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Oct 08, 2009 11:09 PM GMT
Hey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting
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Oct 08, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
age isn't a spark killer for me... I don't care.. gimme a hot fucker of any age (but above 18.. preferably 20) and I'm good
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Oct 09, 2009 12:14 AM GMT
You find the guy hot... what is the problem?
So you go over there and you have a lousy fuck. Too bad.
Or, you go over there and have a wonderful fuck. Awesome!
Either of those scenarios have happened before to millions of people, and how old the person was had nothing to do with it. So go over there and slobber on some cock.
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Oct 09, 2009 12:25 AM GMT
You will never find out if you don't go over. At least you already know the guy looks hot outside the www as well.
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Oct 09, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
Oy, how old I have gone.
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Oct 09, 2009 12:43 AM GMT
I pay very little attention to age at all on the older end. I have met 60 year olds that were hotter than a LOT of 20 somethings. There is an inherent beauty in an older man who takes care of himself, and for me 90 percent of "hot" comes from within.
On the younger end I find it tough to go below 22 because I just can't relate that well (this I am thankful for). I'm not saying age is a deal breaker either way (as long as they're 18...) src="http://assets.rjstatic.com/images/global/icon_cool.gif" />. It's more about compatability. If I have to say an ideal age - 25 to 45.
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Oct 09, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting[/quote]
Ask yourself the same question when you are 47
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Oct 09, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
i dont care as long as they take care of themselves and treat me goot  |
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Oct 09, 2009 12:53 AM GMT
As long as I have a defibrillator handy it's all good.
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Oct 09, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
id go all the way to a hundred
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Oct 09, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
I usually like them in 30's to early 40's unless they hv maintained their bods well. Most of my "buddies" fall into that range. Too many after that hv let themselves go to hell. Really pleasently surprised how many "older" guys on here r VERY WELL MAINTAINED. Not so in the general population, sorry to say. lol
Have had them as young as college guys and no problem "rocking their world" as they say. lol Absolutely no problem as "pitcher" with long term endurance & stamina here.
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Oct 09, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
Niceguy89 said
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting I say always listen to your instincts. If you're having doubts, there's probably a reason for that. But I'm leery of any guy who hits on someone half his age (or less). I'd say no. |
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Oct 09, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
I've known some pretty immature "mature" guys....
and I've had the pleasure of knowing some great well rounded "mature" younger guys....
It just depends on the person.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
There are some 50 + year olds on this site that I would gladly have a tumble in the hay with so I guess age is relative to hotness
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Oct 09, 2009 2:06 AM GMT
I'd go as far as my own age...of course, that's on a sliding scale. Yearly.  |
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Oct 09, 2009 2:11 AM GMT
Age is just a number. If the guy is hot, then I want to get to know him. There are guys on this site that fall anywhere on the age scale and I would go for it (legal age is a requirement).
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Oct 09, 2009 2:16 AM GMT
I think the oldest I'd ever go is 5-7 years ahead (I'm 20, so 27 is pushing it) only because I'd prefer someone in the same phase of life that I'm in.
I find it hilarious and pathetic how some guys, say at age 37, set standards such as: "looking for someone 18-35, NO ONE OVER 40".
lulz 
And I'm more of a personality guy, so even if he is hot, I'm not letting a 35 yo touch me. My hand can do anything he can. Almost.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:24 AM GMT
I'm 18 and I have found men in their 40's to be attractive. As long as we have some things in common I'm good. Also age is just a number.Some guys can look like they are well in their 50's ,but they're only 35 vis versa.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:27 AM GMT
A person must draw the line somewhere...
I guess I'll say if he's dead, I'm not interested.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
lol @ DODGY .
how young would i go?
what a rhetorical question. lol.
when i was 23, i had a bf who was 43 . He was hot. We had great sex but he turned out to hit the bottle a bit too often for my taste, so after a few months i broke up.
i never cared much about the age, to me the whole thing was ever totally contextual.
When i was 18-19 my dad knew this man who was a farmer nearby, like around 40, the proverbial Marlboro man, ... the times i j/o fantasizing over him... gah.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
I am 43 and my boyfriend is 58. Now that I am older the difference is not such a big thing. In my 20's I would have never considered someone that my older than me. The only weird thing is my mom had me when she was just 18, so they are close to the same age.
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Oct 09, 2009 2:58 AM GMT
There are some guys on here who are older than I am, but hot.
I prefer to top, but some of these guys could sooo MAKE ME THEIR BITCH!
OMFG!
To be honest, I've found a bunch of older guy's I'd do in a heartbeat. That was a huge surprise.
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Oct 09, 2009 3:13 AM GMT
lilTanker saidage isn't a spark killer for me... I don't care.. gimme a hot fucker of any age (but above 18.. preferably 20) and I'm good god bless you! now if you were only on the same damn continent..... |
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Oct 09, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
Guess I'll be the one to say it. Age is sort of a deal breaker for me. I don't want to fool around with anyone who isn't old enough to do things that I like. I don't want to feel restricted so at the bare minimum the must be over 21 but the preferred desired age would be old then my little sister so at least 24. As for guys older then me I can't see myself with anyone who is as old or older then my parents so guys 50 and above are just doesn't do it for and even most guys over 45 is a stretch for me for the simple fact that I don't find myself having much in common with someone who practically graduated highschool before I was even just a glimmer in parents eyes. LOL.
Yes, even if it wasn't something serious and it was something like just a casual "moment for fun" age has an impact on me so generally I tend to find myself attracted to guys within my age range. Ideally the oldest I want to deal with would no older then 40 and even then that might be pushing it.
I know I'm probably gonna slammed for putting a limit on it's as honest as I can get. A lot of you will probably be like "this guys' blocked" but at least you'll be able to say "At least he's honest." I'm aware that through other people's eyes it might seem like I'm limiting myself because of something trivial like age but I can't get the mental of feeling like I'm committing a crime, a really bad crime, if I'm with someone way younger/older then me. Makes me feel dirty in a not so good way. That's just me though.
To each his own I say for as I've been told and have come to learn and realize in the world of most gay men is that one man's trash is another man's treasure and one man's pain is another man's pleasure. Sweet and sour moments in a person's life are all dependent upon taste.
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Oct 09, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
i've done more than 20 over and that's fine with me. hell i'd do 30 years older or more if he was good lookin
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Oct 09, 2009 3:46 AM GMT
Spent a week with one guy who was 60+(I was 20ish). The time was hot but it would only work short-term.
