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Oct 23, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
Let me start this by saying I would never cruise in a million years, but hypothetically if you’re cruising in a guy’s restroom and the guy in the stall next to you gets out and tells you to follow him somewhere else , would you ever follow him? & should you ever follow him?
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Oct 23, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
No way, that would be all to dangerous, I don't know that guy what if he is some sort of serial killer or something not to mention this kind of nasty to just meet a guy in a bathroom, not to sound like Monk or anything but WAY to many germs lol. just saying  |
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Oct 23, 2009 4:07 PM GMT
Guitarguy07 saidNo way, that would be all to dangerous, I don't know that guy what if he is some sort of serial killer or something not to mention this kind of nasty to just meet a guy in a bathroom, not to sound like Monk or anything but WAY to many germs lol. just saying agreed thats why i would never do it |
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Oct 23, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
Besides being unnappealing, unsanitary and possibly dangerous, this could also be illegal depending on where you live. In Ohio, they have an Importuning Law. In theory, it could be used to charge anyone, but in practice, it's only used by undercover Highway Patrol Officers doing entrapment on (closeted) gay men who cruise rest stops.
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Oct 23, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
How's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
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Oct 23, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
Not only no but HELLZ TO THE F*CKIN NO. It shouldnt even be a question in your head. Like someone said above you dont know if that person is a serial killer, some jackass who doesnt care what diseases he has and who he passes em on to. Or possibly a cop waiting to bust you for cruising haha  try explaining that to your family and friends when they're bailing you out for cruising in a restroom. |
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Oct 23, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
No no no a thousand times no. This was disgusting and perverted thirty years ago, and it still is now. Talk about really bad PR...
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Oct 23, 2009 9:04 PM GMT
Never tried, never thought of trying it and never gonna do it.
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Oct 23, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
leothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes! |
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Oct 23, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
eb925guy saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes! I don't think anyone is trying to be prudish, at least I'm not. It's just a matter of taking care of yourself from a legal standpoint. Here's the situation for people who live in Ohio: http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/ohio/ohnews11.htmWith laws like that on the books, it's just not smart to risk it all on rest stop sex. |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:08 AM GMT
Why is he talking to you verbally? I thought everything was done thru morse code (foot tapping)
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Oct 24, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
"ma, I'm in jail....ma, stop crying. What for? Uuuuuuuuh."
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Oct 24, 2009 2:19 AM GMT
No, Dont Do It, no matter how good the dick looks  My barber was killed taking some trade home and the detectives knocked on my villa at 5:30am asking me questions, being just 2 blocks away they wanted to know if i'd been in touch with him lately.. Anyway, they [the detectives] pulled out some photo's of all these guys with big big dicks posing in his apartment...I was like,,,,,OOOwww girl......... I told her to stop going to the parks at night and visiting the tee-rooms but to no avail............RIP |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:27 AM GMT
GuiltyGear said
"ma, I'm in jail....ma, stop crying. What for? Uuuuuuuuh." That is too funny, The police had a guy handcuffed at the times square station and the guy said,'' I didnt do nothin""...The policeman said, [SHOUTING], STOP LYING, YOU SHOULDNT BE SUCKING DICKS IN THE BATHROOM''... well my dear,,,everyone gasped .....and the queen just kept saying, I didnt do nothin..... EMARRASSING  |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:35 AM GMT
I don't do it ... but I'm not here to judge those that do. It can be all too frustrating waiting for someone to come along or, perhaps, a person is stuck in their lives and seeks some sort of escape. I am not advocating the cruising of any sort ... but you cannot control other people and, quite frankly, I'd rather it that way.
my point: people do it. let's hear from their experiences, rather than judging; let's try to be inclusive rather than exclusionary.
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Oct 24, 2009 2:37 AM GMT
I think this kind of "cruising" ranks right up there with "park cruising".. its pretty low behavior. If someone asked me to follow him somewhere for sex, I'd tell him to go to hell.
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Oct 24, 2009 2:42 AM GMT
HndsmKansan saidI think this kind of "cruising" ranks right up there with "park cruising".. its pretty low behavior. If someone asked me to follow him somewhere for sex, I'd tell him to go to hell. I would ask them if they had any candy. |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:44 AM GMT
leothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
The same thought crossed my mind..... |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:44 AM GMT
jrs1 said
my point: people do it. let's hear from their experiences, rather than judging; let's try to be inclusive rather than exclusionary. How bout, no. This is a fitness site and having anonymous sex in and out of restrooms is the antithesis of a healthy and fit life. Inclusive of this behavior? That's why this isn't a fetish site or a kink site...or Man Hunt. So no playing Devil's Advocate on this issue. He should not do it, he should not even think of doing it. Plus, he's so small. I could see him targeted by perves and sadist alike, just because of his sheer prey quality. When I came in, read the post, and looked at his baby face, the first thing I thought was, the things I could do to him with a pair of spark plugs and a full jar of Vaseline  and I'm no sadist. |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:52 AM GMT
leothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
At a gay bar they at least have the decency of buying you a drink before making a proposition. You expect it at a gay bar. It's one of the reasons gay bars exists. Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss and not be cruised. If I am travelling late at night and have to take a piss, I look for open fast food restaraunts to avoid the married rest area trash looking for a blow job. |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
I stop at every rest stop I pass after 11pm. I like to see the faces of desperation and their thirst for me.
