Is Lack of Sex Bad For Your Health?

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    Oct 20, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    When you go without gettin it for an extended period of time, does your mind or body start to get strange?

    I think when I go without sex for more than 10 days or so, I begin to get grouchy and irritated easily. And then I start to feel sorry for myself because I I think I'm a loser.

    So rather than dealing with all crap it takes to get laid nowdays, I use my hands which is sufficient for emrgencies but not very satisfying.

    Is sex like sleep or eating? Do you think humans physically and mentally need sex in order to be happy...or at least balanced?

    How do you deal with no sex? Has anyone made the decision to become celibate? Why?
  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 20, 2009 3:20 PM GMT
    Look at nuns. Healthy, happy, and sex free! (or supposedly...)
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    Oct 20, 2009 3:25 PM GMT


    I don't think so ... I think it's more the preoccupation with sex that begins to initiate any such psycho-somatic changes.
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    Oct 20, 2009 3:25 PM GMT
    It's called masturbation. Keeps the prostate clean and the mind at ease.
  • jrs1

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    Oct 20, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidIt's called masturbation. Keeps the prostate clean and the mind at ease.


    you would know ...
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    I don't think there's any correlation between lack of sex and bad health. I've gone up to two years without anything but masturbation.
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    I think it would be difficult to find people to participate in a controlled study.
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:25 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    you would know ...

    No I wouldn't. I am infrequent.

    mindgarden saidI think it would be difficult to find people to participate in a controlled study.
    Ha! That was a good one!
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidWhen you go without gettin it for an extended period of time, does your mind or body start to get strange?

    I think when I go without sex for more than 10 days or so, I begin to get grouchy and irritated easily. And then I start to feel sorry for myself because I I think I'm a loser.

    So rather than dealing with all cap it takes to get laid nowdays, I use my hands which is sufficient for emrgencies but not very satisfying.

    Is sex like sleep or eating? Do you think humans physically and mentally need sex in order to be happy...or at least balanced?

    How do you deal with no sex? Has anyone made the decision to become celibate? Why?


    A doctor told me you can remain physically and sexually healthy without sex, but if you are not having sex, you do need to jerk off regularly to remain healthy. But people who are not able to get sex for whatever reason, often have mental and psychological problems. Most people do need sex for their physical and mental health, but I do know one guy who says he doesn't need any sex and has no desire for sex. He is content to jerk and play with himself. But there are not many people who have no desire for sex. Those who have no desire for sex should certainly see a doctor because this is not normal behavior.
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:37 PM GMT
    I think people suffer from the lack of intimacy rather than the sex act itself.
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    Oct 20, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidLook at nuns. Healthy, happy, and sex free! (or supposedly...)


    Many nuns and priests are not happy, though, and their vow of celibacy causes a lot of physical and mental problems later. This is why many priests end up playing with boys and girls and become pedophiles because they are sex starved and are unable to control themself any longer. Even the Bible does not have any laws on celibacy on pubic ministers of the gospel. Even Peter, whom the Roman Catholic Church regards as the first pope was married. So it surpises me that the Roman Catholic Church requires its priests, popes, and other church leaders to remain celibate and unmarried, even though the Word of God does not forbid it. In fact the Bible actually condemns the Catholic Church when they forbid priests to marry and require parishoners to abstain from certain foods. (1 Timothy 4:3) So does anyone here know why the Catholic Church has these laws when the Bible condemns this practice? I wonder how the Roman Catholic Church justifys this practice when it has no support from Scripture and actually condemns those who have such laws. Actually the Roman Catholic Church does a lot of things, which God forbids in the Bible, which is sin.
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    Oct 20, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidI think people suffer from the lack of intimacy rather than the sex act itself.


    This is true. But isn't having sex being intimate? Don't you have to have sex to be considered intimate? If you aren't having sex with your partner, you aren't really being intimate with them.
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    Oct 20, 2009 5:30 PM GMT
    Christian73 saidI don't think there's any correlation between lack of sex and bad health. I've gone up to two years without anything but masturbation.


