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    Dec 14, 2007 11:58 PM GMT
    REGRET - We all live with regret.

    Ok, here is the deal. A very good buddy of mine who all his life (72 years) wanted to be a competitive bodybuilder died last week. We both had the opportunity to compete in the Border States Bodybuilding Championship this past October 20. While we were back stage, the last coat of pro-tan being applied to his already brown body, he says to me... "I have always wanted to compete in a REAL bodybuilding contest....so now i can die." Here is the question. Of all the things going on in your life, no matter how much you have aged, would there be something that you wish you would have done before you die?
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    Dec 15, 2007 3:24 AM GMT
    That really is beautiful.
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    Dec 15, 2007 4:33 AM GMT
    Regrets for some things I have done.

    Regret for something I have not done? No.



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    Dec 15, 2007 4:33 AM GMT
    I wish I was more socially integrated and less anomic. I wish I was more euthymic. I wish my prefrontal cortices and my left temporal lobe werent fucked. As my Pa-Pa would say: "Wish in one hand and shit in the other". Radical acceptance is more useful than wishing.
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    Dec 15, 2007 3:20 PM GMT
    up to this point, i've done everything that i've wanted to do though my wishes is that i could've done them better and actually learnt from my mistakes. you only get one chance to do something for the first time and i always stuff up but i guess that's how you learn and get life experience but some things i always think back and kick myself for being stupid.
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    Dec 15, 2007 3:35 PM GMT
    I wish I could get back all the time I've wasted putting the toilet seat back down.
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    Dec 15, 2007 6:24 PM GMT
    YOU KNOW WHAT! I't may sound weird ..:
    but , when I die .. I'll not be able to regret ..(cuz i'll not be existed then).. not be able to think or feel..
    that's why I don't care .. the regret is in the last few moments before death ..icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 15, 2007 8:22 PM GMT
    "Radical acceptance is more useful than wishing."

    Amen and Hallelujah, brother!
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    Dec 15, 2007 11:22 PM GMT
    I'd like to have one really great love in my life before I die....
    - uh, oh yeah, I have that.
    well - no hurry about the dying part, then.
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    Dec 16, 2007 1:12 AM GMT
    My recent contemplation of death confirmed and emphaticized my feeling that when I draw my last breath, it is me who is dying not someone else. Therefore, I must live my life my way, right or wrong. If I let anyone tell me how to live my life, it is not him who will be dying at my end and, perhaps, saying "oh, fuck! I fucked up!"

    So I say to anyone who wants to tell me how to live, that until he can guarantee me another life on this earth, he has his life and I have mine. Buzz off.

    I would like to be able to read myself to death, literally. But I can definitely say after my recent therapy that you might not be able to do what you want. So dont put everything off.
  • Tyinstl

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    Dec 16, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    I regret my lifestyle these days, even as I live it. I need to get out there, but I don't know where to begin.
  • maximumrisk

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    Dec 18, 2007 5:01 PM GMT
    Tyinstl saidI regret my lifestyle these days, even as I live it. I need to get out there, but I don't know where to begin.


    Been there, done that.
    Its hard to come out of a pile of sh*t, but it cant stay that way forever. Where you begin is unimportant, the important part is that you select one thing and work on it and then the next a.s.o.

    @Topic: The only thing I want to be done when my time comes, is to know that my Family and my best friends are going to be fine. Thats all I need for eternal peace
  • Laurence

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    Dec 18, 2007 5:21 PM GMT
    I'd like to have said sorry to all those people I have wronged (intentionally or otherwise) during my life.

    I'd like to have said sorry to anyone I said bad things to, whether they deserved it or not.

    Lozx
  • SoDakGuy

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    Dec 18, 2007 5:58 PM GMT
    I regretted stealing clothes from my employer when I was a lot younger and that I spent so many years being depressed. I alienated so many people. I kick myself a lot over it, but I can't do that anymore, you know?

    I'm 30! I have a lot of life to live, you know. And even though this year was crappy, yet fantastic - my life just started. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 18, 2007 6:08 PM GMT
    I'm not dead yet... and i dont regret because i think it's a waste of life and time to "regret".

    I do hope that before i die i make it back to Taiwan and have a chance to explain some things to my aunt about my dad and his and my relationship.

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    Dec 18, 2007 6:21 PM GMT
    The only thing I would regret is if I didn't meet my half sister before I died. She was adopted and I only found out she existed a couple of years ago. We've talked on the phone and sent e-mails to each other, but she backed out of meeting me last summer. I don't want to force it, but I hope we have the chance to meet in person this year.
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    Dec 19, 2007 10:52 AM GMT
    I sometimes regret that I didn't kill my parents when I was young enough to only be subject to juvenile sentancing laws. I regret that I didn't kill my parochial school principal, and that sociopathic friend of his that tried to do me in, and then killed his poor wife some two months later.
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    Dec 26, 2007 6:51 PM GMT
    If I died tommorow I would regret not being my self all these years I never experienced a real relationship.....The only relationships (straight relationships) i've had were less than a week and i was only in them because of peer pressure...... I recently accepted the fact that im gay (Im eighteen), I've been in denial since 9th grade. Me trying to be something Im not was making me crazy; then i decided to come out to my 2 brothers and 1 of my friends in october of 2007......
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    Jan 03, 2008 5:31 PM GMT
    What would i want to do???? ermmmm, its a pretty hard question, there are so many things that you could always do; land my 720 on my snowboard, eat some more fudge, get a dredlocks wig, watch a scary movie with out humming or closing my eyes once, learn a couple more languages, go to the other continents i havent been to, try some other weird food and do as many extreme sports as i can do. Am sure there are loads more things i would want to do, but i cant think of them right now. Oh yeah i would try and make a world wide ban on using those hands free mobile phones when just walking around or stood on a bus, i mean your holding the wire up to your mouth with one hand and holding the ear piece thing in your ear with the other, whats the point. lol.
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    Jan 18, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    First of all, the story that started this thread is terrific and thoughtful.

    I can look back over the course of my life and see some major crossroads in which I have made decisions that led my life in completely new and different directions. There is no point (I think) in saying those decisions were good or bad. Moreover, looking at the consequences that are evident in my life now I can certainly say with assurance that I haven't any regrets.

    There is a lot that I still want and there is a lot that I still want to do. Notwithstanding that I try to keep in mind that things change in a nanosecond and that I have to live right now, in this body, in this second.

    Want is a driver and a curse (but in the end it is more of a driver).

    Calmer, kinder, wiser, (much better looking), those are all things I would wish to be.

    As far as gratitude my family is my biggest grace and it has stayed together through some pretty rough times (and I pray it need not be tested further).

    F...k there is just no limit to how lucky I am when it comes right down to it.

    Cheers,
    Terry
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    Jan 18, 2008 3:46 PM GMT
    ursamajor saidF...k there is just no limit to how lucky I am when it comes right down to it.


    Regret is gall and bitter wormwood. In my business I've learned that you can't worry about what happened yesterday, you have to make a sober assessment of where you are today and what you mean to do about it.

    A man who knows that he is lucky (if he is) has his head screwed on properly.
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    Jan 18, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    Mine would be to raise a kid (or two) to become a healthy, happy, prosperous adult.

    Leaving a community a well designed and much loved urban park comes in a close second.