Age DOES make a difference when trying to make something work long-term. We had such a HUGE age gap that it was difficult to relate to each other on topics outside the bedroom. It was a good time.
If the age difference was less than 40 years (maybe if it was only 20 years) then I think we could've made it work long-term, and that would have been awesome.
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Oct 09, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
Niceguy89 saidHey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting This pervy skank is somewhere near your dad's age. Is that what you want.. a daddy? Would he be someone you'd be proud to tell your friends about? Or if you were out with him on a date would you wonder if people thought he was with his son? a 47 lyo urking after a young smooth nubile 20 yo boy? My dick just went soft |
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Oct 09, 2009 6:04 AM GMT
Niceguy89 saidHey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting I am saddened you even ASK this question. If you liked the guy before you knew his age what is the big deal when you did? For the guy who called him a "pervy skank" they aren't picking out china or window coverings so it doesn't matter what his friends think. It is just a sex date; go for it a relationship? think more |
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Oct 09, 2009 11:28 AM GMT
hey one day you too will be 47 and I think it's great.
I love young looking older guys. Noone belives I'm 32 or my husband is 37.
And think about how a 47yo could rock your world. Experience!!!!
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Oct 09, 2009 11:37 AM GMT
You got that right..  Age is really only a number. Its more about the person, their energy, their mind and how they handle themselves. Many guys my age are hot as hell and have the maturity to go along with it. Don't count us out just yet young studs.. |
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Oct 09, 2009 12:21 PM GMT
Age is just a number, but it has to be a number that you're comfortable with. I don't tend to go much older than myself. I prefer to be the older, more mature (if you will), more dominant person in a relationship. So while there are a lot of hot older guys out there with great bodies, I just don't have an interest in being with them. How young is too young? I've had 18-20 year olds want to go out and start dating but I don't feel I have anything in common with them. Nothing really to connect over. So I tend to stay within a few years of my age, but that's just my preference. But back to your question... if you're doubting, then that's your first sign to not go. You mentioned you seemed to get along great while camming and felt the spark, and that's a positive sign. But there is more to anything than just camming or a feeling a spark online. Maybe meet up for something other than a sexual escapade at his place? See if you feel that spark in person first? Go meet at some public place for coffee maybe? Age is just a number. People of all ages can be all levels of mature. But I'm sure you have a level of comfort in those differences. Good luck man. |
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Oct 09, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
I care more about the person than their age.
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Oct 09, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
well thanks for all the replies, didnt expect so many in such a short while :O Thing is also that I never had sex before, so this would be my first experience, he said he will be gentle and even said he was fine meeting me in a public place and see from there on how it goes. Also he is in Amsterdam, which is like 2h away for me and while im travelling I have 2h to be nervous which will probably lead me to not going  I just need a guy like Bartnews Hot, a bit older than I am and just as tall!!  Also im not out either so going to gayclubs in the city i live is not an option for me. for that I would have to go to Amsterdam as well, rent a room, search the internet for a good gayplace to go out and then go... and im just a poor student |
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Oct 09, 2009 1:48 PM GMT
If what others would do affects what you would do, you have some work to do on yourself.
Also, and maybe I'll get some heat for this - a guy who's 47 taking a sexual interest in a guy who's 19 sounds suspect to me, whether he promised to be gentle with you or not.
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Oct 09, 2009 1:52 PM GMT
When I was 22, I dated a 41-year-old. He broke it off though - he was more weirded out with the age thing than I ever was.
I'm 28 now, and I'm definitely attracted to guys who are older, I'd say between 30 and 45. I've never been approached/chased by anyone older than that, so I can't say for sure "how old I would go."
Age is not really a huge factor for me, and I've never understood people with age complexes - whether they have complexes about the age of their partner, or have a complex with their own age. I'm turning 29 next month, and looking forward to 30.
Niceguy89, I say go for it. What can it hurt to have a little fun?
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Oct 09, 2009 4:24 PM GMT
TallGWMvballer saidNiceguy89 saidHey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting
I am saddened you even ASK this question.
If you liked the guy before you knew his age what is the big deal when you did?
For the guy who called him a "pervy skank"
they aren't picking out china or window coverings so
it doesn't matter what his friends think.
It is just a sex date; go for it
a relationship? think more You're all for the young dating the elderly. WHAT A SURPRISE. |
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Oct 09, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
Chemistry is the most important thing in a relationship, not chronological age calculating. If it feels right go for it! |
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Oct 09, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
tsavo saidSpent a week with one guy who was 60+(I was 20ish). The time was hot but it would only work short-term.
Age DOES make a difference when trying to make something work long-term. We had such a HUGE age gap that it was difficult to relate to each other on topics outside the bedroom. It was a good time.
If the age difference was less than 40 years (maybe if it was only 20 years) then I think we could've made it work long-term, and that would have been awesome. I am totally disgusted. I may never ever get a hard on again |
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Oct 09, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
I was 18 when I was with someone who was 44. I've come to the realization that age in most cases is just a number. One thing i've also come to realize is guys that are younger are too stupid & single-minded for me to want to get to know. Currently i'm gonna be 24 in Nov. and as long as the guy is my age or older it's kewl. The oldest i'll go is 48 though. For I haven't met anyone older than 48 who appeals to me in any way.
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Oct 09, 2009 10:06 PM GMT
I have lost count at how many incredibly hot men are on this site that are in their 40's and 50's. Some put us younger dudes to freaking shame. I'll be happy if I look that good at 30. My boyfriend (Hi "Madhatter2009") just turned 32 and I am 18. We have been together for a year and things are going great. When we first started dating my parents sort of freaked out because I was 17 and he was 14 years older. The only real issues we have faced regarding the age difference is that I'm just starting college, and he has a career, so I'm a starving student and he's making a decent living. We find a middle ground that works for us and that is all that matters. I wouldn't trade him in for a younger model for the world. I love him so much. We laugh, we cry, we are silly together, he keeps me grounded and focused, I make him laugh and keep him from getting too stressed out over work. He teaches me things that a younger man wouldn't have a clue about. I soak things up from him like a sponge. In many ways, the age difference is more of a plus than a minus. My parents have grown to accept our relationship and they love him now too. He's part of our family and I am of his. Had I listened to my friends and parents that warned me repeatedly that I was crazy to date someone who was 14 years older, or had he listened to all of his friends who made fun of him for dating a guy who was still in high school, we would have never made it past the 2nd date. For me it was love at first sight. For him it took him awhile because I was so young and it scared him. It's been a year and we have yet to even have a fight. Go figure. So, to all you naysayers who are stomping on the idea that people with a huge age gap can't work, I say you don't know what the f#cK you're talking about. Anything can work if the two people involved are in love, trust each other, and make the commitment.