    It depends upon the person. If you are not upset and frustrated because you are not able to have or get any sex, this should not cause any problems in life. But I do know of some guys who have become extremely depressed because they wanted sex, but nobody wanted to have sex with them. They were very overweight and didn't have a very good appearance, so I could see why they were having trouble getting anyone to have sex with them.

    I was honest with them and told them that they needed to make some changes with their appearance by going on a nutrition and weight loss program and exercising. I told them that if they did this, they would be more desirable. One of the guys did lose a lot of weight and he really looked good and he had no trouble getting sex anymore. He was quite a hottie after losing all that weight and gaining muscle instead of fat.
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    Oct 20, 2009 5:38 PM GMT
    So does anyone here know why the Catholic Church has these laws when the Bible condemns this practice?

    Jesus himself said that men who can should not marry, and that means no sex (by the way he also said that some men are born able to not marry women, I think this was an indication of people who were gay just people didn't know how to quantify it then imo). I think Paul also said it is better for a man not to marry so he can devote his life fully to God rather than be married and divided between God and family but he didn't say you can't get married, just that it's better not to get married.

    It says people should marry if they can't control their sexual desires and that it's even wrong for a couple to deny each other sex lest be tempted to seek sex outside of the marriage and therefore sin.

    The irony with that is where does it a put gay people? Are they suppose to be super human and be capable of doing what scripture says that straights are not?
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    Oct 20, 2009 5:39 PM GMT
    My right hand is faithful to me, but I want an open relationship. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 20, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    Its a Catch-22 type of situation........

    I have no problem finding someone to get laid with and I think that's the problem. I may be silly, why is it so hard to find a guy who is fun and warm, even if it is just for a hookup? Aside from the physical and his apearance and equipment, there has to some shred of personality chemistry that should click....rather than mechanical getting off.

    I prefer having sex feeling energized and proud after I leave even if I never see the guy again, and that occasionally happens. But hot sex is a dime a dozen and leaving with a shy goodbye and realizing the guy was a robot with no personality is not fun, even if I did scratch that itch. Some guys even say "I don't kiss"......yet they will gladly let you deep inside them and suck your butt all the way into your spleen. THAT'S Intimacy?

    Yeah. we all know where to go to have impersonal hot sex....no words spoken and its just about primal instincts. That's fine every once and awhile. But a steady diet of hot sex with no feeling can get boring.

    So masterbation comes in handy.I've been choosing that more and more lately. It seems like such a hassle sometimes to hookup with the kind of guy I like.........and after the jockeying of sexual positions, condoms, timing, scheduales and personality types, it can get downright annoying.

    Maybe I'm just in a bad mood............Maybe I'm just spoiled and the scene is just reality..........maybe I just need to get laid.LOL
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    Oct 20, 2009 6:08 PM GMT
    Many times the reason people are not able to have sex as much as they would like is because of appearance. Now there are some things you just can not change about your appearance because of genetics, but one of the problems we have in America is obesity and for most people this is something that can be rectified by getting professional help as the TV show "Biggest Loser" has shown.

    From little on, I was taught about the importance of eating properly and getting adequate exercise and sleep and taking care of my body from both my parents and my doctor. When I got home from school, I was not allowed to watch any TV, but I was to do some physical activity for at least an hour. My parents didn't care what I did. I could run. I could ride my bike. I could go swimming at the Y, but they wanted me to get some physical activity first. Sometimes, I told them I was too tired, but then they said if I was too tired, I was too tired to watch TV, too. icon_sad.gif I have to admit that I first hated this because somedays I just wanted to watch TV and didn't want to do any of that stuff. But I knew I had to, if I was ever going to watch any TV. So my friends also took up the habit with me and we had a lot of fun together. I have some great memories from my school days. I was also into basketball and during the basketball season, if I had practice that day, that took the place of other exercise. My Dad was a great basketball player himself and was my coach and I learned a lot from him.

