Memory Foam Mattress and sex

  • cowboyupnorth

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    Oct 25, 2009 2:41 PM GMT
    Does any one own a Memory Foam Mattress? I am thinking of getting one or a sleep number, both are about the same to me as beds are beds. I have slept on both in hotels, but never with a sexual partner. My fear is that the Memory Foam Mattress may interfere with sexual activity. Yet it may make sex better? If you own one would you recommend it?
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    Oct 25, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    My partner and I were just wondering that the other morning. Interesting to see what the responses, if any, will be......

    My partner cracked "Yeah and Mr.Tom (the cat who sleeps on the bed and usually moves to the foot of it during any 'physical'activity) can sleep undisturbed, like that wine glass in the commercials."
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    Oct 25, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    I have a 3" memory foam topper on top of an Aerobed air mattress, and it is heaven. I've never had sex in it, but I don't think there's anything about memory foam that should make sex a problem. You just have to make sure to use a mattress cover that is impermeable to liquids. I bought the recommended cover from the folks who sold me the topper:

    http://www.healthyfoundations.com/toppers.html
  • Daniepwils

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    Oct 25, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    There isn't any real difference. Well maybe one, when riding a guy you don't bounce around as much.
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    Oct 25, 2009 4:16 PM GMT


    I can't speak from experience. But my hunch (from flopping down on one at the occasional Brookstone) would be that memory foam mattresses might provide a welcome bit of additional traction and leverage. icon_twisted.gif
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Oct 25, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    this is what I found on google

    http://www.myfoammattress.net/guide/sex.html

    Love-Making On Visco Foam Mattresses

    Deciding which type of mattress is best is a difficult task. Allergy potential, lifespan, maintenance, back support and comfort are all very important when making a decision.

    But there's another factor to consider, equally important but less discussed openly among consumers: is a visco memory foam mattress good for having sex? The best way to decide that is by going through a home mattress trial.

    Visco memory foam mattress technology is great because it provides good spinal support, reduces tossing and turning during sleep, is firm, yet cushioning, has a lifespan of more than 10 years and requires little maintenance. Sounds like a great mattress, despite its high price. Consider this scenario, though.

    Let's say you are in a stable relationship, having a perfectly healthy sexual life. You decide to buy a Tempur-Pedic mattress, you pay for it, bring it home, set it up and get your first night's sleep on it. Wow, everything seems to work perfectly. Until the next night.

    When you first have sex with your partner on the new Tempurpedic mattress you realize something is not working quite like it should. The truth is that viscoelastic foam has a unique feel that makes sex different. There is also a chance you will not be able to enjoy sex on it like you did on other mattresses. This is what you should know about having sex on a memory foam mattress (or memory foam topper):
    Benefits of Having Sex On Memory Foam

    * One of the advantages of making love on a Tempur Pedic mattress is the fact that you will be able to practice all kind of contorted positions without fearing that one of your legs will go numb. Since memory foam contours your body, there will be no uncomfortable position caused by pressure points to keep you from letting your imagination run wild.
    * Have you seen those old American comedies where a stupid teenager tries to secretly have sex with an older girl, but the bed makes so much noise that the whole neighborhood can hear their every move? Well, let's just say that if they were making love on a Tempur Pedic mattress, no squeaking sound would have left the teenager's bedroom.

    An innerspring bed bounces back at you, helping you acquire rhythm and speed. But it also wastes a lot of your energy and effort: you push down, the mattress pushes back, not letting you get close to your partner, so you have to push harder and harder every time just to feel like you're going all the way in.

    * Memory foam mattresses can help with this because it has absolutely no bounce, so all your effort and energy is put to good use.
    * Since the visco foam contours your partner's body, he (or she) will be 'gripped, trapped' in the mattress and won't move around with your every thrust.
    * Grinding techniques work better on a Tempur-Pedic style mattress because of the friction provided by the foam. You won't need to anchor yourself to the bed or push against the headboard to make sure you enjoy every move.

    Drawbacks of Having Sex On Memory Foam

    * Memory foam mattresses offer traction and temperature responsiveness. Your body temperature gets higher while having sex, so your mattress will match that 'hot' feeling with some additional softness (memory foam softens in warmer environments). There are, of course, people who think that this contouring property leads to a 'marshmallow', sand moving feeling that can kill the romantic mood.