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Oct 24, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
Ooooh! Judgment city. When I was a college student, the library bathrooms were very active. Of course, I remained a virgin and never touched a soul. Of course, I went to bathhouses, bars, and even a gay beach. Almost all of those places are gone now.
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Oct 24, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
GuiltyGear said
jrs1 said
my point: people do it. let's hear from their experiences, rather than judging; let's try to be inclusive rather than exclusionary.
How bout, no. This is a fitness site and having anonymous sex in and out of restrooms is the antithesis of a healthy and fit life. Inclusive of this behavior? That's why this isn't a fetish site or a kink site...or Man Hunt. So no playing Devil's Advocate on this issue. He should not do it, he should not even think of doing it. Plus, he's so small. I could see him targeted by perves and sadist alike, just because of his sheer prey quality. When I came in, read the post, and looked at his baby face, the first thing I thought was, the things I could do to him with a pair of spark plugs and a full jar of Vaseline and I'm no sadist.
HAHAHAHAHAHA. fair enough. |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:59 AM GMT
heartrobb saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
At a gay bar they at least have the decency of buying you a drink before making a proposition. You expect it at a gay bar. It's one of the reasons gay bars exists. Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss and not be cruised. If I am travelling late at night and have to take a piss, I look for open fast food restaraunts to avoid the married rest area trash looking for a blow job. Oh I get it, so you would only go as a HO if he buys you a drink? That's pretty cheap..Expect what? a drink? "Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss" so gays go to gay club restroom to give blowjobs? You just blow your own argument. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:09 AM GMT
leothelion saidheartrobb saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
At a gay bar they at least have the decency of buying you a drink before making a proposition. You expect it at a gay bar. It's one of the reasons gay bars exists. Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss and not be cruised. If I am travelling late at night and have to take a piss, I look for open fast food restaraunts to avoid the married rest area trash looking for a blow job.
Oh I get it, so you would only go as a HO if he buys you a drink? That's pretty cheap..Expect what? a drink? "Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss" so gays go to gay club restroom to give blowjobs? You just blow your own argument. I totally agree with you leothelion. I reckon you are the only honest bloke here. Gay guys are always on the cruise whether they admit it or not. I don't know why some guys on here try to pass themselves as so innocent about it. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
Not everyone is always cruising for sex. Plenty of people are, but it isn't for everyone. There are still some classy ladies, like myself, out there.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
leothelion saidheartrobb saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
At a gay bar they at least have the decency of buying you a drink before making a proposition. You expect it at a gay bar. It's one of the reasons gay bars exists. Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss and not be cruised. If I am travelling late at night and have to take a piss, I look for open fast food restaraunts to avoid the married rest area trash looking for a blow job.
Oh I get it, so you would only go as a HO if he buys you a drink? That's pretty cheap..Expect what? a drink? "Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss" so gays go to gay club restroom to give blowjobs? You just blow your own argument. That line wasn't meant to be taken seriously. It was a failed attempt at humor I guess. I think the motivation behind our post relates to the negative post I had in your thread 'IMPORTANT: Every gay SHOULD read this!', but my negativity in my post was a reaction to your argument and not to you personally and I would expect the same from you. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
Need I remind anyone here of a certain politician who cruised in a public bathroom and got nailed but not in the way he was thinking.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:19 AM GMT
Have you ever heard of Madonna-whore complex?? I think it applies to gay men here. They act innocent because they think that other guys might not love them. But they act all crazy behind in private. Same thing goes here. They think that other guys might not like them if they are "slutty" so they feel like the need to exhibit "innocence" so as not be regarded as slutty and hence could find potential guy.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
Two things.
One - I won't have sex in my own bathroom.
Two - Never let anyone take you to a second location. It doesn't usually end well.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:24 AM GMT
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Oct 24, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
Christian73 saidTwo things.
Two - Never let anyone take you to a second location. It doesn't usually end well. You mean they don't cum? GASP*.... hahaha joking, i sort of know what you mean but care to elaborate? what do you mean it doesn't usually end well? |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
heartrobb saidleothelion saidheartrobb saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
At a gay bar they at least have the decency of buying you a drink before making a proposition. You expect it at a gay bar. It's one of the reasons gay bars exists. Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss and not be cruised. If I am travelling late at night and have to take a piss, I look for open fast food restaraunts to avoid the married rest area trash looking for a blow job.
Oh I get it, so you would only go as a HO if he buys you a drink? That's pretty cheap..Expect what? a drink? "Most people are at a public restroom to take a piss" so gays go to gay club restroom to give blowjobs? You just blow your own argument.
That line wasn't meant to be taken seriously. It was a failed attempt at humor I guess. I think the motivation behind our post relates to the negative post I had in your thread 'IMPORTANT: Every gay SHOULD read this!', but my negativity in my post was a reaction to your argument and not to you personally and I would expect the same from you. I apologise if I offended you personally. I didn't mean to. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:28 AM GMT
The horses are pretty high in here. Especially when they're up on those soap boxes. eb925guy saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes! I agree. If you met a hot guy, and he thought you were hot too, and you were someplace where it's illegal to hook up in public, perhaps you'd consider taking it somewhere private? Perhaps....you are the one doing the asking? Don't lie. We've all hooked up at one point or another, possibly with a guy whose name you can't recall? Where'd you meet him? Did you hook up in a bar? Did you do the horizontal limbo right there? Or, did you ask him back to your place, hotel, car, etc? I did. Or did he ask you? Did you go? I did. What's the difference? Jump down off the high horse. Climb down from the pedestal. Step off the soap box. Have a lovely night. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
I have heard of cruisy restrooms in college. You would read wall post that say meet there at a certain time. I was too shy back then to get in that scene.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
I am not saying whether it's OKAY to cruise at a local bathroom or at a gay club. In fact, I think we as the gay community should find better way to release our sexual desires and I don't mean porn. I THINK THIS RESULTS FROM THE FACT THAT THE GAY COMMUNITY IS BEING STIGMATISED SO MUCH THAT THERE AREN'T REALLY SAFE PLACES FOR GAY GUYS TO FIND A POTENTIAL MATE.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
If you feel that there aren't any safe ways to meet other gay people then clearly the problem isn't the community.
