Do all men think about sex!?

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    Oct 09, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    This site is MAINLY for networking and connecting with new people that are interested in common topics like health, workout tips, and general discussions, right? I also understand that this is a gay/bisexual network that is also used for sexual encounters as well. But, does everything need to be sexual?

    Personally, I use this site to expand my network of friends and share information about health and fitness. Meeting new people of all ages and races is what I enjoy. So why do 90% of the men that instant message me on here find a way to be sexual? They either want cyber sex, phone sex, cam2cam, or more. Do they have nothing else better to converse about? I have my relationship status listed on my profile, but I feel that it is a waste if guys ignore it and still tend to be sexual. At first, the conversation seems to be OK, but with guys, they turn into horny adolescents when they see a "hot" body or a young age listed. It is very uncomfortable for me because I have a boyfriend so I quickly end the conversation, but then I feel bad.

    Does anyone else feel the same way? Any suggestions on what I should do to diminish this from happening much?
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    Oct 09, 2009 7:52 PM GMT
    look men will be men an hey you cant really stop them you know guys are going to say whatever do whatever but the true answer lies how do u respond to the comments or the conversation they can only go sexual if u allow it countinues u controll the ky board you can stop writing so thats the only thing i can say
  • jgymnast733

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    Oct 09, 2009 8:19 PM GMT
    Yeah i get that alot, i think it has to do with my main pic...Guess i shouldnt have put all the goods out there for the world to see but ,this is an adult site so people should feel free to express themselves...It's up to us if we choose to continue with the conversation...I could say 'Dont take it so seriously', however a decent conversation with a cool level headed person is really what i'd prefer..
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    Oct 09, 2009 8:52 PM GMT
    Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!


    The time will come eventually when nobody wants you for sex.
  • jrs1

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    Oct 09, 2009 8:54 PM GMT

    do all men think about is sex?

    ... did you think of sex in order to write this?
  • Joeyphx444

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    Oct 09, 2009 9:00 PM GMT
    I agree with the OP

    It seems that men somehow always find a way to turn a conversation into sex. It can be funny as a joke like one time, but after that, I start to get turned off. My policy is keep it to yourself. I don't wanna know that you are watching porn, jacking off or whatever. It's natural to THINK about it, but taking action upon the thought and constantly talking about it or hinting at it is the problem. Sometimes always thinking about it is bad as well.

    I have had VERY FEW conversations with gay men that didn't involve anything sexual. No how big are you? Top or bottom? What are you into? Those are annoying. It makes me think that sex is only on your mind and that you cannot talk about anything else AND that I am just sex object. No thanks
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    Oct 09, 2009 9:01 PM GMT

    Put your tantalizing midsection away then.

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    Oct 09, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    Put your tantalizing midsection away then.



    He doesn´t mean that. Hés just upset.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Oct 09, 2009 9:07 PM GMT
    I don't know who is talking to who but I post pics of my body to prove that I am who I say, meaning I workout and am muscular. All too often I see guys online that say they are musc but don't have any pics of their bodies, so they probably are not or they are fat/beefy but like to say musc. This is another topic for another day icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 09, 2009 9:07 PM GMT
    CityJock12 saidDoes anyone else feel the same way? Any suggestions on what I should do to diminish this from happening much?


    If you want just substitute your picture with mine. That should take care of those pesky admirers.
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    Oct 09, 2009 9:52 PM GMT
    CityJock12 saidThis site is MAINLY for networking and connecting with new people that are interested in common topics like health, workout tips, and general discussions, right? I also understand that this is a gay/bisexual network that is also used for sexual encounters as well. But, does everything need to be sexual?

    Personally, I use this site to expand my network of friends and share information about health and fitness. Meeting new people of all ages and races is what I enjoy. So why do 90% of the men that instant message me on here find a way to be sexual? They either want cyber sex, phone sex, cam2cam, or more. Do they have nothing else better to converse about? I have my relationship status listed on my profile, but I feel that it is a waste if guys ignore it and still tend to be sexual. At first, the conversation seems to be OK, but with guys, they turn into horny adolescents when they see a "hot" body or a young age listed. It is very uncomfortable for me because I have a boyfriend so I quickly end the conversation, but then I feel bad.