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Oct 09, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
well I am 27 turning 28 soon - so youngest is around 22 ish - 23 to oldest around 39 - 40ish. If the guy looks young, healthy and great, then it's all good.
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Oct 09, 2009 10:22 PM GMT
ClevelandIndianFan saidI have lost count at how many incredibly hot men are on this site that are in their 40's and 50's. Some put us younger dudes to freaking shame. I'll be happy if I look that good at 30. My boyfriend (Hi "Madhatter2009") just turned 32 and I am 18. We have been together for a year and things are going great. When we first started dating my parents sort of freaked out because I was 17 and he was 14 years older. The only real issues we have faced regarding the age difference is that I'm just starting college, and he has a career, so I'm a starving student and he's making a decent living. We find a middle ground that works for us and that is all that matters. I wouldn't trade him in for a younger model for the world. I love him so much. We laugh, we cry, we are silly together, he keeps me grounded and focused, I make him laugh and keep him from getting too stressed out over work. He teaches me things that a younger man wouldn't have a clue about. I soak things up from him like a sponge. In many ways, the age difference is more of a plus than a minus. My parents have grown to accept our relationship and they love him now too. He's part of our family and I am of his. Had I listened to my friends and parents that warned me repeatedly that I was crazy to date someone who was 14 years older, or had he listened to all of his friends who made fun of him for dating a guy who was still in high school, we would have never made it past the 2nd date. For me it was love at first sight. For him it took him awhile because I was so young and it scared him. It's been a year and we have yet to even have a fight. Go figure. So, to all you naysayers who are stomping on the idea that people with a huge age gap can't work, I say you don't know what the f#cK you're talking about. Anything can work if the two people involved are in love, trust each other, and make the commitment. awwww how sweet |
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Oct 09, 2009 10:29 PM GMT
The best relationship I've had was with a guy 12 years younger. It can be fun for both if the chemistry is right.
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Oct 10, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
"You're all for the young dating the elderly. WHAT A SURPRISE."
You think 48 is "elderly " ?
I am saying that if you like someone and don't know their age, finding out shouldn't make any difference.... relationships or in this case just sex dates should be left to the ones involved ... it isn't relative what others think or say.
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Oct 10, 2009 7:56 AM GMT
48 is elderly for a 21-25 year old!!
I think 10 plus or minus is a good rule.
And Crazy is the ultimate deal breaker-not just a "lil" alot!!
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Oct 10, 2009 9:45 AM GMT
Well, this is encouraging...that said, its been so long since I've been on a date - I've probably forgotten the who, what, where, and, how! Oh well.  |
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Oct 10, 2009 10:43 AM GMT
Well, I'm 55 as of a couple of weeks ago. I've always dated guys under my own age. Two years ago, I dated a guy that was 37. I really a truly loved him. I thought we loved each other. After about a year, he told me that he wanted to break things off. He started with the bit about, "when you're 70, I'll be 53" and so on. And then one day he said, "I don't want to be alone in the end". You can't even imagine how much that hurt hearing it. Because I knew that if he felt that way, that we wouldn't be able to make it for the long term. I told him there are no guarantees in life. That he could walk out the door and get hit by a bus, and that I'd be the one that was alone in the end. I told him that loving someone in the moment was the most important thing. But it didn't matter. He not only split, but he couldn't even talk to me about it anymore.
In the end, he will probably be alone anyway. He had a three way and got genital herpes and now no one really wants him, except for casual, anonymous sex. He'll eventually die alone with his two cats and nobody else because he doesn't know how to have a relationship with anyone and he dislikes himself.
There were lessons that I thought I could teach him, but he was unteachable. There was love that I thought I could give him, but he made himself unlovable. He will not only die alone now, he will die unhappy, knowing that he gave up on the one person that loved him.
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Oct 10, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
Gymlocker, that is such a sad story, I hope others at least think about it,
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Oct 10, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
At the Gay Games, I met a guy I liked at the registration and he seemed to like me as well.
We talked quite a bit there and even had a good hug.
After meeting for a great dinner together, the conversation showed us to be quite compatible and he complimented my looks and build saying I was "his type to the tee "
We went to my room, held hands and started to get more intimate when he asked my age. I thought I had told him before, but maybe not... he was 45 and we were hugging and kissing and I told him my age he suddenly pulled away in shock and would not look me in the eyes. He make excuses to leave and he did. We had previously exchanged phone/email/home addresses but of course I never heard from him again,
I asked him on his way out if the age was a problem and he said yes, he couldn't date anyone over 45 which he thought I was.
Of course, I had not changed in the two days we knew eachother but it was an extreme issue for him.
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Oct 10, 2009 4:46 PM GMT
I only date older guys because I find them infinitely more interesting, sexier, and they know what they want and how to treat a guy. I've tried dating younger a few times and it just doesn't work for me. Obviously I'm not going to be attracted to some old geezer who acts old and doesn't take care of himself. There is nothing sexier than a older man who has taken good care of himself and who still has a lot of energy and lives an active lifestyle. The mate I am dating now is 25 years older. I sometimes forget that we are different ages because he is more of a kid than I am. He has a better body, and has as much or more energy than I do. I would say don't knock the age difference thing unless you have tried it because it can work and can be very hot.
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Oct 10, 2009 4:51 PM GMT
Niceguy89 saidwell thanks for all the replies, didnt expect so many in such a short while :O
Thing is also that I never had sex before, so this would be my first experience, he said he will be gentle and even said he was fine meeting me in a public place and see from there on how it goes.
Also he is in Amsterdam, which is like 2h away for me and while im travelling I have 2h to be nervous which will probably lead me to not going
I just need a guy like Bartnews Hot, a bit older than I am and just as tall!!
Also im not out either so going to gayclubs in the city i live is not an option for me. for that I would have to go to Amsterdam as well, rent a room, search the internet for a good gayplace to go out and then go... and im just a poor student Personally, if this is your first time having sex I'd say hold off - especially since there's a distance involved and expenses to be figured into the mix. I'd recommend saving a few coins here or there and planning a trip to a spot and getting together with someone who you can chat/cam with and have a reasonable expectation it's going to go well. It takes a little time to get to know someone online (and even then there are no guarantees). To your specific question: the age thing is meaningless. If you're attracted, you're attracted. |
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Oct 10, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
MikemikeMike said48 is elderly for a 21-25 year old!!