There's a difference between cruising at abar and cruising at bathroom and one can tell the difference then the two then I suppose that might explain a few events in someone's life.
Bars are4 basically social gatherings where whatever can happen and it's pretty my much a given that the possibility of hooking up is there be it with a clear head or a beer goggles. A bathroom just seems kinda sleazy and and shady and rather tacky no matter who it's with.
Sure lots of gay porno's use that scenario and yes they do seem pretty steamy and hot but that's thanks to movie magic. They rarily seem that way in real life.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
leothelion saidHave you ever heard of Madonna-whore complex?? I think it applies to gay men here. They act innocent because they think that other guys might not love them. But they act all crazy behind in private. Same thing goes here. They think that other guys might not like them if they are "slutty" so they feel like the need to exhibit "innocence" so as not be regarded as slutty and hence could find potential guy. OMG i could nt have sait it better. Spot on, and i have been wanting to say that for along time now but i was always afraid people wouldn't like me for being honest. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:39 AM GMT
Guy101 saidIf you feel that there aren't any safe ways to meet other gay people then clearly the problem isn't the community.
[color=red] Yeah but you can't BLAME the not-gay community, you can change their views and see it your way. BUT within your own community, you can also create SAFE institution and space for gay guys to meet each other. And I don't mean clubs. know what i'm saying?[/color] |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
I do know what you are saying. and there are plenty of places and ways to meet people without feeling that you have to secretive about it.
A comment like that sounds like it would be said by someone who isn't confident about their sexuality, dare I say even closeted, because they worry about what others might think of them.
Gay people have as many places and options to meet and greet other gay people just like straight people. It really is depending on the individual and not the individual.
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Oct 24, 2009 3:44 AM GMT
Guy101 saidIf you feel that there aren't any safe ways to meet other gay people then clearly the problem isn't the community.
There's a difference between cruising at abar and cruising at bathroom and one can tell the difference then the two then I suppose that might explain a few events in someone's life.
Bars are4 basically social gatherings where whatever can happen and it's pretty my much a given that the possibility of hooking up is there be it with a clear head or a beer goggles. A bathroom just seems kinda sleazy and and shady and rather tacky no matter who it's with.
Sure lots of gay porno's use that scenario and yes they do seem pretty steamy and hot but that's thanks to movie magic. They rarily seem that way in real life.
I don't cruise guys at public bathroom. period. It's not about the location, it's about whether the other guy is safe. you think a guy you meet in a bar won't be HIV+ and the guy you meet in a local bathroom maybe. so it's not about all hell go loose at a bar, it's about safe sex. And i'm not encouraging cruising at a bathroom either. |
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Oct 24, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
Well then the notion of applying common sense and applying good judgment comes into play there.
If you can't the handle the possible consequences that might to follow based off of your own actions then you are better off not doing them in the first place.
I'm not saying anyone here cruises in the bathrooms and frankly I don't care if you do. I know that I'm not doing something like. I don't look down on those who do it but at the same time I don't accept it at least not in my life. Kudos to the people who can do such things and have those types of experiences whereas someone like experiences it through a porno. I'm fine with that.
If I was in relationship and feeling freakish I would do a like role playing with my bf and we could meet up in a bathroom and play out a few fantasies. that would be hot because it's with someone i know and not some random person who could have god knows what.
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Oct 24, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
Guy101 saidWell then the notion of applying common sense and applying good judgment comes into play there.
If you can't the handle the possible consequences that might to follow based off of your own actions then you are better off not doing them in the first place.
I'm not saying anyone here cruises in the bathrooms and frankly I don't care if you do. I know that I'm not doing something like. I don't look down on those who do it but at the same time I don't accept it at least not in my life. Kudos to the people who can do such things and have those types of experiences whereas someone like experiences it through a porno. I'm fine with that.
If I was in relationship and feeling freakish I would do a like role playing with my bf and we could meet up in a bathroom and play out a few fantasies. that would be hot because it's with someone i know and not some random person who could have god knows what. So it's okay with your BF but not with random people? You are funny guy101..hahahaha. I can respond by saying that what if the guy you meet in the bathroom become your BF?hahahaha is it still acceptable?? lol Anyway, I am heading to bed. |
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Oct 24, 2009 4:11 AM GMT
leothelion saidChristian73 saidTwo things.
Two - Never let anyone take you to a second location. It doesn't usually end well.
