Birthday dilemma

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    Oct 24, 2009 5:04 AM GMT
    So I have a little issue...

    My friend is having their birthday party on the same day as my actual birthday... (their birthday was the week previous) he has asked me to get to his birthday early so I can set some things set up for him before he gets there... (he wants me to play an entrance song when he makes his 'grand entrance').

    I just feel like no one will remember that its my birthday too and I will want to leave the party to go enjoy the night myself a little...

    How would you feel/react if people forgot that it was your bday? How should I react?

    Josh
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    Oct 24, 2009 5:21 AM GMT

    Make it a double B-day party. You each could have your own cake and table.
    It'll be fun.

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    Oct 24, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    It wouldve been nice but they made it clear the night is about them and them only, found that a bit selfish....
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    Oct 24, 2009 7:27 AM GMT

    Well, declare that it isn't or tell them it's your birthday and you've got a hot date or something so you can't attend. Do not go there and make your night all about someone else. These are your friends? Man, they sound a little terrible.

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    Oct 24, 2009 7:40 AM GMT
    with GG, tell'em no, it's your day, you go do what you want!

    Personally I'm very selfish about my birthday, it passed recently without so much as a mention from anyone and I like it like that, the few people who know when my birthday actually is respect the fact I've no real interest in it and tend to just ignore it too.
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    Oct 24, 2009 11:00 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    Well, declare that it isn't or tell them it's your birthday and you've got a hot date or something so you can't attend. Do not go there and make your night all about someone else. These are your friends? Man, they sound a little terrible.



    Pretty much summed it up. If they are going to be that way about it, esp when their birthday was last week, I'd throw my own party.
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    Oct 24, 2009 11:47 AM GMT
    joshuwer said (he wants me to play an entrance song when he makes his 'grand entrance').


    Entrance song? Grand entrance? Arranged by himself for himself at a birthday party? What size ego does this guy have?
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    Oct 24, 2009 12:00 PM GMT
    Order yourself a birthday stripper to arrive in the middle of the party...That way you'll steal the limelight, and everyone will know who the real birthday boy isicon_smile.gif

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    Oct 24, 2009 12:03 PM GMT
    Asulikeit saidOrder yourself a birthday stripper to arrive in the middle of the party...That way you'll steal the limelight, and everyone will know who the real birthday boy isicon_smile.gif



    I like your thinking. lol
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    Oct 24, 2009 1:02 PM GMT
    It's just another day.
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    Oct 24, 2009 1:27 PM GMT




    He wants a grand entrance!? That reminds me of those bitches from MTV's Sweet 16. Wasn't his birthday night last week? I do find that kinda rude though, If he is your friend he should have known it was your birthday also and wouldn't mind celebrating it together. Isn't that what friends do?

    Me personally, I hate big parties and just like to have dinner with my closest friends and hang out for the day. Grand entrance entrance pssh. lets see if he wishes you a happy birthday
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 24, 2009 1:35 PM GMT
    I like what asulikeit said above. A stripper would be fantastic. It is YOUR birthday.... the idea this selfish person set up this party (apparently leaving your birthday acknowledgement out) is no friend. There would be no problem with the party if you were included.. after all, you are there and it is your birthday.

    One question... are you sure they know its your birthday? I'm assuming so, but are you positive?


    If so, and you want to do that sort of thing (the stripper....and I would) then I'd go off and enjoy your birthday and to hell with them.
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    Oct 24, 2009 1:39 PM GMT
    They could be setting you up for a surprise party (?) Just a thought.

    If not, I think you should set a clear boundary of how long you'll be there for him and make plans for later in the evening for yourself.

    It's not an ideal situation since you value your day. Choose to make it a win-win.
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    Oct 24, 2009 1:43 PM GMT
    Momentum_Play saidThey could be setting you up for a surprise party (?) Just a thought.

    If not, I think you should set a clear boundary of how long you'll be there for him and make plans for later in the evening for yourself.

    It's not an ideal situation since you value your day. Choose to make it a win-win.



    Good points... I thought of the surprise party thing myself.. are these "friends" the kind who might do this for you? If so, I'd go for a short time, wish the guy a happy belated birthday and then leave. If you do follow this course, you need to be prepared that its about them and not feel bad that you aren't included.