I think 10 plus or minus is a good rule.
And Crazy is the ultimate deal breaker-not just a "lil" alot!! The only rule should be that there are no rules. Whatever works. |
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Oct 10, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
TallGWMvballer said"You're all for the young dating the elderly. WHAT A SURPRISE."
You think 48 is "elderly " ?
I am saying that if you like someone and don't know their age, finding out shouldn't make any difference.... relationships or in this case just sex dates should be left to the ones involved ... it isn't relative what others think or say. I'm talking about you. you're not 48. you're 62. You're not going to be against dating someone younger. You definitely don't want a 62 yr old man. |
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Oct 10, 2009 5:27 PM GMT
Age has never been a factor for me really. From the time I was in my early 20s, if I found a man attractive and there was mutual attraction, then I was fine with that. Now that I'm older, it still isn't an issue for me either way, but I am surprised at how specific (and how frequently) some guys are about setting age limits... that's a guy's prerogative, I guess, but you may be cutting yourself off from a really good man. I'm routinely rejected by guys (not intentionally) because I fall out of their stated age parameters... it doen't bother me, I just don't get it sometimes.
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Oct 10, 2009 9:25 PM GMT
"I'm talking about you. you're not 48. you're 62. You're not going to be against dating someone younger. You definitely don't want a 62 yr old man." So you are saying 62 is elderly to you ? No where in my posts or profile does it say or imply that! Why are you so vitriolic towards anyone older than yourself? What will you think of yourself and who will you be going after when YOU are 62 assuming you reach that age in good health? I would gladly date someone 62 and have seen guys that age and older that I find very attractive but they are in relationships or simply unavailable On this site there are NO, ZERO, NONE attractive (to me guys) over 50 that are single and available, in Los Angeles... at least none that I can find.  On other sites I see guys I would love to date (over 50 and 62) but most are far far away. |
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Oct 10, 2009 10:59 PM GMT
so in the end it all comes down to one's own hangups , not taste.
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Oct 10, 2009 11:14 PM GMT
There are many guys who are extremely attractive in their older age, 30-40 give or take some. and although they real fine, given the chance I wouldnt do it. When I'm older, the people I am with will be older. For a relationship, i never let it differ more than 2 or 3 years
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Oct 10, 2009 11:19 PM GMT
Not sure I have a limit if everything feels right and we click.....but young wise I wont go younger than I am. But I know I would love to meet Anderson Cooper.........I find him so attractive. |
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Oct 10, 2009 11:23 PM GMT
Age is irrelevant. It's a number. Why do people put so much emphasis on a damn number? Love doesn't have limits so why should you confine yourself to one? Broaden your horizons and open yourself up to experiences. I grow weary of these circular threads. |
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Oct 10, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
hardguy7 saidI usually like them in 30's to early 40's unless they hv maintained their bods well. Most of my "buddies" fall into that range. Too many after that hv let themselves go to hell. Really pleasently surprised how many "older" guys on here r VERY WELL MAINTAINED. Not so in the general population, sorry to say. lol
Have had them as young as college guys and no problem "rocking their world" as they say. lol Absolutely no problem as "pitcher" with long term endurance & stamina here. That's due to the generalization such as this. Plus it seems a lot of gay couple split so often that it leaves older guys still playing the field and therefore must those guys must keep a grand appearance. |
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Oct 11, 2009 12:00 AM GMT
age is def not an issue with me. All i want is for the guy to work out, eat properly and take care of himself. In fact i find older men very sexy.
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Oct 11, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
Being older, my question is how young I'd go. When I was 50, I always said 25. Now, at 65, I say 30ish. But I'm not an age Nazi. My long time partner (15 years) is now almost 40. It's worked for us, although most of the gay community thinks he's a gold digger. He's not, trust me. He's devoted enough to have seen me through two bouts of cancer, and 5 surgeries. That has to say something about him.
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Oct 11, 2009 12:22 AM GMT
15 years versus 27 years-any way you slice it, that's some significant difference. In response to your question, for younger guys the cut off is 26 and usually guys no older than a year or two than me. So let me visualize this: When you were spitting up formula and couldn't hold your head up straight, he was already 27 holding down a job? Wow!!  |
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Oct 11, 2009 3:09 AM GMT
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Oct 11, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
let's twist this a bit.
If a man 75.y.o. , very wealthy, asked me to live with him for 5 years and then would set me free with like $2million in compensation, unless he's a major asshole i'd probably do it.
yeah, it's whorish , but hey, women do it all the time and don't seem any worse for it. :p
and who knows , maybe i'd stay.
and if i offered the same to a guy in his early 20's here, i'd probably need a secretary to handle the applications..remember : $2million. :p :p
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Oct 11, 2009 3:50 AM GMT
No one should be dating anyone outside of their age range of say 10yrs radius, if u do, ur doomed It will never work, and just be about sex n money  I tell younger girls n guys NO WAY, I don't look my age, or act like it, but I totally respect sum 1 in my ballpark, bcuz we got sumthin n common  |
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Oct 11, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
masculine31 saidNo one should be dating anyone outside of their age range of say 10yrs radius, if u do, ur doomed It will never work, and just be about sex n money I tell younger girls n guys NO WAY, I don't look my age, or act like it, but I totally respect sum 1 in my ballpark, bcuz we got sumthin n common Wow. You're really on a roll. This is even stupider than the last stupid thing you said. |
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Oct 11, 2009 4:35 AM GMT
"Thats BS. Stop Lying. You don't want a man your age. No one chooses to be with a man your age. You want a smooth young muscled boy like everyone else."
OK I don't know why you insist on continuing to attack me but you are FAR off base and if you hate for something just come out and say it otherwise FUCK OFF!
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Oct 11, 2009 5:05 AM GMT
Actually, some of the longest lasting gay relationships are between men with significant age differences. I don't think there is a rule for everyone about how many years can be between two adults in a relationship. When I first came out in 1979, I saw a lot of young guys acting pretty crazy, drinking, drugging, and being self-destructive. The first man I met who seemed sane was 25 years older than I. He and I had a relationship for two years--I moved away from Madison to Minneapolis to go to graduate school. Now I'm physically attracted to younger guys, but more intellectually and emotionally connected with older men. I've met some 70 year old men (I am 52) that I would like to date--handsome, lively men. The guys I fantasize about are much younger than I. As far as a relationship is concerned, I am most likely to seek someone about my age within 10 years. As far as sex is concerned, no one under 18. However, this is a moot point since in the last year I've had sex with two guys, one about 2 months older than I and the other in his late 30's.