You mean they don't cum? GASP*.... hahaha joking, i sort of know what you mean but care to elaborate? what do you mean it doesn't usually end well? I was kind of joking, but it's actually something that is taught in self-defense classes.That if someone tries to abduct you, you're better off fighting than allowing yourself to be taken to a venue of their choice. |
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Oct 24, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
It is disgusting I must say. But how is that any different than meeting someone on the internet??? Just thinking aloud
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Oct 24, 2009 4:14 AM GMT
LOL. With a BF it would acceptable because you are in a relationship with that person and merely playing out a fantasy with someone you've already been intimate with so yes there is a difference versus some random person who is just eying you from a stall and makes a play for you.
I seriously doubt that anyone you meet and fool around with in a bathroom has any intentions on wanting a BF but hey that's just my opinion for the situation at hand.
Online you are just chatting and whether you want to take it further is your deal just like whether or not you want you do something in public bathroom.
At least online one doesn't have to worry about getting jumped.
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Oct 24, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
Guy101 saidLOL. With a BF it would acceptable because you are in a relationship with that person and merely playing out a fantasy with someone you've already been intimate with so yes there is a difference versus some random person who is just eying you from a stall and makes a play for you.
I seriously doubt that anyone you meet and fool around with in a bathroom has any intentions on wanting a BF but hey that's just my opinion for the situation at hand.
Online you are just chatting and whether you want to take it further is your deal just like whether or not you want you do something in public bathroom.
At least online one doesn't have to worry about getting jumped.
I am not judging you but i'm just saying that if you have the fantasy of having sex in the public bathroom, regardless of it's with your bf, then you need to re-evaluate on how you want to be treated and how you want to treat your bf.
Second point, how do you know that your BF won't have sex with other guys in the bathroom since you made the effort of acting your fantasy? |
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Oct 24, 2009 4:34 AM GMT
Why not a 5 star hotel in an awesome suit with a beautiful view? or on an isolated exotic island? Why do you need to play out your porn fantasy in a BATHROOM?
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Oct 24, 2009 4:42 AM GMT
WOW. You are seriously grasping for straws aren't you?
If you can't tell the difference between merely having a fantasy and just enjoying the thought of it but know in reality it's something that you wouldn't do then I can't help you. You seem pretty stuck on the bathroom scene. Maybe you'll be lucky and find your BF in a med stall if you can break away from all that med school studying you'll have to do. LOL.
I've thought of killing people but I don't go around with intentions of actually doing it. A thought is just a thought until you put it into action and give it birth. Some people think it while others actually do it.
Why are you gearing these question towards me personally? Is there something you want to say? If so then I'd appreciate it if you grew a pair and just IM'd me or at least sent me message. I can't stand guys who try to be all "inbetween". It's annoying.
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Oct 24, 2009 5:05 AM GMT
Guy101 saidWOW. You are seriously grasping for straws aren't you?
If you can't tell the difference between merely having a fantasy and just enjoying the thought of it but know in reality it's something that you wouldn't do then I can't help you. You seem pretty stuck on the bathroom scene. Maybe you'll be lucky and find your BF in a med stall if you can break away from all that med school studying you'll have to do. LOL.
I've thought of killing people but I don't go around with intentions of actually doing it. A thought is just a thought until you put it into action and give it birth. Some people think it while others actually do it.
Why are you gearing these question towards me personally? Is there something you want to say? If so then I'd appreciate it if you grew a pair and just IM'd me or at least sent me message. I can't stand guys who try to be all "inbetween". It's annoying.
Please know that I'm not directing at you personally. I don't have intension of attacking anyone. What I'm saying is that yes we've thought about nasty things esp. when we are depressed, angry or lonely and the difference between acting out and fantasizing is so blurred that why do you want to nurture that "fantasy"?
The first step in following through a crime is internalizing it and role playing then actually doing it.
Medically speaking, unless there's something wrong with the brain, which most people are not, people don't fantasize about killing other people or having sex in the bathroom.
People fantasize these things or some other when they are angry, hurt, lonely or have a low self image that they do not feel worthwhile to be treated well.
In this case, people need to find the source of why they feel the way they do instead of following their fantasy.
Please please note that I'm medically speaking and not directing at you although it might sound like I am by this statement. |
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Oct 24, 2009 5:16 AM GMT
They are called fantasies and everyone has them. it done'st cheapen or make a person less of a person for having them. They are just thoughts and because they think doesn't mean there is necessary something wrong with them.
I'm gonna poke a hole in your bubble and disagree with your opinion on people thinking about having sex in bathrooms as a fantasy. Clearly you don't watch porn because that is a very common fantasy along with having sex with a hot sports figure, a sexy teach, nurse, doctor, military man, construction worker and of course the all time favorite for most gay men....a cop.
So medically speaking youare saying that a person who has fantasy about something that gives them pleasure has low self-esteem, hasn angry issues, has been hurt or has something medically wrong with them. WOW.
Guess the whole world is fucked up buddy. How would you cure that medically speaking?
You should check out Tom of Finland and tell me a fantasy doesn't come to mind.
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Oct 24, 2009 5:27 AM GMT
Guy101 saidThey are called fantasies and everyone has them. it done'st cheapen or make a person less of a person for having them. They are just thoughts and because they think doesn't mean there is necessary something wrong with them.
I'm gonna poke a hole in your bubble and disagree with your opinion on people thinking about having sex in bathrooms as a fantasy. Clearly you don't watch porn because that is a very common fantasy along with having sex with a hot sports figure, a sexy teach, nurse, doctor, military man, construction worker and of course the all time favorite for most gay men....a cop.
So medically speaking youare saying that a person who has fantasy about something that gives them pleasure has low self-esteem, hasn angry issues, has been hurt or has something medically wrong with them. WOW.
