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a guy keep putting his hand on my shoulder and sometimes tickle me
is it just be friendly or something more?

im shy and not out and i dont know how to read all these firting signals
what are signs/signals i should look for?

Generally, I'd say tickling beyond the age of 16 is flirting. It's an easy way to nonchallantly be able to touch someone and gauge their interest (do they tickle back? do you end up wrestling? do you end up...?). So... maybe.

You don't give us much to go on - and by you being closeted this guy may not have a clue how you might be interpreting his behaviour. You give little away in your profile but mention you're 30. I don't know your reasons for not being out at 30 but this will make finding a guy who's interested in you very difficult to find. (Some guys won't date anyone who's in the closet). Are you out anywhere - the gym, the bar, online?

And you don't reveal if this guy is gay. Straight guys do touch their buddies affectionately.

If he is gay then it's certainly a sign that he might be interested. However, it's a very small sign. But you're not going to get anywhere until you have the courage to either respond and see what happens or openly ask him what's up.

Good luck!

I have no friggin clue. I wasn't really sure "Partner" was interested until his toungue was down my throat...

Do you have an opportunity to observe if he does this with other people? That might be a clue. Some people are just very warm physically, doesn't necessarily mean anything more than he likes you as a person. Some people it means a lot more. Observing how and when he interacts physically with others may help.

oh lord, straight mates are affectionate if they are comfortable with you, gay or straight it doesn't matter they will be touchy feely, my mates tickle me when they are trying to irritate me, make me smile, make me laugh and everything inbetween.

You can't even take long stead looks in your eyes, cause, they do that too hahaha

I don't have to guess. They're not.

I know my guy acts like this one little boy I remember from school that would be talking to the girls and hit them or something... not to hurt them but he wasnt sure how to say he liked her. He does that to me lol. He slaps my thigh or will grab me and look at me with those big beautiful hazel eyes with that look like... I want you. footsies! lol yeah that too.

twistedmonkey saida guy keep putting his hand on my shoulder and sometimes tickle me
is it just be friendly or something more?

im shy and not out and i dont know how to read all these firting signals
what are signs/signals i should look for?

Dude I'll do something more if you want

If I think a guy is hot, I just turn on my LED belt buckle.

It's all in the eyes. If they keep looking into yours, he's interested. Where do your (really) straight male friends eyes look?

How do you know? Hmmm.....that's probably not a gun in his pocket.

They don't try to escape when I hold them down.

lol I wish I could tell if anyone was interested in me (I never can)

I've certainly seen straight guys put thier hands on shoulders, pat arms, even hug - but tickling? I don't see them tickling each other.

Long stares at you. Being overly friendly. Becomes shy/quiet around you. Could never tell for sure either.

lilTanker saidoh lord, straight mates are affectionate if they are comfortable with you, gay or straight it doesn't matter they will be touchy feely, my mates tickle me when they are trying to irritate me, make me smile, make me laugh and everything inbetween.

You can't even take long stead looks in your eyes, cause, they do that too hahaha

That's cause you are a dinkum aussie mate. aussies can do that but Americans can't.