It's not that I'm not interested in dating. It's pretty tough for most everyone to date in MInneapolis from what I hear, but especially if you are over 40. The pool of available out gay men tends to shrink as you age. I socialize mostly in potlucks, one group which has men from age 25 to 60 (mostly 30's-50's), another which is older (30's-70's). Over the years, I've dated only a couple of men from these potluck groups, but I enjoy their company very much. The last man I dated was my age, but he had just come out after leaving his wife less than a year before. We had a great time for a while, enjoying each other, traveling together. It seemed that he had so little experience with gay relationships that he didn't know what to do and broke up with me after five months.
No one need date anyone they are not attracted to. I think there is a lot of harsh judgment in the gay community about who dates whom. If an older man and a younger man want to date each other, why the hell should anyone else care? Take care of your own relationships and make them good. I didn't face the negative judgments of straight society in coming out only to accept the negative judgments of other gay people about who should date whom. It is hard enough for gay men to find their way and develop happy relationships without hostility from those from whom you might want support.
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Oct 11, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
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Oct 11, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
MunchingZombie saidYou find the guy hot... what is the problem?
So you go over there and you have a lousy fuck. Too bad.
Or, you go over there and have a wonderful fuck. Awesome!
Either of those scenarios have happened before to millions of people, and how old the person was had nothing to do with it. So go over there and slobber on some cock. occam's razor at its finest. i love this undead man! |
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Oct 11, 2009 6:08 AM GMT
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Oct 11, 2009 7:06 AM GMT
UrsaMajor saidAs long as I have a defibrillator handy it's all good. Lmfao As long as the spark is there go for it. Sex is one thing a relationship is where I draw lines on age. |
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Oct 11, 2009 7:21 AM GMT
I have a hard time identifying with people my age. I tend to get along better with people at least 10 years my senior. The few friends I have who are close to my age are mostly straight and/or people I work with. As far as attraction goes just check out my hot list, although there are a few exceptions, I tend to find older, muscular guys incredibly attractive. While I find some younger guys attractive, I rarely find that I have anything in common with them and am hard pressed to remember the last time I slept with someone less than 5 years older than me.
That said, if I met some 6'2" solid muscle UFC fighter who happened to be 22 and needed a bed for the night, who am I to deny him?
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Oct 13, 2009 8:21 AM GMT
SAHEM62896 saidI care more about the person than their age. I think so.
:-) |
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Oct 13, 2009 12:21 PM GMT
Age is never gona be a hurdle wn it comes to any true relationship. I'm sure 40+ guys are more passionate both in sex and in carrying out a relationship, since dy hv traveled the so called life road and they know to appreciate the uniqueness in everyone. U may not trust a younger guy just coz he's young and he is experimenting still (no offence we all hv been young). In fact my fist relationship was with a guy who was 20 years older to me and my present relation ship is with a person who's again 15 years older to me. Irrespective of their age I’ve never felt they are old for me coz they wr so gud enough in accommodating my passion towards life and curiosity towards xxx. So if you would ask me I’ll say oldies are the way to go. I hope most of us in this forum will be in the same page as me in this topic.
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Oct 14, 2009 9:26 PM GMT
Niceguy89 saidHey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting NOT a problem for me, I have reached the age where I rarely meet anyone older than me [don't ask. I never tell till we've met eyeball to eyeball or jockey shorts to jockey shorts, but some have recently taken me for as young as 50] BUT let me tell you sonnyboy, 47 aint old! And youth is no problem for me either. I've been with all ages [as young as 18 and upwards of 80] and believe me there are great lays as well as bombs among all ages. The only question is "What can you offer each other? |
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Oct 14, 2009 9:29 PM GMT
I usually prefer with 8-10 years of my age so we can grow old together. I've read the some of the bible though and heard of people living for thousands of years so I'm more about looks in general.
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Oct 14, 2009 9:30 PM GMT
Cupidshold saidid go all the way to a hundred WOULDN'T WE ALL?! -- want to go all the way to 100. |
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Oct 14, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
Quite_a_catch saidI've known some pretty immature "mature" guys....
and I've had the pleasure of knowing some great well rounded "mature" younger guys....
It just depends on the person.
U got THAT right Buddy! There are smart young guys and smart old guys, and dumb young guys and dumb old guys. The same goes for handsome, ugly, sweet, poor, rich, and any other adjective you can think of ! |
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Oct 14, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
Draoiocht saidI think the oldest I'd ever go is 5-7 years ahead (I'm 20, so 27 is pushing it) only because I'd prefer someone in the same phase of life that I'm in.
I find it hilarious and pathetic how some guys, say at age 37, set standards such as: "looking for someone 18-35, NO ONE OVER 40".
lulz
And I'm more of a personality guy, so even if he is hot, I'm not letting a 35 yo touch me. My hand can do anything he can. Almost. DREAM ON, DREAMER. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE MISSING! Hands have their place --- and their limitations! |
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Oct 14, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
DODGY1974 saidA person must draw the line somewhere...
I guess I'll say if he's dead, I'm not interested. I'm with you on that Honey. But some guys [regardless of age] are dead even tho they're still walking around. They just don't have enough sense to lie down and get buried. |
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Oct 14, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
gymlocker saidWell, I'm 55 as of a couple of weeks ago. I've always dated guys under my own age. Two years ago, I dated a guy that was 37. I really a truly loved him. I thought we loved each other. After about a year, he told me that he wanted to break things off. He started with the bit about, "when you're 70, I'll be 53" and so on. And then one day he said, "I don't want to be alone in the end". You can't even imagine how much that hurt hearing it. Because I knew that if he felt that way, that we wouldn't be able to make it for the long term. I told him there are no guarantees in life. That he could walk out the door and get hit by a bus, and that I'd be the one that was alone in the end. I told him that loving someone in the moment was the most important thing. But it didn't matter. He not only split, but he couldn't even talk to me about it anymore.
In the end, he will probably be alone anyway. He had a three way and got genital herpes and now no one really wants him, except for casual, anonymous sex. He'll eventually die alone with his two cats and nobody else because he doesn't know how to have a relationship with anyone and he dislikes himself.