Guess the whole world is fucked up buddy. How would you cure that medically speaking?
You should check out Tom of Finland and tell me a fantasy doesn't come to mind.
There's a documentary about porn, maybe you should watch this. Gay for pay http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scwHIS21mS4&feature=related The Price of Pleasure (Documentary for porn) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZcrXab7lFc The Dark Side of Porn http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xu--riQ3Xf0 |
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Oct 24, 2009 5:30 AM GMT
Sure. Why not. I've nothing else better to do then to debate with someone on fantasies that everyone has.
Just from looking at the links you posted I can already tell what the outcome is going to be. They are going to talk about the negative side of stuff. I'll pass on that since I actually read something similar to one of the topics you posted.
You are taking this waaaaay too far by trying to psychoanalyze something like this. Everything is bad for you. if you lose control then of course it's going to have a nasty effect on ypu and probably some one else too.
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Oct 24, 2009 1:37 PM GMT
rdberg1957 saidOoooh! Judgment city. When I was a college student, the library bathrooms were very active. Of course, I remained a virgin and never touched a soul. Of course, I went to bathhouses, bars, and even a gay beach. Almost all of those places are gone now. eb925guy saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes! GaFuzz saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
The same thought crossed my mind..... You guys are dense as bricks, and I'm not referring to your biceps. In Ohio, where the O.P. lives, and where I was born and lived my whole life up until May of this year, you can be arrested for making a pass at another man. Yes. There is a law that is unique to Ohio called the Importuning Law which makes it illegal to suggest gay or lesbian sex to another person "if they would be offended by that suggestion". Here, once again, is a legal article about that law: http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/ohio/ohnews11.htmMind you, no straight man could ever be arrested for making the lewdest, most disgusting proposition to any woman (if they could, there would hardly be any men not in jail), but essentially any gay man can be arrested for hitting on a straight man if he finds that offensive. I know it is shocking and inconceivable for people in other states that a law like that would exist in the 21st century, but it does. The park rangers and highway patrol do entrapment using this law. Former officers have admitted that they do this. See this article: http://www.gaypeopleschronicle.com/stories04/december/04dec10/04dec10-st2.htmThe law was ruled unconstitutional by the Ohio Supreme Court in 2003, but law enforcement officers apparently didn't get the memo, because they are still arresting people using that law. See here: http://www.gaypeopleschronicle.com/stories06/march/0331061.htmThe best thing for the O.P. to do is to get out of that "shit hole of a state", as Tapper calls it, and as I and Tapper and thousands of others have done. But in the mean time, it is idiotic to try this in Ohio. The men who get arrested for this have their names printed in the papers, and then they can get fired, because Ohio does not have any employment protections for gays and lesbians. Furthermore, you could end up with your name on a sex offender registry, with all the problems that entails, for the rest of your life. "What's the difference between that and going to a gay bar?" Legally, there's all the difference in the world. They would have a very hard time proving in court that they were offended by a proposition of gay sex if they were in a gay bar or a bathhouse to begin with. They wouldn't even try to do entrapment in those locales. Just so I can get this through all the thick skulls around this thread, I'll repeat: In Ohio, you can be arrested just for asking another man if he wants to have sex. Law enforcement does entrapment in the rest stops and parks using this law. Don't do it, smileboy!!! |
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Oct 24, 2009 2:11 PM GMT
These situations are of course about context. Cruising in public places, gay bars, at the grocery store, in parks, public in general, etc, - how the situation is 'judged' (which is what's happening in this thread) is dependent on how it synthesized.
For example, it's one thing to make eye contact and strike up a convo at the deli counter which later leads to a drink which leads to a hot romp. It's another thing to be taking a piss and some random leans over for a peek and says I'd like to suck that and you let him.
We all have our personal limits and boundaries, which are best for US. Others have theirs. Yes, there are legal issues and concerns about infringing the rights/safety of others. Those cannot be ignored.
Personally, I'd rather not pick a guy up in a restroom. But if it were David Gandy or Ryan Reynolds? LOL
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Oct 24, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
brandohsaurus saidI stop at every rest stop I pass after 11pm. I like to see the faces of desperation and their thirst for me. lol |
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Oct 24, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
eb925guy saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes! One time, I was at a conference at the Waldorf Astoria and i went to the mensroom to pee. The attendant was this sexy guy and we both laid eyes on each other...and the rest is history. Is it the fact that its a stinky mensroom that some guys say they would never do that? or is the objection about sex in a public place? Let's face it.....the illicit nature of it all makes it even more appealing for some guys. If not a mensroom, have you ever had sex in a park, behind a tree..in a stairwell of a building? In a taxi? How about in an upstairs bedroom as the party is going on downstairs? And some steam rooms at gyms are like bathhouses. Have you and your pals ever taken a cross country road trip and seen what the "truck stops" can be like? (its kinda like those porn flicks...you know, the ones you jerk off too). Its possible to make eyes with another man at a urinal and decide to talk outside and make plans for a date.......that can happen. Its just not the style of some men to do things like that, but to use the conveneint, typical and judgmental label of "its cheap and slutty" seems disingenuous at the least. When someone says (especially a man) that he would "never do that in a million years", it sounds like "Methinks Thou Protests Too Much". |
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Oct 24, 2009 5:58 PM GMT
Don't try restroom sex, you're just gonna hate it. Ask George Michael. 
