be whole
    If you date someone sex is usually a part of a healthy relationship
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    Oct 08, 2009 3:45 PM GMT

    Hey BELLO, this "ya,i always look at the bad guys and push the good ones away...but i hate feeling like im being used,,"

    Now that's seems to be a vicious circle. So, do the reverse - push the bad ones away and look at the good ones.. I think that then you won't feel like you're being used. Out of those good ones , one will stand out and shine and take it from there....


    -Doug
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    Oct 08, 2009 5:06 PM GMT
    YOU GUYS R SO KOOL.=) THANKS.......YA,BUT EVEN IF I WASNT MOLESTED I WOULD STILL WAIT TO HAVE SEX...NOT TILL IM M MARRIED LOL,BUT TILL I FIND THAT RIGHT GUY...IM A VERY ROMATIC GUY AND GIVE MY ALL WHEN IM WITH SOMEONE...BUT DONT WE ALL GO FOR THE BAD ONES LOL...SO WT R U GUYS DOING FOR HALLOWEEN....=)
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    Oct 09, 2009 1:46 PM GMT
    I think we live a in a place where human interaction are rather fantasized. Most concepts of monogamy and faithfulness are rather recent movements in human history and you'd often times find that biology begs to differ.

    Its terrible what you went through, and if you want a guy that loves you so much that he'll wait to have sex with you without looking for it else where, thats your right and it is very respectable.

    However, many people can be extremely in love with you and simply tell themselves that they'll stop hooking up when you're willing to give it up. Terrible, I know, but very true.

    The truth of the matter is very few guys your age are ready for a serious committment, and out of the few that are, sex plays a very huge role in their books.

    I say if you're going to have these kind of expectations out of others, it will help you in the long run to be more realistic about what could happen and not allowing it to hurt you so much. You want to wait to have sex, most guys can't wait to start having it, so there's going to be that issue.

    But someone will come along eventually that perhaps is closer to what you expect out of mate. I guess its a matter of deciding that you are not compromising and knowing that you will have wait a little bit longer and be patient until it does happen.
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    Oct 10, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    thats very true,most guys cant wait to have sex,i know.and i think sex is amazing between two people they love each other...im not looking for a serious relationship,couse im only 19.but if that right guy comes well,then he comes...i mean i could of lost my virginty a long time ago,,ages ago..its so easy to go out to a club or a rave and sleep with anyone...but i think im different from most guys...im not willing to give it up for some random guy..we sleep together then thats it,its over..this is how i feel,i respect everyones opinions.....i wanna have fun,enjoy my life befor 2012 hahaahaha jk....,u guys r all GREAT....MUAHSSSSSSSSSSS....=)
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    Oct 10, 2009 8:19 PM GMT
    Exactly.

    Its your life. You make your own definitions that fit you, and even though not every one else may agree with them or appreciate them, it doesn't matter because its what you need to be happy and respect yourself.

    You have so much time to grow and experience life. Everything will happen its own time.

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    Oct 11, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    ya,i guess.but even no im only 19 im very mature...and by the way u r hot halfstep lol..just throwing that out there hehe..thanks..
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    Oct 11, 2009 1:50 PM GMT
    Lol thanksicon_wink.gif
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    Oct 11, 2009 9:06 PM GMT
    no problem cutie.hehe,ok back to the subject haha