    Does anyone else feel the same way? Any suggestions on what I should do to diminish this from happening much?


    So your hot list is an accumulation of guys you want health and fitness tips from?



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    Oct 09, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
    The most you can do is deny attention from the people you don't want to be talking to because a lot of the members here are only here because the site is "gay". Doesn't take a rocket scientist to know "gay" MAINLY implies sexuality and sex, which unfortunately trumps everything else a "fitness site", or any other organization, for that matter, is really meant to be.
  • EricLA

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    Oct 09, 2009 10:00 PM GMT
    Yes, I think about sex. And probably think about it a lot. But I'm also capable of having an intelligent conversation. I do not respond kindly to guys who just want to cam, or worse show me all their junk on cam without asking. Ugh. If we click and I'm attracted to you, I'll flirt, work in some innuendos, but let things develop from there. We're out there. But all these sites are a bit like the mail -- you have to sort through and ignore the junk mail before you get to the good stuff.
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    Well put a shirt on, then. icon_wink.gif

    Don't consider those IMs so seriously.

    Heck, we're in our 50s, married and monogamous and WE get the racy IMs from strangers too. Heh, one time we told a guy that we'd psychologically scar him permanently if we did what he suggested.

    Sense of humour!
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:14 PM GMT
    EricLA saidYes, I think about sex. And probably think about it a lot. But I'm also capable of having an intelligent conversation. I do not respond kindly to guys who just want to cam, or worse show me all their junk on cam without asking. Ugh. If we click and I'm attracted to you, I'll flirt, work in some innuendos, but let things develop from there. We're out there. But all these sites are a bit like the mail -- you have to sort through and ignore the junk mail before you get to the good stuff.


    Well if he's getting random im's from strangers he knows he can turn that off and like you said he can monitor his email as well. My honest opinion is he may have gotten caught by his BF flirting with someone on here and he's trying to play it like he's some victim of a bunch of horny gay men who just won't leave what he clearly feels is his hot ass alone. He already knows the answer to his own stupid question. He's a guy and he thinks about sex all the time himself. Thats why he has a group of hot guys listed. We know he doesn't want to do any thing sexual with any of them cause he's not here for any of that LOL.
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:21 PM GMT
    No not all men think about sex. I don't but it could also be because i'm working on my Master's so have more important things to worry about besides when my next lay will beicon_lol.gif
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    And alot of RJ members couldn't care less about the forums or fitness information. They're just on because they troll gay sites to hookup and here, the boys are prettier. I know of several who's activity level consists of little more than walking to the fridge. :-/
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    Not all the time. Maybe 90%. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    suck it up now pretty.. very soon your going to be considered old and useless by the gay population and society... then you'll be bitching about how guys just wont pay attention to you...

    Suppose you just can't win.
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    kscott6671 saidNot all the time. Maybe 90%. icon_biggrin.gif


    you're doing pretty good. I'm still at 99 icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidsuck it up now pretty.. very soon your going to be considered old and useless by the gay population and society... then you'll be bitching about how guys just wont pay attention to you...

    Suppose you just can't win.


    icon_lol.gif All these guys wanting him must be a fucking burden. Poor guy.
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    Oct 09, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    raisingholzy said
    lilTanker saidsuck it up now pretty.. very soon your going to be considered old and useless by the gay population and society... then you'll be bitching about how guys just wont pay attention to you...

    Suppose you just can't win.


    icon_lol.gif All these guys wanting him must be a fucking burden. Poor guy.

    Oh it must be terrible, I'm sure...
  • TexanMan82

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    Oct 09, 2009 11:53 PM GMT
    Do all men think about sex? Probably.
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    Oct 09, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    TexanMan82 saidDo all men think about sex? Probably.

    I can tell you... I'm thinking about it right now icon_twisted.gif
  • TexanMan82

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    Oct 09, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    TexanMan82 saidDo all men think about sex? Probably.

    I can tell you... I'm thinking about it right now icon_twisted.gif


    You're such a pig! icon_wink.gif