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Oct 24, 2009 6:02 PM GMT
Jockbod48 saidDon't try restroom sex, you're just gonna hate it. Ask George Michael. heheh so funny who in the world gets off in a bathroom....blah! |
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Oct 24, 2009 6:31 PM GMT
Shit, I've cruised in so many restrooms and rest areas over the years that now I get saluted whenever I walk into one!
Y'know how, at rest areas on the interstates all across America, they have posted ordinances and rules where you park? They say things like how long you can stay, no campfires, no nudity, no solicitation, that type of thing?
Well, this last summer I did a drive a giant loop around America, and at least four different rest areas around the country had a notation on the rules sign that said, "Pony, don't even think of it. You're scaring the Straights!"
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Oct 24, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
leothelion saidWhy not a 5 star hotel in an awesome suit with a beautiful view? or on an isolated exotic island? Why do you need to play out your porn fantasy in a BATHROOM? dude, you are clueless. for centuries, if not thousands of years, fags (especially closeted ones) met each other in the bathrooms. figure the rest of it out. if men and women shared bathrooms, same shit would be happening. in any given club on any given day there is a boy and a girl fucking each other's brains out. stop fucking judging life. |
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Oct 24, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
Public restrooms are intended by socity for the general public, gay, straight, adult, children to answer nature's call. That's all. Desperate gay men have tried to hijack them as as cruising sites, and that's antisocial behavior.
Gay bars, adult bookstores, etc are intended, overtly or not, as places to cruise, meet, hookup, maybe have sex on the spot. People who go there expect that this will happen and are probably looking for it. It's what the places are intended for. No one has hijacked them for an inappropriate use. It's what the places are there for.
So, that's why cruising in a public restroom and cruising in a gay bar are not the same thing.
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Oct 24, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
To me its just nasty and creepy.
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Oct 24, 2009 7:56 PM GMT
OMG WTF DUDE THAT IS SO DISGUSTING. Everyone KNOWS bathrooms are dirty nasty places for sex, and that you'll end up with diseases and getting arrested and losing your job and being excommunicated from your family.
You should ONLY have sex in BEDROOMS. Bedrooms are clean and nice and you never get diseases or get arrested.
Geez doesn't everyone know how important it is WHERE you have sex? And that some rooms are certain DOOM while other rooms are always SAFE?
I bet you guys don't even know how important it is to know a guy's name and astrological sign before you have sex. I mean there's tons of studies out there (I don't have time to look them up, but if you can't find them, that doesn't mean they don't exist) that say once you know a guy's name and sign, that the odds of you getting maimed or killed drop dramatically. It's true!
And make sure you never date or have sex with any one less than your age plus his divided by the square root of your dad's age, or older than twice your mom's age minus your dad's age plus 13, cause EVERYONE knows that is TOTALLY GROSS.
I'm just so freaked out.
I mean I just hate all this stuff.
It's so freaky and nasty.
So gross and creepy.
Everything and everyone is just so shocking, freaky, gross, creepy, and nasty. I hate it all.
I don't understand any of you or anything at all.
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Oct 24, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
Sparkycat saidPublic restrooms are intended by socity for the general public, gay, straight, adult, children to answer nature's call. That's all. Desperate gay men have tried to hijack them as as cruising sites, and that's antisocial behavior.
Gay bars, adult bookstores, etc are intended, overtly or not, as places to cruise, meet, hookup, maybe have sex on the spot. People who go there expect that this will happen and are probably looking for it. It's what the places are intended for. No one has hijacked them for an inappropriate use. It's what the places are there for.
So, that's why cruising in a public restroom and cruising in a gay bar are not the same thing. Maybe so, but many, many, MANY towns do not have gay bars, bookstores, etc. So, many closeted, confused, kinky, risk taker and/or desperate men find places that are available, be it rest stop, the men's room at Macy's or Walmart or near the food court, or wherever. There is always a risk, yes. But obviously, some find it an acceptable risk, otherwise, this would not even be an issue. Who among us has never EVER taken a risk, just for the thrill of it? YEARS ago, I was running on the beach in the early AM, and passed a hot young surfer coming out of a men's room. I ducked in for a "pit stop", only to have him follow me in a few minutes later. He dropped his board shorts and showed me one of the hottest bods I've seen in a very long time. That was a very hot 20 minutes in my life. I never knew his name. I have absolutely no regrets. I look back fondly on it. So, say what you will. Judge if you feel morally obligated, but you'll never take away my fond memory. |
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Oct 24, 2009 8:07 PM GMT
GuiltyGear said
jrs1 said
my point: people do it. let's hear from their experiences, rather than judging; let's try to be inclusive rather than exclusionary.
How bout, no. This is a fitness site and having anonymous sex in and out of restrooms is the antithesis of a healthy and fit life. Inclusive of this behavior? That's why this isn't a fetish site or a kink site...or Man Hunt. So no playing Devil's Advocate on this issue. He should not do it, he should not even think of doing it. Plus, he's so small. I could see him targeted by perves and sadist alike, just because of his sheer prey quality. When I came in, read the post, and looked at his baby face, the first thing I thought was, the things I could do to him with a pair of spark plugs and a full jar of Vaseline and I'm no sadist.
Amen
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Oct 24, 2009 8:21 PM GMT
i've been cruised once in a restroom at a restaurant, but i was sure the guy was a hustler, so i just looked at him , smiled and left.
someone said bedrooms are safe, clean and you "never get diseases there"..
hahahaha... HAHAHAHAHAHA.