There were lessons that I thought I could teach him, but he was unteachable. There was love that I thought I could give him, but he made himself unlovable. He will not only die alone now, he will die unhappy, knowing that he gave up on the one person that loved him. SAD BUT TRUE. A FRIEND OF MINE RECENTLY DIED AT 93. HIS PARTNER, 20 YEARS YOUNGER, DIED 25 YEARS AGO, AND HE'S BEEN ALONE SINCE.. THEY HAD BEEN TOGETHER 30 YEARS. |
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Oct 14, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
MikemikeMike said48 is elderly for a 21-25 year old!!
I think 10 plus or minus is a good rule.
And Crazy is the ultimate deal breaker-not just a "lil" alot!! NAH!!! I'VE BEEN WITH GUYS YOUNGER THAN MY GRANDCHILDREN AND THEY'VE HAD A BALL WITH ME. THAT'S WHY I NEVER TELL MY AGE UNTIL AFTER WE'VE MET AND CHECKED EACH OTHER OUT |
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Oct 14, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
ummm gone to fifty... haha once.. but like age is somewhat of a turn on sometimes ... really cool people when you stop looking at age
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Oct 14, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
TucsonGradJock saidI only date older guys because I find them infinitely more interesting, sexier, and they know what they want and how to treat a guy. I've tried dating younger a few times and it just doesn't work for me. Obviously I'm not going to be attracted to some old geezer who acts old and doesn't take care of himself. There is nothing sexier than a older man who has taken good care of himself and who still has a lot of energy and lives an active lifestyle. The mate I am dating now is 25 years older. I sometimes forget that we are different ages because he is more of a kid than I am. He has a better body, and has as much or more energy than I do. I would say don't knock the age difference thing unless you have tried it because it can work and can be very hot. RIGHT ON! MY BEST FRIEND MET A GUY WHO WAS IN HIS OWN BUSINESS WHEN MY FRIEND WAS BORN. THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 25 YEARS. THEY'RE NOW 83 AND 62 AND STILL VERY MUCH IN LOVE |
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Oct 14, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
McGay saidIf what others would do affects what you would do, you have some work to do on yourself.
Also, and maybe I'll get some heat for this - a guy who's 47 taking a sexual interest in a guy who's 19 sounds suspect to me, whether he promised to be gentle with you or not. WITH THAT ATTITUDE YOU'LL NEVER FIND ANYONE |
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Oct 14, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
Age is usually a summary for a whole lot of other information. It captures several big things that have to be worked through in a relationship:
life stage: really young men at the start of their careers, for example, versus the middle, versus retirement
Health: Young people usually are not patient enough to deal with the health issues of some older people, especially if they don't have any themselves.
Appearance: Sometimes older people just can't help not being as pretty, though some look great.
Fitness/fatness: Most people let themselves go after a certain age. But people who don't can look as hot as they did right out of high school.
Shared cultures: Younger and older men simply are not going to have the same cultural references.
It can be worth it to overcome these, and they can even enhance a relationship, depending, e.g., the cultural differences can be a source of interest.
Or if you just want a roll in the hay, you can always pick the hottest guy you can find no matter what his age...
Oh and I almost forgot: How old or young would I go? However old or young I want. Jeez. (OK. I admit I wouldn't go younger than about 25 or older than about 60. I lose my cultural bearings with people younger or older than that.)
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Oct 16, 2009 5:40 PM GMT
CreaseHem saidI usually prefer with 8-10 years of my age so we can grow old together. I've read the some of the bible though and heard of people living for thousands of years so I'm more about looks in general. There's a reason why people lived longer then.....ask me about it sometime. |
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Oct 16, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
I think older guys are way sexy. from 30 to 47. I think the hottest guy I ever saw was 47.
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Oct 16, 2009 5:51 PM GMT
I only date guys under 30 if they pursue me and there is a mutual connection. I'm beginning to get known for chasing younger guys, which is clearly not the case. The last guy that I met where I would have to liked to continue seeing was 50....but it appears guys older than myself don't take me serious, or as a serious consideration for dating or a relationship....maybe they think Im younger than I am.
Anyhow, what was the question? Oh yeah, my limit is Pierce Brosnan's age. Yes Pierce, I am coming onto you!
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Oct 16, 2009 7:02 PM GMT
It seems a lot of people are getting hung up on numbers, and not really paying attention to intent and context (sex date, friend with benefits, boyfriend/lover, monogamous or non-monogamous partner, the list goes on) and these are just labels, as most guys would be quick to point out, most relationships don't fall easily into any one category.
As far as context, yes, any adult of any age pursuing sex with anyone under the age of consent (which varies from place to place) is breaking the law, pure and simple. But a 27 year old having a loving relationship (dating, monogamous, or otherwise) with a 45 year old (as I and my first live-in partner were) is basically NOYB.
And a one-off hookup between consenting adults of any age...as long as no-one gets hurt (physically or emotionally) or sent to the STD clinic? Good for them, hope they had a good time/got off, happens all the time, just go to the local bars or bathouses or anywhere else gay men go to meet.
Personal experience? As a 20 something, I hooked up/dated several guys who were in their 40's; I've always been attracted to experience, and was lucky enough to have had liasons with men who took decent care (if not better) of themselves. In my 30's, I found myself having the occasional hookup with a handsome 50-something, over 6' tall and about 220 of muscle, and I went so far as to hookup with a versa hung 60 year old who could teach a thing or two to most porn stars. Now in my 40's, my most recent regular sexual partners are in their early 50's, and I still tend to look more at guys my own age or older...but I've had hookups with guys in their late 30's. Will I ever go much younger? I never say never, although I would think it unlikely. Check in with me in my 50's.
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Oct 16, 2009 7:15 PM GMT
I've always been attracted to guys younger than me -- sexually, physically, emotionally. My boyfriend is almost 8 years my junior. Don't know why...it's just the way it works, like liking guys instead of chicks.
I've actually never been sexually attracted to anyone much older than me.
HOWEVER...proving there is an exception to every general rule, if my boyfriend died tomorrow, I would do Dan Savage in a wild heartbeat (he's 45).
Not only do him in every conceivable way, but I would let him make beautiful sarcastic witty little babies in me.
