Would you be offended if someone thought you were straight?

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    Oct 13, 2009 6:44 AM GMT
    Or would you be glad that you're not so obviously gay? Would it be a greater insult if someone thought you were a "flaming homosexual"?
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    Oct 13, 2009 7:05 AM GMT
    I kinda think it's funny.
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    Oct 13, 2009 8:16 AM GMT
    many variations of the "are fems evil and do you get embarrassed by them" thread have been done on RJ

    recently

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/680915/
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    Oct 13, 2009 1:13 PM GMT
    I'm a little offended only because of my own paranoia. I probably assume they mean I appear boring or stiff...uptight and unable to let my hair down. So I wonder if I am coming across that way.

    Plus, it hooks into another issue........the one about feeling disconnected from "mainstream gay communty".

    But my reactions really have nothing to do with them and more to do with how I feel about myself and only I have control over that.
  • rnch

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    Oct 13, 2009 1:35 PM GMT
    nahhhhh......happens all the time.

    but the looks on their faces, when my bf and I kiss in public, is priceless. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 13, 2009 1:46 PM GMT

    Neither of us particularly like being thought of as straight. It happens too often and gets tiresome explaining to people that we're not brothers. For Pete's sake we wear wedding rings and have 'Just Married' still pasted up in the truck window!

    Funniest so far: hetero couple pulled up beside us in their truck and asked through the window which one of us got married. I said both of us. She says,
    "Where are the the wives? Making dinner?"

    Bill took his hands off the wheel and made an encompassing gesture of us two. lol, you could see the wheels turning in their heads then coming to an abrupt and comical halt.

    They got it.

    -Doug
  • zakariahzol

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    Oct 13, 2009 2:22 PM GMT
    Not at all. Living in the closet, in a country where homosexuality is a crime, I am use of pretending to be straight. However , when I cross over to Thailand and some pimp try to get a prostitute (girls of course),for me, than we have a problem.
  • cowboyathlete

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    Oct 13, 2009 2:25 PM GMT
    beethoven15 saidI kinda think it's funny.
    Yep.
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    Oct 13, 2009 2:32 PM GMT
    nah, I wouldn't get offended.
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    Oct 13, 2009 2:38 PM GMT
    I'd slap them in the face with my Cher doll
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    Oct 13, 2009 2:40 PM GMT
    I'm glad when it happens to me because it changes people's perceptions of the gay stereotype they've come to know.

    I think it's a good thing because, like it or not, straight men are more afraid of men being feminine than what you do with your penis.
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    Oct 13, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI'm glad when it happens to me because it changes people's perceptions of the gay stereotype they've come to know.

    I think it's a good thing because, like it or not, straight men are more afraid of men being feminine than what you do with your penis.



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    Oct 13, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    Absolutely! I would be terribly OFFENDED! I put in a lot of time and effort to be the perfect Gay! What a retarded question.
  • jarhead5536

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    Oct 13, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    Once, right after boot camp, I went into a gay bar in DC, and after a few moments of sitting at the bar, the bartender said to me "You do realize that this is a gay bar, right?" I know this is very politically incorrect, but it was the most flattering thing anyone had ever said to me. I was a BIG OL' GIRL as a teenager, you see...
  • Roch_Athlete

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    Oct 13, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    I don't know why anyone would get offended. I get asked if I'm gay in gay bars all the time...and I've never been asked if I am any other time. My partner refers to me as his "straight boyfriend", and he's fairly fem which I don't care about either. Seems like there are more important things to get offended at.
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    Oct 13, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    rnch saidnahhhhh......happens all the time.

    but the looks on their faces, when my bf and I kiss in public, is priceless. icon_lol.gif


    Really? Who are these people? Are these people blind?
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    Oct 13, 2009 4:22 PM GMT
    not at all. it's really a non-issue.

    the funniest "i thought you were str8" moment so far happened a few weeks ago. the barista at the starbucks i normally go to is interested in my best friend, Leanna, who incidentally has a 5-year old kid. the barista asked some of our mutual friends if i was the baby's daddy! LOL!
  • DiverScience

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    Oct 13, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    I rarely care what people assume about me. Unless they're goign to come after me with a bat for it, they can take their assumptions and shove them up their ass.
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    Oct 13, 2009 4:29 PM GMT
    Blondizgd said
    rnch saidnahhhhh......happens all the time.

    but the looks on their faces, when my bf and I kiss in public, is priceless. icon_lol.gif


    Really? Who are these people? Are these people blind?


    Miaww

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    Oct 13, 2009 4:35 PM GMT
    Not offended at all. Its rather cool to break preconceived stereotypes. I'm about just being yourself without any put on behaviors.

    On a deeper level of thought, this could push the buttons of one's own insecurities about being perceived as gay - as if that's a bad thing.

    Ps. I don't care for musicals and Cher is not an Icon for me - go ahead, take away my gay card.icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 13, 2009 5:38 PM GMT
    It is funny that a lot of straight people think it is a compliment.
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    Oct 13, 2009 6:09 PM GMT
    Lostboy said

    Miaww
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    Too (forgive me- I hate this word) cute. She is so my type.
    Very few men think I'm straight.... only some women. I would not take it as a compliment or otherwise. Just as a comment. I'm not flamboyant or anything of that sort... *shurg*
  • Little_Spoon

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    Oct 13, 2009 6:11 PM GMT
    Everyone thinks I'm straight.
    So I wouldn't be surprised.



    If someone thought I was a flaming homosexual...

    I honestly don't know how I'd react.
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    Oct 13, 2009 6:24 PM GMT
    It seems completely irrelevant to me. It's as if I would be offended if someone assumed I was wearing cotton socks. I'm neither proud nor ashamed of it since its a simple fact.

    If someone thought I was a "flaming homosexual", I would assume that they were blind or had no conception of what 'flaming' was.
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    Oct 13, 2009 6:27 PM GMT
    I'd want to know what planet they were raised on. i'm pretty obvious