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btw, if this is such a fitness oriented site, why are the fitness and sports forums so quiet and all the gay bitching, girly forums so busy ?
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Oct 24, 2009 8:32 PM GMT
Is this a website for men who like cock and ass or a nursery school!UGH Crusing can be super hot!It must be done somewhat discreetly however!lol
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Oct 24, 2009 8:41 PM GMT
xassantex saidi've been cruised once in a restroom at a restaurant, but i was sure the guy was a hustler, so i just looked at him , smiled and left.
someone said bedrooms are safe, clean and you "never get diseases there"..
hahahaha... HAHAHAHAHAHA.
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btw, if this is such a fitness oriented site, why are the fitness and sports forums so quiet and all the gay bitching, girly forums so busy ?
I thought I picked up on that, too. |
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Oct 24, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
Sparkycat saidPublic restrooms are intended by socity for the general public, gay, straight, adult, children to answer nature's call. That's all. Desperate gay men have tried to hijack them as as cruising sites, and that's antisocial behavior.
Gay bars, adult bookstores, etc are intended, overtly or not, as places to cruise, meet, hookup, maybe have sex on the spot. People who go there expect that this will happen and are probably looking for it. It's what the places are intended for. No one has hijacked them for an inappropriate use. It's what the places are there for.
So, that's why cruising in a public restroom and cruising in a gay bar are not the same thing. ........................ Well said. I don't think any non supporter of this behavior is trying to be holier than thou , just not nasty, perverted, or unsafe. |
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Oct 24, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
iguanaSF saidYou should ONLY have sex in BEDROOMS. Bedrooms are clean and nice and you never get diseases or get arrested. Oh, I don't know... sex in the living room, dining room, kitchen, shower... it's all good.  |
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Oct 24, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
You know what... I'd never be up for joining the Larry Craig's of this world. I laugh my ass off at that shit. I don't get the whole anonymous sex thing anyways. That's just asking for a STD or worse. Sorry if anyone is in to that just not my cup of tea or tea bag for that matter.
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Oct 24, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
I feel with all the choices of venues gay and bisexual men have in the city, there is no excuse to go to a public place looking for sex. So any straight person who's only interaction with gay and bi men, is from seeing them doing this in a public place, and think that all gay men think about is sex, with as many men as possible, should not have the right to marriage, should be forgiven.
But at the same time how many people left a club, with people like John Wayne Casey, and Jeff Dahmer,who were never seen again.
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Oct 24, 2009 9:45 PM GMT
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Oct 24, 2009 9:57 PM GMT
Don't eat where you shit, big NO
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Oct 24, 2009 10:17 PM GMT
I got cruised at the gym a couple days ago after I went swimming. I was heading back from the restroom after taking a shower. I noticed some guy looking at me, then he undid his towel, flashed me and raised his eyebrows at me. I looked away and struggled to restrain laughter once the realization of what happened had set in. Needless to say, cruising is creepy, especially in places that are 90+% straight.
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Oct 25, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
Unoblivion saidI got cruised at the gym a couple days ago after I went swimming. I was heading back from the restroom after taking a shower. I noticed some guy looking at me, then he undid his towel, flashed me and raised his eyebrows at me. I looked away and struggled to restrain laughter once the realization of what happened had set in. Needless to say, cruising is creepy, especially in places that are 90+% straight. lmao that reminds me of a time that happened last week when a straight friend of mine and i were sitting in the sauna... we asked which one was he in to.. he said my straight friend.. i laughed. pendejo... you had a better chance with me and left. |
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Oct 25, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
Neophoenician saideb925guy saidleothelion saidHow's it different from cruising at a gay club? huh? nothing ,exactly. so....
Thank you...everytime I hear this question I think about the number of disgusting things that guys do regularly and then they say, I would never do that! Yeah right. The right guy, the right place, I think it would happen. Maybe not from the port-a-potty at the local county fair but I'll bet if you saw some hot buff stud in the restroom of the local swanky rich hotel restroom and the eye contact was there, you'd have second thoughts about meeting a guy in a restroom! prudes!
I don't think anyone is trying to be prudish, at least I'm not. It's just a matter of taking care of yourself from a legal standpoint. Here's the situation for people who live in Ohio:
http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/ohio/ohnews11.htm
With laws like that on the books, it's just not smart to risk it all on rest stop sex. With all due respect...I would not be "cruising" rest rooms any more than I would read the paper or magazine on the toilet or talk on the phone or text from the toilet or play video games or watch TV on the toilet.... Poor manners! and just not the place to "play"...unless it is a gay club! LOL! still..take it someplace private and clean! On the OHIO IMPORTUNING LAW....part of the law was ruled unconstitutional by the Ohio Supreme Court, in May of 2002. The portion of the law that read as such: “No person shall solicit a person of the same sex to engage in sexual activity with the offender, when the offender knows such solicitation is offensive to the other person, or is reckless in that regard.” was removed from the Ohio Revised Code by the legislature. The parts of the law that remain are in the context of making it illegal to offer sex to anyone younger than 13 years old. and the use of various electronic devices for communicating this offer, and pornography, etc.... source is here: http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/ohio/ohnews25.htm |
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Oct 25, 2009 3:28 AM GMT
No, I'm too busy trying to steal the roll of toiletpaper, especially if it's two- ply.