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Oct 16, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
It seems there are quite a few opinions on here going both ways. I can only tell you that one of my best friends is 45 and his partner is 62. Thats a 17 year age difference and they have been together for 23 years now, actually it will be 24 years next month. They met when my friend was 22 and his partner was 39. They have worked together at times, lived together from a few weeks after they met and are still going strong, so I have to say sometimes if you click then age difference doesn't matter. They are both happy and very content with their lives so I say I'd be a lucky man if I met someone and could last 23 years together no matter what our age difference.
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Oct 16, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
He was 46...I was 22. I didn't meet him on here. Learning the ropes from an 'experienced' guy never hurts. . |
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Oct 16, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
Niceguy89 saidHey,
what if you meet some1 thats incredibily hot, at least you think so, and there definitly is a sexual spark. You like him, he likes you. Then he tells you his age.
How old would you go?
Or for the elder guys in our midst
How young would you go?
Cause I met this guy online... and we cammed a little, was fun.
Then he tells me he is 47.. though looks 35 or so... I could live with 35
but 47... im 20...
he wants me to come over....... but im doubting I would go as high as 65 and as low as 36 |
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Oct 16, 2009 8:39 PM GMT
I'm open. So far I've found out guys in their 30's are better in bed. I met a really cool guy I've got a date with on Saturday who's 31 and I think he's hot as hell. Thats a 10 year difference between us but doesn't feel that way. I'm definitely attracted to guys close to my age so as I said I'm open but most of those guys I don't seem to find a connection with so far. Maybe my cut off would be early 40's where they look like mid 30's. It really just comes down to that spark.
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Oct 16, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
raisingholzy saidI'm open. So far I've found out guys in their 30's are better in bed. I met a really cool guy I've got a date with on Saturday who's 31 and I think he's hot as hell. Thats a 10 year difference between us but doesn't feel that way. I'm definitely attracted to guys close to my age so as I said I'm open but most of those guys I don't seem to find a connection with so far. Maybe my cut off would be early 40's where they look like mid 30's. It really just comes down to that spark. Well said. Age cannot encompass all factors. I never thought I'd date a guy over 30 or 35, and while in the past I've had some FWB relationships with guys who were 35, I never saw there being a serious relationship developing because we were clearly just in two very different stages of life. But I've started dating an awesome guy who's 36 now, and I still can't believe that he's 10+ yrs older than me. In terms of looks, personality, shared culture/interests, he easily beats any of the 20 yr old guys I've met and I feel that spark with him. Never turn down someone solely on the basis of their age because you never know when the entire package of a guy turns out to be something incredible. That said, I think larger age gap relationships tend to work better if you're both in a similar stage of your lives (though anything can be overcome). It's not easy to find that though... in my particular case I think we clicked because we're both grad students. |
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Oct 17, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
I was 19, he was 43. I blame him for me being good in bed now. : |
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Oct 17, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
15 years in between.
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Oct 17, 2009 6:00 PM GMT
pierced saidIt seems there are quite a few opinions on here going both ways. I can only tell you that one of my best friends is 45 and his partner is 62. Thats a 17 year age difference and they have been together for 23 years now, actually it will be 24 years next month. They met when my friend was 22 and his partner was 39. They have worked together at times, lived together from a few weeks after they met and are still going strong, so I have to say sometimes if you click then age difference doesn't matter. They are both happy and very content with their lives so I say I'd be a lucky man if I met someone and could last 23 years together no matter what our age difference.
Great example, mate. These guys posting that it can never work with a big age gap don't know shit. It can. It all depends on the maturity level of the younger and the energy level of the older and how their chemistry works together. There are no rules in this game of love and people should try to keep an open mind at all times when they meet someone who floats their boat and makes them feel good. To walk away from a potential mate simply because there is an age gap, without even giving it a chance, is potentially walking away from the love of your life. Give everything a chance. If it works, that is all that matters. If it doesn't work, at least you gave it a whirl and explored the possibility. |
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Oct 17, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
For a hook up or a dating scenario? Hook up.... no age limit as long as there is a spark. To date.... I prefer no more than 12 years on either side but it depends on the guy.
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Oct 17, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
Guys over 40 are pretty much obsolete and irrelevant to gay life/culture. I can't imagine how young, hot guys can bear to even look at them. I say we convene those death panels and put them out of their misery.
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Oct 20, 2009 9:12 PM GMT
Speaking for myself in the over 50 group, I can't help it if you were born late......
LOL.. I used to say I would at least like them to know the same Presidents I do.
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Oct 20, 2009 9:18 PM GMT
well i dated a 47 when i was 17, but i never planed to live with so i didnt,
and im 36 i wold go no less then 21.
if i was you i prob look 4 some one my age.
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Oct 20, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
I have only "dated" one guy and he was 43. We had a lot in common, he is a great kisser and an outstanding bottom, I mean outstanding. We broke up because he was an untreated bipolar guy. He is now being treated and is a new person, but I saw a very mean side to him that I can't go visit again. On a side note, he called me today and wants to go to a gay AA meeting tomorrow nite.
Anyway, I have slept with a range of guys mostly within 5-8 years of my age. But I have a 20 and a 24 yo college students that come over and just LOVE older guys. I dont get what they see in me (other than stamina and experience), but once I got over the creepiness factor I am enjoying the hell out of them. I have also slept with a guy 62 years old that had the hard body of a 30 yo or better. He was amazing and if he lived locally I wouldnt hesitate to try to have a relationship with him, regardless of the age difference.
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Oct 20, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
USMmmm saidGuys over 40 are pretty much obsolete and irrelevant to gay life/culture. I can't imagine how young, hot guys can bear to even look at them. I say we convene those death panels and put them out of their misery. I nominate Sara Palin as panel Head. She has got the right stuff By the looks of things I am first on the Panels list. So I better get my walker and denture cream and scram!  USMmmm You can still hide..... a little prep H under the eyes you look 39 But seriously right now in my life if you read my profile: I like jumping on a tramp so there are no age limits. The only requirement is your ability to bounce. : lol: So any of you hot photoshop 20 somethings like to get bounced let me know! Still like sex kittens LB and JP |
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Oct 20, 2009 10:19 PM GMT
Age is just a number, as long as all the equipment works (upstairs and downstairs) I don't care if you're 80!
Younger is fine... but I don't like "boys" of any age.
Roccoe, you're the first on my list!
...my panel is for screaming orgasms... at least three. ;)
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Oct 20, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
I love older guys so I will go all the way to mid 40s!
