So is he looking at me or my bad form?

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    Oct 15, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    So I recently joined my local Golds gym after spending some time at a private gym.... HOPING I'd maybe make some friends meet people (even if their not gay).
    And I always see this one guy there...he is good looking and I've caught him numerous times looking either at me or my direction (and I am sure he has caught me) The thing is....I don't know if he is looking "at me" or looking at how bad of form I have while lifting and what not.

    I am really shy to go over and say something....
    So based on your experiences how can you tell the two "looks" apart?

    Iam sure this was posted before but I couldn't find it soooo.......
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    Oct 15, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    You'll never know until you ask. Or strike up a conversation.
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    Oct 15, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    Correct your form and take notice if he still looks at you.
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    Oct 15, 2009 3:12 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    Single_dan saidI am sure this was posted before but I couldn't find it soooo.......

    Oh maybe once or twice...






    ...today.




    I swear you are one condescending, rude, old fart, your aarp card needs to be revoked immediately, instead of spreading your misery on this forum, go tend to your 50 cats and watch some matlock reruns icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 15, 2009 3:43 AM GMT
    Well, If he's in better shape and he has "form" then your best bet to strike up convo is to ask, you seem to be in shape and have good form frm what i've noticed can you reccomend a better technique it seems to me at least like I'm doing this all wrg. Depending on his response you'll have an idea.
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    Oct 15, 2009 3:45 AM GMT
    Walk over and say "Hey, can you hot me.....er, spot me!"

    See if he smiles.icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 15, 2009 4:15 AM GMT
    I don't know, someone looking at you at the gym isn't saying much. Have you tried smiling?
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    Oct 15, 2009 4:19 AM GMT
    I am wondering why are you knowingly working out with bad form?
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    Oct 15, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    phemt saidI am wondering why are you knowingly working out with bad form?



    Yeah, that's a much better question seeing you can get hurt and all!
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    Oct 15, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    I swear you are one condescending, rude, old fart, your aarp card needs to be revoked immediately, instead of spreading your misery on this forum, go tend to your 50 cats and watch some matlock reruns icon_rolleyes.gif


    I suspect you may have been here before under a different name... just looked at the last half dozen of your posts and there is a familiar tone to them
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:03 PM GMT
    NyRuinz saidI swear you are one condescending, rude, old fart, your aarp card needs to be revoked immediately, instead of spreading your misery on this forum, go tend to your 50 cats and watch some matlock reruns icon_rolleyes.gif


    Is that the best you can do, oh faceless, non-verified one with no profile?

    And to the OP, correct your form, then watch for any signals.
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:06 PM GMT
    Yes, the most important thing is to improve your form (lifting less weight with better form will get you better results and is more impressive at the gym).

    Then you can be sure of what he's looking at!

    I try not to stare at ANYONE at the gym, but if someone has truly terrible form it's sometimes hard not to glance at them-- like a car wreck!
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:08 PM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    I swear you are one condescending, rude, old fart, your aarp card needs to be revoked immediately, instead of spreading your misery on this forum, go tend to your 50 cats and watch some matlock reruns icon_rolleyes.gif



    Lighten up, Francis....

    As for the OP's question, I'd suggest just smiling and waving the next time he and you make eye contact. Even if he acts like a prick and turns his nose up at you, it's gotta be less maddening that trying to read his mind based on a look.
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:24 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    Single_dan saidI am sure this was posted before but I couldn't find it soooo.......

    Oh maybe once or twice...

    ...today.


    JP is only slightly exaggerating. There have already been three variations on this in the last four days and the answer is obvious and always the same. You talk to the guy. If you see somebody all the time you say hi and engage them in a little light chatter.
    First, the natural human thing is to acknowledge the other person's presence instead of pretending they don't exist. Second, minor social interactions make your workout more pleasant. Third, you might make a friend. And finally, if there actually is a spark of interest you will find out.

    No more handwringing on this subject!
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    Oct 15, 2009 12:26 PM GMT
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    Oct 16, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    you all are soo freaken right!

    I don't even know why I bother posting shit on this site...you either get a damn douche like answer like "I am wondering why are you knowingly working out with bad form?" when iam being sarcastic!!!

    or some other ass of an answer to the extent of "it has been posted already"...as if I sit in front of the damn computer all day reading every damn post to know.

    NEVER mind...thanks for all of your inputs! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 16, 2009 12:37 AM GMT
    So did you approach him?

    I'm sure inquiring minds want to know! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 16, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    I actually did....
    He was wearing some sort of weight vest thing.... I used it as an opportunity to strike up a conversation...sooo who knows
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    Oct 16, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    I went to a gay bar a while back and this guy kept looking and smiling at me. Do you think he might of been interested in me, or was he just curious what I was drinking? I am too simple minded to figured this out for myself. Please help. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 16, 2009 1:13 AM GMT
    phemt saidI went to a gay bar a while back and this guy kept looking and smiling at me. Do you think he might of been interested in me, or was he just curious what I was drinking? I am too simple minded to figured this out for myself. Please help. icon_wink.gif
    I think the gauge in that situation is whether he pinches your ass. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 16, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
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    phemt saidI went to a gay bar a while back and this guy kept looking and smiling at me. Do you think he might of been interested in me, or was he just curious what I was drinking? I am too simple minded to figured this out for myself. Please help. icon_wink.gif
    I think the gauge in that situation is whether he pinches your ass. icon_twisted.gif


    Good one icon_lol.gif