Gay versus Straight. How long is your relationship?

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    Oct 14, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    We have just returned from vacation to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary. Our marriage is typically hetero - sexual activity confined to the opposite gender, even if I have gay feelings for other men.
    My parents, bless them, are in their eighties, are alive and well, and they have celebrated their 58th Anniversary within two weeks before we celebrated ours.
    This is mainly to oldies on this site, but I also wish to throw the question open to anyone of any age:

    How long is your relationship? Or
    What is the longest relationship you ever had?
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:07 PM GMT
    21 years as of this past June.
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:11 PM GMT
    We'll be at 14 years on Jan. 2.
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    Just celebrated 15 years together this past weekend. 5th wedding anniversary was in June.

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    Oct 14, 2009 8:13 PM GMT


    How long is your relationship? Current 4 yrs
    What is the longest relationship you ever had? 7 yrs
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    So, if this is a gay vs. straight thing, as your title puts it, looks like gay relationships do better than straight ones, which more than 50% of the time, end in divorce, often followed by another marriage, and divorce, and so on.

    Gays win!
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:44 PM GMT
    Monday Oct 19 will be 7 years shacked up together. It's also his birthday. What a wonderful gift he was given 7 years ago. Had one other long relationship that made it to just over 7 years.
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:50 PM GMT
    I think it would be interesting to see of the relationships which are monogamous vs open.
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:54 PM GMT
    Anto saidI think it would be interesting to see of the relationships which are monogamous vs open.



    I see this going south before it even begins.

    Do us a favor and start a different thread on the subject. That's not part of this thread's equation.
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    Oct 14, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    A year but then again I'm 20.
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:02 PM GMT
    McGay saidSo, if this is a gay vs. straight thing, as your title puts it, looks like gay relationships do better than straight ones, which more than 50% of the time, end in divorce, often followed by another marriage, and divorce, and so on.

    Gays win!


    The title of this thread is Gay versus Straight.
    But here I want to remain strictly neutral, and not take either sides.
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    I have the luxury of not remaining neutral. I'd say that because of the longevity of it, and how it has been blessed by God himself, that my relationship, being twice as long (actually more than twice, but who's counting?) is twice as (fill in the blank) as yours, but not quite half as (fill in the blank with the same word) as your parents'.
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    Tapper said
    Anto saidI think it would be interesting to see of the relationships which are monogamous vs open.



    I see this going south before it even begins.

    Do us a favor and start a different thread on the subject. That's not part of this thread's equation.


    I don't mean it as a debate on the subject itself. I just think it is an important additional bit of information since a lot of people I think assume that when a person says 'relationship' they mean a monogamous one.
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
    Actually, Monogonous is what I had in mind.
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:49 PM GMT
    31 years last August, and we know at least three couples together longer than us!
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    Oct 14, 2009 9:59 PM GMT
    Anto saidI think it would be interesting to see of the relationships which are monogamous vs open.


    I agree. I don't think you'll find too many "open" hetero ones...
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    Oct 14, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    My longest relationship was 3.5yrs.
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    Have yet to have a LTR w/ a guy... but been with guys before.icon_redface.gif (i'm guys only now since summer)!!


    But, vs. a straight relationship, I was in one for 1year 4months.

    Kind of trying for a gay relationship now... heh.icon_redface.gif
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    Oct 15, 2009 1:01 AM GMT
    Its not that long but it is my longest and my current.....going on 2.3 years.
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    Oct 15, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    We've been together 12 years on October 10, all monogamous (if you must know...)
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    Oct 15, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    tahoejock said
    Anto saidI think it would be interesting to see of the relationships which are monogamous vs open.


    I agree. I don't think you'll find too many "open" hetero ones...
    Well not "openly" open, but a large number of heterosexuals cheat in a "supposedly" monogamous relationship.
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    Oct 15, 2009 2:20 AM GMT



    We Celebrate 20 years this December, and rigsby (RJer) celebrates 40 years with his partner this November 1st.
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    Oct 15, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    LosingIt saidWe've been together 12 years on October 10, all monogamous (if you must know...)


    I think it's important to know because people when looking at length of relationships naturally think of what makes it work. If a relationship is working because it includes outsiders, well that's different than say a monogamous relationship. Seems like more gay people I've known than straight people have been ok with having open relationships and since it's comparing gay vs straight, I just think it's an important detail to consider when comparing relationships between the two.

    In fact I've never known a straight couple that even talked about being ok with an open relationship but I have heard from gay guys that are, like it's just another kind of relationship, one of many people can have with each other.
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    Oct 15, 2009 2:29 AM GMT


    oh ugh, OK Anto, though we think it's pointless.

    We're monogamous, and we believe, so is rigsby.

    We know couples together longer than us in open relationships.


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    Oct 15, 2009 2:42 AM GMT
    13.5 monogamous years.
    2.3 children (2 dogs, 1 chinchilla).
    Invisible (white picket) fence.