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Oct 20, 2009 10:42 PM GMT
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Oct 20, 2009 10:45 PM GMT
GadvFreak saidI love older guys so I will go all the way to mid 40s! Dude your barely legal Everyone's older how do you feel about the elderly 46 and up! didn't want to leave USMmmm out |
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Oct 20, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
Noooooo sir, I AM legal. Lol.. And above 45. Maybe hookup, notto get serious with..
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Oct 20, 2009 11:09 PM GMT
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Oct 21, 2009 5:16 AM GMT
lilTanker saidage isn't a spark killer for me... I don't care.. gimme a hot fucker of any age (but above 18.. preferably 20) and I'm good I agree with liltanker, age is not an issue when it come to sex. the chemistry and the dynamic between two persons is more important. Sexiness has no age. I am a visual and tactile person so my criterias are base on the physical, not on the age. I met once a guy from a sex site, his profile was mentioning he was 43, I agree to met him. I had a great experience with him. After we were done, he confess he was 57. I would had never guess. We date several months and he dumb me for an older guy. The criterias for sex and relationship sometime are different. If I get a boner nothing else matter. I know I am so primitive. |
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Oct 21, 2009 5:27 AM GMT
Its all up to you... if you're "just" having sex, then the whole age issue really goes out the window and then its just a matter of attraction and chemistry. There's a bartender at a local bar who I think is hot... he's in his early 50s... could be my dad, but whatever. Hot is hot. Would I date him? no. I think the inter-generational gap is way too large. We've had different experiences in life and I think those issues would eventually come up in dating etc. Personally, right now I wouldn't date older than 10 years above me and 4 years below me.... when i'm 35, maybe it might look more like 7 years above and below. Just a hunch. |
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Oct 21, 2009 6:10 AM GMT
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Oct 21, 2009 6:16 AM GMT
USMmmm saidGuys over 40 are pretty much obsolete and irrelevant to gay life/culture. I can't imagine how young, hot guys can bear to even look at them. I say we convene those death panels and put them out of their misery. that was too funny .. *sniggers* yet why would they want to do that when they can have a laugh watching us die the slow agonizing painful death . but vengeance is mine says the Lard . |
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Nov 02, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
Age meant more to me when I was younger. From 25 to 35, I refused to date anyone younger (say, more than 2 or three years) than me because I found they were in a whole different place physically and emotionally.
After 35, each year brought less frequent change and now it's nothing to be with a younger guy. I'd still be rather nervous about being with someone in their 20s though. Not sure why.
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Nov 02, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
i'm 20, have been with a 36 year old. it all depends on how you feel about him and what attracts you to him. remember age is just a number
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Nov 02, 2009 2:51 PM GMT
For just a sexual thing, I don't care about age. For a relationship I'd go as far as 15 years up, 5 years down. I'm 32.
Everyone is different though. Go with what makes you happy.
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Nov 02, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
15 years up
7 years down
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Nov 02, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
I think it all depends on the amount of money they are willing to give you.
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Nov 02, 2009 3:17 PM GMT
Its possible that when a younger guy is with an older guy, he's NOT looking for a daddy.
Its possbile that when an older guy is with a younger guy, he's NOT looking for a son.
Hopefully with age comes wisdom and experience, so a younger guy might appreciate that in an older guy.
However, some older guys are way too set in their ways and kinda farty. Sometimes I've dated older guys and they become too smart ass and think they always know the right thing and unwilling to shake things up.
Some younger gus are incredibly smart and sophisticated and don't subscribe to the twink mentality. They also can learn from older generations and can benefit from good examples and avoid mistakes older ones have gone through.
I had an amusing conversation with this "spiritual" lady from the Carribean. After she"read" me, she told me she predicts that my destiny will be to connect with a soulmate that is 15 years younger than me. I asked her why. She told me I have an innocent young mind.
I'm still not sure if I should be insulted or proud. I think I'm insulted. I hope having an "innocent young mind" doesn't mean stupid and naive, or retarded.
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Nov 02, 2009 3:38 PM GMT
LOL THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME WHEN I WAS 19! this guy looked amazing we always had an amazing time... his fat wallet wasnt bad either.. however that was the farthest thing from my mind! this guy took care of himself. He cared about me passionately. We did things i wanted to do! he knew what to do in bed! good conversations. He was 50... He didnt look a day older than 30 it kind of freaked me out at first because i didnt know what the hell he was using to look that way! but i just said o well.. sometimes older more experienced and less drama is best! i will say i wont go older than 40 (besides i think guys in their 30s are so sexy and perfect!) but ummm i say age really as just being to old is dumb. who knows what you are missing out on? he and i broke it off because im in miami 3 weeks out of the month and hes out of the country about 3 weeks out of the month we saw each other about 5 days a month... we remain amazing friends.. we stil have the spark and the sex... dont let age bother you!
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Nov 02, 2009 3:51 PM GMT
Well at 26 yrs old.. and having had this convo with my best straight friend whom is Ironically in this same dilemma... 32 yr old girl likes him.. he likes her I guess but his momma ain't having it. Momma hit the fan when she heard about this. She is a probation officer and sees this all the time... old "cougars" going for younger guys just for the goods then leave them. I couldn't help but laugh when she said that. I think that for myself the oldest I would go is this:
21/22....26.....28/29
I might actually might go for 20 at the youngest only cause I think 4 yrs up or down is okay but yeah... talking to a guy that is 20 but he's a newbie and well yeah... you know how that can go.
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Nov 02, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
Speaking as an older guy I guess many of us do feel that younger gay guys are ageist. But then is that surprising? How many straight young guys go for older women (unless they are rich!)? So those of us who are older have to be realistic. But if you are young and an older guy is physically fit and intellectually capable and you have some sort of social background in common - go for it. Oh and by the way we do know a thing or two!
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Nov 02, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
Niceguy89, it all depends on what you are comfortable with honestly. if you are weirded out by the age difference at least meet the man and see how things go face to face. You will never know how things will actually turn out unless you go for it balls out. Personally, I'm skeptical of guys who are under the age of 25...that transition from teen to young adult is too unstable a period for many guys in my experience. As for how much older...if they have more in common with my parents than with me....its not gonna work... and that is where age becomes a gray area for me. i dated a guy 12 years older than me...biologically...but it didnt work out because our interests were like polar opposites. but ive meet guys 20 to 40 years older who have turned me away, much to my displeasure, simply because I was too young for them...
but hell, if its just about gettin ur dick wet...get over the age and under him.
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Nov 02, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
i was 18 when i met my man he looked like he was 35 so i chose to beleive that. but weeks later i find out that he was infact 51 yrs old.
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