Is inexperience a liability?

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    Oct 09, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    Hello everyone. I hope this thread finds you well

    The guys I've been talking to recently are usually older than me. They happened to enjoy conversing with me and are looking for a relationship the thing is, while they may like me as a friend they wouldn't so soon consider a long-term relationship with me. Even some of the younger guys I've talked too say the same thing.

    I thought it might have something with my personality until I realized that all of them have already been in relationship before. More importantly they've claimed to be in love and their extra years of life make them more aware of their expectations for newer long-term partners.

    I'm not in a rush for a relationship (even though if would be nice to be in one) but I need to know from your experience, would you start a long-term relationship with someone who has:

    1. never been in love
    2. never been in a relationship

    Do you think that my inexperience with love and life poses too much of a liability for anyone?
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    Oct 09, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    I would not call it a liability as much as a "rite of passage". Everyone has to start from somewhere and people progress at different rates in EVERYTHING pertaining to life.

    Relationships teach you as much about yourself as they do about other people. Even when relationships don't turn out the way we want, we always have the opportunity to learn and grow as a person:



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    Oct 09, 2009 6:52 AM GMT
    Is inexperience a liability?

    perhaps.
    i'm not sure.

    i'm hoping someone would be willing to take that risk, regardless, cause i'm in the same boat.
  • EricLA

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    Oct 09, 2009 7:00 AM GMT
    At 22 and 23, I don't think the guys you'll be dating expect you to have a lot of relationship experience.

    As for love, just because you haven't experienced in the past doesn't mean you won't experience in the future. I don't think someone is going to look at you and think, "I really like this guy, we have a lot in common, but WOW, he's never been in love, there must be something wrong with him."

    Be the best person you can be and that's what people respond to.
  • Anto

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    Oct 09, 2009 10:14 AM GMT
    Is inexperience a liability?

    I think it is thought to be that way in general by a lot of guys that have experience. I feel like I'm in the same boat too though. I think it comes with being gay, well a 'new' gay.
    A lot of guys don't want to deal with the issues that might come up that they've already gone through, or they might feel intimidated in some way.
    I've noticed this with the topic of sex too icon_sad.gif.