    Let us know what happens!
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    Oct 24, 2009 1:48 PM GMT
    Asulikeit saidOrder yourself a birthday stripper to arrive in the middle of the party...That way you'll steal the limelight, and everyone will know who the real birthday boy isicon_smile.gif



    This is one way to approach the dilemma. Of course if it really is a surprise party, just don't let any one know that you caught on.

    For next year, make it perfectly clear that you are throwing yourself a big birthday bash, and are inviting his guests and more to your party.

    BTW, wishing you Mega hairy muscle birthday hugs.
  • Celticmusl

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    Oct 24, 2009 2:36 PM GMT
    Something like this happened to me and it turned out to be a really horrible night. If you have friends in common and they know what's going on, they will be very chagrined about how your friend(WTF, throwing a birthday party for himself?) is treating the occasion. No one will have fun and it will be a total bust.

    While I was still with an ex of mine, he threw a birthday party for me, but he still considered it "his party". I tried to change the music and he said I couldn't because it was "his party". He basically acted like this all night, everyone knew we were having issues, and no one had fun. I didn't have time to pick up my gifts that night, the next day he came by my place and gave me HALF the gifts.....he kept half of the gifts!!!! WTF After being together seven yrs, we broke up soon after this "party".
  • Timbales

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    Oct 24, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    Remind him it's your birthday and you plan on celebrating it.
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    Oct 24, 2009 6:51 PM GMT
    I doubt the surprise birthday angle. The friend is being wayyyy to abrasive and common sense should tell him he might run the surprisee off. I'd tell him to sit on his grand entrance and twist, but you can just inform him that you'd like to attend as a guest, not entertainment and stop in long enough to scope the male guest and eat , then bounce and go buy yourself some birthday cashmere. Or don't go at all. TELL them it is your birthday and you aren't working on your birthday...put your foot down. I'm accommodating and sweet and all that like you, but not to the point of sacrificing too much for friends. The problem with that is, you often won't get the recognition (and we are all human and want that) for any sacrifice you might make for them. But you remind me of...this guy I know, you'll probably go and play the entrance. If you do, DO NOT linger and have something planned for you that night also.

    Anyway....Happy Birthday to you, not them, fuck them. icon_evil.gif
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    Oct 24, 2009 7:25 PM GMT
    Play the song and then tell him he's an asshole and you're leaving to go celebrate your own birthday.
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    Oct 24, 2009 7:30 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidPlay the song and then tell him he's an asshole and you're leaving to go celebrate your own birthday.


    LMFAO!

    Or.. play the wrong song to teach him a lesson. Like... I dunno.... Barbara Streisand singing "The Way We Were" or something... and you can walk out pretending to cry.
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    Oct 24, 2009 7:46 PM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidPlay the song and then tell him he's an asshole and you're leaving to go celebrate your own birthday.


    LMFAO!

    Or.. play the wrong song to teach him a lesson. Like... I dunno.... Barbara Streisand singing "The Way We Were" or something... and you can walk out pretending to cry.


    Or something completely random and disturbing like singing both parts of "Mungojerrie And Rumpleteazer" from Cats in two different voices.
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    Oct 24, 2009 8:09 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    danisnotstr8 said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidPlay the song and then tell him he's an asshole and you're leaving to go celebrate your own birthday.


    LMFAO!

    Or.. play the wrong song to teach him a lesson. Like... I dunno.... Barbara Streisand singing "The Way We Were" or something... and you can walk out pretending to cry.


    Or something completely random and disturbing like singing both parts of "Mungojerrie And Rumpleteazer" from Cats in two different voices.
    Note to self: keep date of birthday hidden from GS. icon_smile.gif

    Edit for the OP: you could do a Mexican Restaurant routine ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oXCaJSFJ4k
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    Oct 24, 2009 8:16 PM GMT

    OK, so it's the day after your birthday.

    What happened??icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 24, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    I mean if he's your friend, then he would be considerate enough to include you in his birthday plans. I feel that if his birthday was a week ago and he's celebrating on the day of your birthday without even considering its your actual birthday then he's selfish. Talk to him and say, "look I know its your birthday but your birthday has expired a week ago and it's my actual birthday today so I'm gonna do what I want whenever I want and that doesn't include me playing your entrance song." Then walk it out, walk it out. That simple.
  • Celticmusl

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    Oct 24, 2009 8:59 PM GMT
    ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..........I can't wait to find out all the dirty dirty.