Why must it be bigger than yours?

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    Oct 14, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    If a guy is supposedly a 'TOP', why is he open to bottoming provided it must be with someone who is more endowed than he?

    I have my own thoughts on this, but I have to get feedback from other RJers.
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    Oct 14, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    I've never bottomed for a bigger penis than mine. o.o
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    Oct 14, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    AlexGuess saidI've never bottomed for a bigger penis than mine. o.o


    Me either. . . It's quite frustrating actually. I'd like to feel what I give sometimes.
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    Oct 14, 2009 6:53 AM GMT
    I guess you'd have to ask the guy in question...

    I've heard it both ways.. usually not in reference to their own size. Some "tops" are tops because of the pain associated with receiving anal sex, so if they were to try it, would want a smaller dick. Some I'm sure just want to try the submissive role every once in a while. What better than to submit to a footlong club? If you're gonna try something new, go big or go home! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:53 AM GMT
    spread me wide and butter my thighs gimme a biggy and I'll dive dive dive icon_razz.gif

    Actually I bottom for any guy I wanna sleep with if he wants to top and I've never met a guy who had that demand.
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    Oct 14, 2009 11:07 AM GMT
    ssguy69 saidIf a guy is supposedly a 'TOP', why is he open to bottoming provided it must be with someone who is more endowed than he?

    Not true for me. I'm versatile but favor being the top. When I bottom I like smaller than me, since I'm a bit tight, maybe because I don't bottom enough.

    A guy bigger than I am would destroy me, being already too large myself for some regular bottoms to take me. I've actually had guys outright refuse to even try, once they saw what I have. (On the other hand, some are delighted for having scored such a "trophy")

    One of the funniest times was a bottom who struggled & struggled to get me inside him, determined he was gonna take me if it killed him. But when I finally got inside he couldn't let me thrust. Instead he told me to just "twitch" which he really enjoyed, but made me giggle every time he had me do it.

    No, I definitely do not want a top bigger than I am.
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    Oct 14, 2009 12:12 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said

    . I've actually had guys outright refuse to even try, once they saw what I have. (On the other hand, some are delighted for having scored such a "trophy")


    I'm with lilTanker, what kind of whimps are you dating, a real man can take all that another man has to give
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    Oct 14, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidI guess you'd have to ask the guy in question...

    I've heard it both ways.. usually not in reference to their own size. Some "tops" are tops because of the pain associated with receiving anal sex, so if they were to try it, would want a smaller dick. Some I'm sure just want to try the submissive role every once in a while. What better than to submit to a footlong club? If you're gonna try something new, go big or go home! icon_lol.gif


    Of all the responses I think this one hits the peni-uh nail on the head. icon_lol.gif

    I figured it was a submissive thing. Can't say I agree with it even if I understand the thinking behind it.
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    Oct 14, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    MsclDrew said
    Red_Vespa said

    . I've actually had guys outright refuse to even try, once they saw what I have. (On the other hand, some are delighted for having scored such a "trophy")


    I'm with lilTanker, what kind of whimps are you dating, a real man can take all that another man has to give

    WAS dating, am monogamous with a partner now. But I don't see what anal capacity has to do with being a "real man," nor stretching yourself until you hurt or tear yourself. Gay sex for me is not an exercise in S&M.
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    ssguy69 saidIf a guy is supposedly a 'TOP', why is he open to bottoming provided it must be with someone who is more endowed than he?



    I don't see it that way. If you click, then you click.
    Plus, I wouldn't want anyone bigger than 8" topping me.
    I like the average, which I think is, 6"-7".
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:39 AM GMT
    This question is asked because I've seen online ads indicate something along the lines: 'I'm a top but can bottom if your d*** is bigger than mine...etc, ...'.

    I don't make this stuff up.icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 15, 2009 11:35 PM GMT
    ssguy69 saidThis question is asked because I've seen online ads indicate something along the lines: 'I'm a top but can bottom if your d*** is bigger than mine...etc, ...'.

    I don't make this stuff up.icon_neutral.gif


    People don't know what they want online. I say fuck em.

    With your arm. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 16, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    I think it's pretty simple, really... It's a subconscious psychological drive. Bigger penis = Alpha male = dominant. You're the big dog so I submit to you.

    Obviously this is not always true in practice, I know guys with huge cocks that are actually quite feminine and submissive bottoms- such a shame.

    And many tops have small members, perhaps insisting on being the dominant partner to compensate.

    As for me, I prefer a man with a penis about the same size as mine- the high end of average- I think it's just right!

    But...similar to the penis issue on topic- as a bottom, I prefer my man to be physically larger or stronger than me... I can top, but it feels really unnatural to me unless I am bigger than the guy I'm mounting. But again, the cock size has less to do with it than the size of the whole man, at least to me.

    This occasionally is an issue with my partner. On the rare occasion he wants to switch roles, it always ends up feeling awkward to me. I end up wishing he was smaller, and I'm sure he would prefer me to be larger.
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    Oct 22, 2009 5:46 AM GMT
    I don't know if I will be able to take someone bigger than me. But I have a fantaisie to find a guy with the same attributs than mine, to see what is all about, but of course it won't be the same since the guy won't probably have the same technic.