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Oct 25, 2009 3:40 AM GMT
xassantex saidi've been cruised once in a restroom at a restaurant, but i was sure the guy was a hustler, so i just looked at him , smiled and left.
someone said bedrooms are safe, clean and you "never get diseases there"..
hahahaha... HAHAHAHAHAHA.
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btw, if this is such a fitness oriented site, why are the fitness and sports forums so quiet and all the gay bitching, girly forums so busy ?
good points! It might be because the "Forums" page displays the General discussions first, and the Fitness discussions just barely drop off the bottom of the window (in 2nd place). Maybe if the Fitness discussions were first they might get more traffic. |
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Oct 25, 2009 4:16 AM GMT
Damn... lots of judgemental comments in this thread. I would never cruise period and if a guy approached me I would simply tell him frank that I am not interested and walk away.
But... everyone has their own life. I am nobody to say that is bad or creepy or shallow or whatever.
I really, really agree with the comment above about how it is the same as cruising in gay bars.... it really is. I see many guys do it week after week after week in our local bar and it kinda makes me sad but it is their own life and choices and I would not ever judge them
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Oct 25, 2009 4:44 AM GMT
I remember one time being in a bathroom stall in a department store, sitting there to use it for the purpose it was meant for. This guy in the next stall slipped me a note under the partition written on a piece of toilet paper. While I can't remember what was on his note, I remember thinking to myself "I'm in here to pass something, and it isn't notes!" -- If I had had a pen, I'd have written that back to him. Alas I left him hanging.
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Oct 25, 2009 5:50 AM GMT
leothelion saidHave you ever heard of Madonna-whore complex?? I think it applies to gay men here. They act innocent because they think that other guys might not love them. But they act all crazy behind in private. Same thing goes here. They think that other guys might not like them if they are "slutty" so they feel like the need to exhibit "innocence" so as not be regarded as slutty and hence could find potential guy. I like how so many gay guys think that because they are whores everyone must be a whore. Kinda the thinking of, I'm straight, so everyone thats not must be choosing to be gay. |
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Oct 25, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
I got cruised in a restroom once, well actually it was a locker room/restroom at the pool I used to dive at. The guy was early to mid thirties, about 6'2 215, drives a white lifted F-150 Arizona license plate: MOTORXR. Oh and I was 13 at the time, so if you see him tell him he's going to hell for me.
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Oct 25, 2009 6:28 AM GMT
Wanna hear a funny......
I was actually on a date....yes me...
Both of us just finished dinner at a nice GREEK RESTAURANT here in phoenix. Both of us walked over to the movie theater and once paid we walked in. I needed to take a leak and so did my date. Yes, both went in. No sooner than we bellied up to the pot this dude parked next to me and looked right down at me. Rrrr....
So my date finished and then the dude licked his lips as I finished up. The entire time my date was just waiting. I hate to cause more drama and so we walked in the theater and went to the top. Guess what...the dude followed us in.....LOL
So we visited and talked and then I needed to make a call before the movie. Now, I walked out in the hall and guess who followed. Yup, the dude....LOL
I sat on a bench and he walked to the men's room down the opposite way. I am sure he though I would walk down....NOT.....
I was on a date with a guy I liked.
The nerve...
Then he walked out and past me and then walked out of the movie theater all together. So you see there is no escape.
BTW.....me and my date had a good laugh about it. He's so cool. We are going to go on another!!
haha
Just for fun...
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Oct 25, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
Mystic_Man saidWanna hear a funny......
I was actually on a date....yes me...
BTW.....me and my date had a good laugh about it. He's so cool. We are going to go on another!!
haha
Just for fun... Nothing like a great date to make you smile and start whistling! And what an ego booster when not only are you and your date having fun, but there are other dudes checkin you out too. Have a good time the second time around with your date and go easy on the other fellas, ok? (let them down softly)....lol |
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Nov 04, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
Didn't Larry Craig teach us how it's supposed to be done?
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Nov 04, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
I would say that cruising in a bathroom is: 1.) Pathetic and 2.) Disgusting. ... to those who do it: Please keep this disgusting to yourself or xtube, as none of us "decent" (and i use the term loosely) people want to hear about those adventures.  |
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Nov 04, 2009 6:00 AM GMT
bigmusclepete saidDon't eat where you shit, big NO hahahahaha |
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Nov 04, 2009 6:04 AM GMT
kaicho saidI would say that cruising in a bathroom is:
1.) Pathetic
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2.) Disgusting.
... to those who do it: Please keep this disgusting to yourself or xtube, as none of us "decent" (and i use the term loosely) people want to hear about those adventures.
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Nov 04, 2009 6:24 AM GMT
I was out running today...oh you should see what I got on film when I went to take a pee......LOL
SHOCKING
LOL
I went in with the camera ROLLING!!! LOOOOLLLLLL
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Nov 04, 2009 6:34 AM GMT
Sage_k saidkaicho saidI would say that cruising in a bathroom is:
1.) Pathetic
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2.) Disgusting.
... to those who do it: Please keep this disgusting to yourself or xtube, as none of us "decent" (and i use the term loosely) people want to hear about those adventures.
-I second that Then why did you take the time to read all the way through, then respond? Wow, Judge Judy and Judge Wendy. How's the weather way up there? Jump off your high horse, climb down from the pedestal and step off the soap box. Get over yourselves boys.  |
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Nov 04, 2009 9:10 AM GMT
I try and avoid using public restrooms if I can
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