Lemons, lemonade, and boredom: or what do do when masturbation's lost it's fun...

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    Oct 27, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    So a few months ago, my cushy little job went buh-bye. Boyfriend and I used the opportunity to move. Four months later, though, I still haven't found the right job. I was getting a little pissed off and bitter about it until the other day.

    I suddenly realized that while I've not been 'working' working, I've been doing stuff that's just as important...I've had the time and leisure to rediscover things that make my soul happy. I started writing again last month, for instance, and just this week I rediscovered some old artistic talents I'd all but forgotten about.

    If I hadn't had all this down-time, I don't think I would have re-connected with these little things in life that make me happy. Anybody else had a little 'a-ha' moment in the face of an unexpected or adverse situation? Or gotten too busy to remember to pay attention to the little things?


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    Oct 27, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    When masturbation's lost it's fun, you're fucking breaking.
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    Oct 27, 2009 3:11 AM GMT
    Recently started running again. . . .

    When I left my ex years ago I took a year off to get drunk and then finally started composing music. Been doing it ever since; found out that performing wasn't my niche but writing is.
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    Oct 27, 2009 4:10 AM GMT
    The reasion I do contract work is because if I don't won't to work, or won't a week off to work in the garden to dig a straight trench, or to fill it, or just to sit there and enjoy it, I do so. Like today is to nice of a Spring day to be at work, so I'm at home.icon_biggrin.gif

    If you ever get bored of tossing off, use the other hand, it feels like some one ellsicon_wink.gif

    I just finished 3 weeks of caring for a group of nuns, that was an experience to say the least.
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    Oct 27, 2009 5:17 AM GMT
    when we have a chance to take a stroll on the road to Damascus , it's a lucky moment.

    you see my avatar, some saw my profile pics. Biking is a big passion in my life.
    But it came about like the butterfly effect.
    Once after being dumped by a girl i thought i was in love with and at the same time having a recording project totally fail , and so feeling a total reject and very sorry for myself, i drove by a small sports shop in my hometown.
    I saw this generic, cyclotourist bike on sale for $90..(i still smile thinking at that price).
    And i had a little flash " i want a bike".
    stopped, bought it .
    a month later, i bought a $1000 racer , a Casati .
    2 months later, upgraded it for another $1000.

    it became an obsession,
    from road i migrated to mountain
    and it never ever relented.

    unexplainable .
    but it's the greatest gift i ever had from life i think.
    all the consequences and ramifications it brought upon in my life were nothing but blessings, from xc skiing to running , to gym , general fitness, eating better, meeting great guys,
    ... finding RealJock? lol dunno about that one yet...

    ha, and eventually i did make that recording project work, and as for the girl, after hundreds of dicks of all sizes i can't even remember her face. .. well.. almost. :p
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    Oct 27, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    Funkapottomous saidWhen masturbation's lost it's fun, you're fucking breaking.

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    Oct 27, 2009 7:58 AM GMT
    hold up there... masturbation loses its fun??

    Maybe you need to get a little kinky happenin again.. just make sure it's not a Dyson... those things could suck your nuts off.... icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 27, 2009 10:10 AM GMT
    Actually, thats how i felt about the guy I have been dating for 4yrs. He's really returned me to a lot of the things I used to love but lost interests in after my fiance passed away. Now that E and I are going through a little bit of a rough I find it hard to stay in to those things but rather feel like I need to find a way to stay connected. I think Im going through a slight depression and well certain aspects of it are not helping. The only productive thing so far is that I am hopefully going back to school in Jan. so we'll see how that goes.
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    Oct 27, 2009 11:10 AM GMT
    When you're really into some else
    Like when a relationship is new
    Masturbation and be not as fun

    But just hearing that is like hearing someone say
    I just don't like Chocolate icon_confused.gif

    or puppies

    or passing a Cinnabon at an airport and smelling them baking icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Matia79

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    Oct 27, 2009 12:24 PM GMT
    Even though I don't agree that masturbation could lose it's fun (hell no!)... I have actually come up with something to keep me busy.

    I left my job over a year ago (office manager of a Legal Recruitment firm) and focused my energy into my career as a performer. Every few months I do a cabaret here in town and they've become pretty popular. I have one coming up in a few weeks actually so if anyone's visiting Toronto you should check it out! It's a lot of work but totally worth the pay off.
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    Oct 27, 2009 12:47 PM GMT
    I've been a writer for years. Since high school. Short stories, poetry, essays, scripts, etc. I've published a few short stories and poems, had some recordings of my work featured in gallery settings, but I've really published nothing significant in the...past decade. I moved to a big city, discovered boys, started spending my nights naked vs in front of my computer screen, etc.

    Last fall, the guy with whom I was...involved...sparked this long and deep conversation one night about creativity and artistic endeavors, etc. How to fit them into a regular life when you are either unable or unwilling to partake of an artist's life. For the first time in years I was forced to recall and recite my creative history. This caused me to look at various stumbles and pitfalls, at patterns I'd developed in my life and creative work, etc.

    Next thing you know, I 'rediscovered' a manuscript for a novel I'd started working on several years ago and had set aside due to various factors (mostly the disintegration of major relationship.) Beginning in January of this year, I started working on this piece again. It's now 70 chapters in and MAYBE 1/3 through the rough draft main plotline. It's going to be a much larger piece than I imagined but I'm having great fun working on it and shaping it into something I think others will enjoy.

    I've written 3 novels previous to this one...all of which I loathed by the time I finished them. Largely because I wasn't writing the stories I both wanted to write and knew deep down I needed to write.

    So 2009 has proven a good year creatively. I look forward to finishing the work some time in mid 2010 and finally sharing it with some readers whose feedback I know I can trust.
  • Halfstep

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    Oct 27, 2009 2:01 PM GMT

    I've always considered myself to be quite the artist, really into poetry, short stories, drawing, painting and music, but between school, and the army and my boyfriend and family, I haven't written anything in a long time. I painted once about 3 months ago. And my keyboard, I haven't really come up with anything new on it.

    It was a week ago that my BF was at work and for some reason I decided to record my keyboard with a voice recorder. And then I played back what I had recorded and recorded even more along with it. I just created a lot of layers and its really amateur but its a lot of fun to be able to put my stuff on the computer crank up the bass and listen to it. Its kind of rekindled that passion I had for life when I was younger.

    I don't even know if the stuff I'm doing right now would be liked by other people and I guess thats part of the fun. Experimenting, creating this audio representation of my own mind. I already have 3 songs done, my goal is to have 12 before christmas so that I can burn them onto CD's and give them out as christmas gifts.
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    Oct 27, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    Yes !!! A house fire in which I was able to save my daughter and get out of the house on a ladder while watching everying I owned burn up and fleeing as fast as I could with a death grip on my daughters hand. Life eclipsed everything. 9 years later major surgery finished showing me what in life holds true importance. Material things don't matter, enjoying life and the people in your life is where its at. I take my time at things to enjoy the moment and the people around me taking more time for them now. I too took up writing, and even 'masterbating' took on new life !!! LOL !!!!