My gaydar is more like str8dar and I don't connect much with other gay men I meet...

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    Oct 21, 2009 1:45 AM GMT
    Gay & str8 people are surprised when I reveal I'm gay.

    People seem weirded out by me because I don't look or act anywhere near my age and I don't come off as obviously gay (whatever that is).
    I feel like I'm constantly "coming out".

    Also, I am continually attracted to str8 guys that I mistake for gay to the point where it's annoying and the kind of gay guys I like I don't think are into me.

    I think I'm kind of weird.

    I only have 2 gay friends and one of them I don't really like much. He's kind of a shallow theater queen asshole. He only talks about himself and what's going on in his world and is oblivious and disinterested when I talk about what's going on with me.
    My other friend who I love, is wrapped up in an abusive relationship and has disappeared after I gave him some brutally honest advice regarding his bf.

    A lot of gay guys I meet just want to talk graphically about sex they've had and themselves.Not against sex talk but incessantly is a bit shallow to me.

    Haven't really met any who are into the same kind of stuff as me or share the same sensibilities. What really sucks is most of the guys I'm attracted to turn out to be str8! I hate that!

    Today was the first time I've really connected with a guy on this site. We had a great convo about Wolverine and some other stuff. I think we'd be friends if we lived in the same city.

    I'm always down to make a new friend and am very embracing of pretty much everyone.

    I've been told I'm good looking but most times I don't see it myself. I wish I had a better body too.

    Not sure what my point is. I'm just home alone, feeling down and ranting about it.

    I just wish I could connect with other gay guys as well as I do with str8 guys.
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    Oct 21, 2009 7:03 PM GMT
    Why do you like you're 20 o.o
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    Oct 21, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    I guess it's genetic. Everyone on both sides of my family look younger than their actual age. It's funny because I usually think people who are younger than me are my age too. It's all relative, I guess.

    I'll post a pic of myself in my early 20s
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    Oct 21, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    Screw 20... Delete the facial hair and I'd say 14

    If he's a shallow theater queen asshole that is completely self absorbed why are you friends with him?


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    Oct 21, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    MsclDrewScrew 20... Delete the facial hair and I'd say 14

    If he's a shallow theater queen asshole that is completely self absorbed why are you friends with him?



    14?!? NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! icon_eek.gif

    We live a few blocks away and have known each other for about 20 years. We've always had an on again off again friendship. I'll do something to piss him off and he'll get mad at me and we won't speak for a while. I guess we aren't really friends as we rarely call each other. But when we run into each other we are cordial.

    I'm not the kind of person to blatantly ignore someone I was good friends with in the past regardless of how sour things are in the present. This past Summer we went on a bike ride and checked out Donna Summer at Coney Island but he got weird and competitive with me about some stuff. After that I made a note to self not to hang out extensively with him anymore.
    I think it's mutual too. But because of the longevity of our acquaintance we don't definitively cut each other off but maintain our distance.

    Yes, I know. It's very weird.icon_neutral.gif