    I am so thankful today that my parents made me do this every day because the habit has stuck with me and now I can not function without doing something every day that gets my heart pumping and working up a sweat and I LOVE IT. I know this is the reason now why I have such good health still today.

    Exercise not only makes us heathier, but it also has a direct correlation with our relationships and sex as well and it's why I think everyone should be a RJ icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2009 6:11 PM GMT
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    he seems happy.
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    Oct 20, 2009 6:58 PM GMT
    Anto saidSo does anyone here know why the Catholic Church has these laws when the Bible condemns this practice?

    Jesus himself said that men who can should not marry, and that means no sex (by the way he also said that some men are born able to not marry women, I think this was an indication of people who were gay just people didn't know how to quantify it then imo). I think Paul also said it is better for a man not to marry so he can devote his life fully to God rather than be married and divided between God and family but he didn't say you can't get married, just that it's better not to get married.

    It says people should marry if they can't control their sexual desires and that it's even wrong for a couple to deny each other sex lest be tempted to seek sex outside of the marriage and therefore sin.

    The irony with that is where does it a put gay people? Are they suppose to be super human and be capable of doing what scripture says that straights are not?


    Where did Jesus ever say that men who can should not marry? Paul talked about it, but this was to be by one's own personal choice not by church legislation. I know of no command in the Bible where God forbids anyone to marry, in fact the Bible condemns anyone who forbids people to marry.
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    Oct 20, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidI think people suffer from the lack of intimacy rather than the sex act itself.


    I'm going to have to agree with this. People need other people in non-sexual physical contact as well. Americans tend to put touching into the "Ew, do not touch me ever please, get away" category.

    G_ForceThis is true. But isn't having sex being intimate? Don't you have to have sex to be considered intimate? If you aren't having sex with your partner, you aren't really being intimate with them.


    Sex is not necessarily intimate, e.g. rape, meaningless hookups. Intimacy is created via and emotional/mental bond that is carried out in a variety of physical manifestations e.g. holding hands, gentle caresses, cuddling, etc, of which sex is one component. So, not having sex with someone doesn't necessarily mean you aren't being intimate.
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    Oct 20, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
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    he seems happy.


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    Oct 20, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
    My libido is super flexible and adapted to my possibilities! icon_smile.gif

    When I'm in a dry spell, it decreases, but if I'm with someone, it rockets! The good thing is that I'm always fine, the bad is that I miss the "lacking" experience...
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Oct 20, 2009 10:14 PM GMT
    Well I'm a virgin and I'm happy, or does that not count lolicon_lol.gif
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    Oct 20, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    Simply_Drew said
    redheadguy saidI think people suffer from the lack of intimacy rather than the sex act itself.


    I'm going to have to agree with this. People need other people in non-sexual physical contact as well. Americans tend to put touching into the "Ew, do not touch me ever please, get away" category.

    G_ForceThis is true. But isn't having sex being intimate? Don't you have to have sex to be considered intimate? If you aren't having sex with your partner, you aren't really being intimate with them.


    Sex is not necessarily intimate, e.g. rape, meaningless hookups. Intimacy is created via and emotional/mental bond that is carried out in a variety of physical manifestations e.g. holding hands, gentle caresses, cuddling, etc, of which sex is one component. So, not having sex with someone doesn't necessarily mean you aren't being intimate.


    Maybe, I'm missing something here, but I hardly would call just holding hands, caresses, and cuddling as being intimate. If you don't get NUDE with your partner, that is not being intimate. And if someone tells me they are intimate with their partner, I think they are doing more than just kissing and cuddling. lol
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    Oct 20, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
    At least in my book, intimacy includes nudity and sex, not just kissing and holding hands or you are not being very intimate. Intimacy has always meant to me that there was sex. I guess I don't know how you can really be intimate without taking your pants off and having sex.