    There are other reasons for which people say that memory foam mattresses like Temperpedic are not the perfect mattress to have sex on:

    * Visco elastic memory foam does not encourage mobility: for example, when you put your knee on the mattress, it sinks through and your weight leans towards that side, making it difficult to move freely. So if you are a young, energetic couple who likes to roll around in bed, memory foam is definitely not for you!

    As you can see, the way sex feels on a Tempur Pedic foam mattress is a very personal thing. So don't make any decisions just by listening or reading other people's opinions. Do a home trial and find out if you (and your partner) like the feeling. Even if you do sleep great on a memory foam mattress, the fact that you cannot make love on it is a serious problem that deserves consideration.
  • rnch

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    Oct 25, 2009 5:14 PM GMT
    i have a memory foam mattress, my bf does not..we do equally well at either's haus. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 02, 2009 6:34 PM GMT
    I had both kinds and I'll NEVER EVER get a foam mattress again!

    1) - HEAT: They sleep "hot", as in hot temperature. The material wraps tightly around your body (fancy tempur word: contours) which really sucks because you SWEAT. You like sticky? Then foam is for you.

    2) - SEX: Can you envision how exciting it feels to box against a wall of foam? I don't know how else to describe it, other than being prisoner of your own mattress. Maybe it's OK for grampa.

    3) - BACK SUPPORT: Tempur marketing is all about superior support and thus better, healthier sleep. After sleeping on this piece of shit for 3 years, here's the real deal. FOAM = SPONGE = BAD SUPPORT. Your body simply sinks into the mattress (you're really going to love that permanent sinkhole in your mattress after 1 year of use). The heaviest parts sink in the furthest. USED SPONGE = EVEN WORSE.

    Good luck!
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    Nov 02, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    Don't listen to the naysayers, I've slept on a tempurpedic mattress "topper" for five years and I don't even want to get out of bed it is so good. It's absolutely the greatest feeling. Even wrestling on it is hot! icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 02, 2009 7:11 PM GMT
    Daniepwils saidThere isn't any real difference. Well maybe one, when riding a guy you don't bounce around as much.


    LMAO... that gave me enough reason not to get one. why work twice as hard when the bed helps you for free. HAH!icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 02, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    It will make it even easier for some of those bottom guys to lie on their backs and do absolutely nothing .
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    Nov 02, 2009 7:21 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidDon't listen to the naysayers, I've slept on a tempurpedic mattress "topper" for five years and I don't even want to get out of bed it is so good. It's absolutely the greatest feeling. Even wrestling on it is hot! icon_wink.gif
    agree! OHH YEHHHHH! icon_twisted.gif
  • Menergy_1

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    Nov 02, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt will make it even easier for some of those bottom guys to lie on their backs and do absolutely nothing .


    Bwuahahaha! That's why I keep turning them over and flipping them -- don't want them to get bed sores from the same ole positioning!
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    Nov 02, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    I dated a guy who had memory foam.
    It's definitely good for traction
    You get a lot less bed movement which is a lot more effective for getting the right spot consistently with much less work for top and bottom regardless of the positioning.
    However, when I was on my knees with my face in the bed the foam mattress was like a freaking torture device! I couldn't put my forehead against it without it sinking in and smothering my own face! I had to stay on my arms or I'd suffocate or be at a painful neck angle if I turned my head.
    The traction and stability definitely made for deeper, harder penetration. However, I didn't like sleeping on it.
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    Nov 02, 2009 11:36 PM GMT
    I had an air mattress for a number of years for my bad back, and the biggest difference compared to an innerspring mattress is a lack of bounce. An innerspring can produce a slight trampoline effect, depending on its firmness.

    How that affects your sex activities depends upon what they are. At first I found the air mattress a bit "dead" for f***ing, sorta like being on a futon, but I got used to it over time, and I did sleep much better.

    I've never used a foam mattress, but I would expect it also lacks bounce. Plus when testing the memory kind in stores, I found I sank into it after a few minutes of lying still, and when I went to move around, it was like trying to roll out of a trench, the way it had molded around my body. Too confining for me, but I can't predict its impact on sex.
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    Nov 02, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    As much as I absolutely adore my memory foam topper, I don't think I'd want a Tempur-Pedic mattress, where the whole thing is foam. I really like the Aerobed underneath the topper.
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    Nov 03, 2009 12:32 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt will make it even easier for some of those bottom guys to lie on their backs and do absolutely nothing .


    okay.. that is me on some days when I just feel like being held and made love to BUT... usually I like to return the favor and ride my man like no other.. sounds to me like a conventional bed with a pillow-top is a much better idea, lol.