I think there is truth to what the poster is saying. Gay men are much kinder to others who are not gay. I believe it is a consequence of our heritage. Most of us grew up in isolation, not knowing other gay people even in our own families. Isolation from those like us, being a reviled sub-population (despite great progress), these contribute to an extra dose of judgment in adulthood of one another, even though we have been recipients of heavy, unwarranted judgments. Thus, the objects of our desire, those like us, reviled, become targets of our negative judgments. As another poster pointed out, this is not unique to gay men; animosity between men and women abounds. Certainly, the internet amplifies negative judgments; people, under the cover of anonymity, both gay and straight, say very negative things that they would not say to someone's face. Gay men attach less than the general population. Despite problems with divorce, heterosexual marriage remains very popular. Gay marriage, despite its press, is not very common. I'm not sure what the current estimates are, but my understanding is that about half of gay men do not couple--compared with ten percent of heterosexuals who do not marry. In conversations with many gay men over the years, I have heard a common complaint about how hard it is to find a suitable partner. Frequently, but not always, those seeking opposite sex relationships have the support of family and community. I think it rare for gay men to have support from one another or family to find a mate. A personal example, certainly not generalizable, is my experience on Chemistry.com. I think the site is a very fine attempt to help people date. I've had fifty matches with guys in my area. Only one person even wanted to meet, despite my expressing interest. I could interpret that as there being something wrong with me, but I think the explanation that is more likely is that most of the gay men on the site are wanting to date, but actually quite reluctant to do so. I don't know the rate at which these men select others to date, but from conversations with others, I tend to think that there's not a lot of dating happening (not talking about sex, talking about meeting others socially for the ultimate purpose of mate selection).