Bottom guys: do you always need lube?

  • rnch

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    Oct 25, 2009 2:00 PM GMT
    i am somewhat new to bottoming; always considered myself a top but my current bf had other ideas.. icon_lol.gif

    at first he had to loosen me up with lots of rimming, slow, gentle single then double then tripple finger insertion before he could painlessly enter me.

    of course we use LOTS of lube.

    even with all of the above, there was an occassional time when he would have to pause after the intial entry and wait for me to become accustomed to him being there.

    it's been about a year and a half of increasing closeness and awesome sex. we/I are geting to the point that rimming and double/tripple fingering is not needed before he can painlessly slide into me.

    so...my question for you experienced bottoms...will we get to a time when all that lube is not needed for painless entry/painless sex?

    is "spit & steady pressure" really an eventual option? icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 25, 2009 3:21 PM GMT
    Not unless you enjoy having your rectum torn... but hey, to each their own.
  • Koaa2

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    Oct 25, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    I use lube all the time, makes it much more pleasurable for all involved.
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    Oct 25, 2009 3:49 PM GMT
    Spit is lube. It isn't particularly good lube. Why not save your ass some tearing and just use quality lube.
  • rnch

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    Oct 25, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    thanks for the replies!

    perhaps we will cpncentrate on just not using quite as much lube.... icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 25, 2009 5:39 PM GMT
    Why? What is the issue? Maybe you are using too much lube. Maybe you aren't using the right kind of lube. Tell us what is going on so we can help out.
  • drypin

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    Oct 26, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Not sure, mch, if you feel the amount of lube you're using is excessive, too messy, too expensive or if you're just curious because it seems like a lot.

    While some of us might come to get used to or even like a certain degree of pain during the experience, I'm going to say that you should just keep using as much lube as you need to make the sex enjoyable for both of you. You might experiment with less, as you wrote - though keep it in hand's reach in case you need more - or you might try other lubes that might work better for you. I'm sure we all have our favorites.

    In the end, the cost of the lube is well worth it for getting a good f*ck. I hope we can all agree on that! :-)
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    Oct 26, 2009 11:34 PM GMT
    Silicon based lubes are amazing. A little bit will go a long way, so it isn't quite as sloppy.
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    Oct 29, 2009 3:12 AM GMT
    i find when my boy rims me, he pushes spit up there and that helps alot
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 29, 2009 3:24 AM GMT
    I am a top and a bttm guy told me to get Swiss Navy silicone lube- don't need to keep applying again and again once should do it/condom safe. Threw out my astroglide!!
  • asixpactogo

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    Oct 29, 2009 4:24 AM GMT
    Yes spit is an option. You just have to be ready. I got a bf that always wants to use lube and I tell him to use spit and he say yuk!. Oh well!. I really prefer very little lube. It gives me the fricktion i love.
  • drypin

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    Oct 30, 2009 10:51 AM GMT
    Wait a minute... what's this? Why, it's a brand new bottle of WET just waiting to be used. I'll just put that aside for the next time TheGuyNextDoor comes to Europe. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    I have been bottoming a lot more lately--and I too have discovered that less and less lub is required for me to enjoy it. I am shocked by this--however I still use lube becuase a friend of mine got a cut down there and I think he wanted to kill his self. It took a long time to heal and he was really nervous about getting fucked again going forward and he is a BOTTOM--almost total bottom. In fact he is not a religious person but he was reduced to praying for help it hurt so bad and to so long to heal!! So don't risk it is my advice some people will need surgery to fix it.
  • Endever

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    Jan 22, 2010 5:44 PM GMT
    Well for me and whoever may be my "daddy" at that moment, i don't prefer lube, unless he was huge like mega huge.
    I usually have a wet hole to begin with and entry takes a while(initial pain) but once in and a few thrusts im good to go. =]]
    For him its more friction and the feeling of me gripping as opposed to sliding, which i like, and whoever never complains.
  • rnch

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    Jan 22, 2010 8:29 PM GMT
    brandohsaurus saidSilicon based lubes are amazing. A little bit will go a long way, so it isn't quite as sloppy.
    yes, we (bf and I) have discovered that, quoting the ancient Brillcreme hair tonic commercial, "a little dab'll do ya!" icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 23, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    We've been using Liquid Silk lately and it's much better than Astroglide and Wet.
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    Jan 25, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    I am a fan of ID glide and spit icon_smile.gif YUMMMY
  • buymeasoda

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    Jan 27, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    gun oil is the best... but i live by astro glide.. if i use it sometimes the ol spit an shove is easy when on the go
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    Jun 11, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    You really need the lube since the rectum does not produce lubrication itself. Spits only last for couple seconds before your ass can feel the friction (and it's not a good feeling) ... without lube, the chance of your ass to bleed increases as well.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Jun 17, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    HELL YES THERE IS NO OTHER WAY.
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    Jun 17, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    safety43 saidHELL YES THERE IS NO OTHER WAY.


    But is lube really needed after a nice rim job?
  • SFTraveler

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    Aug 12, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    Yes, I always need lube. I'm very tight so no matter how relaxed I am, I need a good lube. And spit is not slick enough for me.
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:56 AM GMT
    spartanrda saidI have been bottoming a lot more lately--and I too have discovered that less and less lub is required for me to enjoy it. I am shocked by this--however I still use lube becuase a friend of mine got a cut down there and I think he wanted to kill his self. It took a long time to heal and he was really nervous about getting fucked again going forward and he is a BOTTOM--almost total bottom. In fact he is not a religious person but he was reduced to praying for help it hurt so bad and to so long to heal!! So don't risk it is my advice some people will need surgery to fix it.


    Yeah I heard you can get something called an anal fissure if you don't lube up enough, sounds horrible!

    I think sometimes if there's enough foreplay and saliva involved it's not always essential, but most of the time use plenty of lube! My favourite brand is ID, either the regular one (blue bottle) or silicone.
  • Beeftastic

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    Aug 13, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Take it from me anal fissures ARE horrible! They bleed and are very painful and can take a week to heal. And of course are very unsafe!

    If you have any tearing or sore spots, Preparation H CREAM is the best thing for a sore ass. It reduces pain and helps it heal faster.
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    Aug 24, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    after a couple shots of yagermeister was feeling no pain so my me and my boo were at the bar no lube in site. thought he just play with my hole instead he ramed it in and i felt good. so moral of this story no lube have some yager shots lol