Would you be satisfied in knowing you partner could be "the one"?

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    Oct 27, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    Last month, my bf and I celebrated our 5th anniversary together. As we've grown within each other, more and more I believe he is "the one". No one can predict the futurue, but to the guys in monogamous relationships, would you be content if you spent the rest of your life with your current partner? What does your partner do that would make you stick around?
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    Oct 27, 2009 8:50 PM GMT
    I do.

    He's the nicest guy. Very supportive of me. Funny. He is a very hard worker. We want the same things when it comes to family and career goals. My family loves him. I love him.

    Also, I always know exactly where I stand with him. And that's extremely important. I don't like passive aggressive behaviors or lying or any mind games, and he doesn't do that.
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    Oct 27, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
    On one hand I am a romantic in the sense that I would like to spend my life with someone (I do not believe in predetermined soul mates or anything). However, I also thing that looking for 'the one' puts a lot of pressure on the person you are seeing. This is why I don't aspire to get married. My parents were never married and remain happily together after almost 30 years. They so rarely fight. I think this is because they don't feel like they are trapped... they're together because they love each other, and if for some reason that love should diminish (God forbid), that's okay. It's not like one minute they will be united by God and the next are officially apart. People aren't perfect.

    Those are my views, perhaps I will change.
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    Oct 27, 2009 10:01 PM GMT

    I have outstanding taste in men so they are usually suitable enough to be the one....I'm simply not ready yet. hello kitty emoticon blush Pictures, Images and Photos

  • jarhead5536

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    Oct 27, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    After three years together, it's no longer even a question. We need each other like oxygen, pure and simple...
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    Oct 27, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    TheIStrat said...
    We want the same things when it comes to family and career goals. My family loves him. I love him.



    ugh ... I loved reading this, strat. I'd like to be with a guy where we are supportive of each other, intimate, and there is no need to profess our presence to each other; where we know that the other is simply there. I would like to be with someone where there is this quiet understanding that has taken place ... like with my best friends, but with the component that we are sharing a heart (or some metaphor of that sort).
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    Oct 27, 2009 11:51 PM GMT
    I've been with my bf almost a year. I have thought about if he is "the one" for me and all I can say is I can't imagine what my life would be like if he were not in it. I hope he is the one -- not because I'm ready but because when we are together, nothing else matters. We laugh, we cry, we have trust, there is mutual respect, and we really support each other. We understand that we are not perfect but that's ok. I could go on and on but I'll sum it up by saying he is the rock in my life that I was missing and I love him through and through!
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    Oct 27, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    Interesting.....I think I will ultimately take a compatible partner and choose if I want him to be the one or not and he will do the same with me
  • Celticmusl

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    Oct 28, 2009 12:03 AM GMT
    I wouldn't be in an LTR if I didn't think he was "the one", and we would have already had an agreement between us stating this. I don't get into relationships of convenience. However, before the LTR there is about 6 months up to two yrs of dating before I usually start thinking of the other guy as a SO.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    jarhead5536 saidAfter three years together, it's no longer even a question. We need each other like oxygen, pure and simple...


    dido


    8 years...nuff...said.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:41 AM GMT
    That's sooo cute! I am celebrating 2.5 years together. Congrats on the relationship!!! I have been thinking the same thing about my BF for the past year or so. I haven't told him that I think he is the one... at least not sober yet. I'm kind of afraid of commitment. You will know when he is the one when you know it. The tricky part is when to pop the question! I think i will probably propose on our 5th anniversary... but that's still some time away! XP
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    I totally agree.

    I'm at the point where I know him inside and out, and he knows me inside and out. There's that almost psychic connection; I can tell when he's having an off day, even when I haven't talked to him. He's the same way. Planning a surprise for him is almost impossible.

    I think the thing that got us to this point was the complete and total honesty we've had since day one. We've said everything about everything to each other - from ex's to those extremely minor details. Its an amazing thing. I could totally see myself happy with him for life.
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:41 AM GMT
    boynextdoor3 saidThat's sooo cute! I am celebrating 2.5 years together. Congrats on the relationship!!! I have been thinking the same thing about my BF for the past year or so. I haven't told him that I think he is the one... at least not sober yet. I'm kind of afraid of commitment. You will know when he is the one when you know it. The tricky part is when to pop the question! I think i will probably propose on our 5th anniversary... but that's still some time away! XP


    congrats! I wish you both the best!
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:45 AM GMT
    Yea and he is. It felt that way 5 years ago when we became friends. Then was shown by both of us the way we've looked out for each other, and have taken care of each other in rough periods of our lives
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:46 AM GMT
    he was
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:48 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidhe was


    aww man
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:03 PM GMT
    Blu and I have one of those rare relationships where it was damn near "love at first sight".

    We were committed within 3 months. Less than a year into it, we were discussing marriage. It seemed foolish to outsiders, and neither of us were the type to move that fast.... but it just felt THAT right. We got lucky and have an alchemy together that just works perfectly.

    2 years and 5 months into it, things are still getting better! Now there are things about him I wish were different, and things about me he would change, but we have accepted each other, flaws and all, and deeply believe that this can and will work out for a lifetime.

    As far as the monogamy though.. that is overrated. We're getting married, but still like to keep an open relationship. It is possible, folks, to be non-monogamous and still deeply committed and in love with each other. It comes from an ultimate trust we have for each other.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:29 PM GMT
    Even though at the moment my bf and I are not officially together... I still remember how he acted the first time I told him I loved him. He closed off and I guess became kind of withdrawn. I let it slide because at that time we weren't together... just best friends but I knew that I loved him... being the drunken best man at my cousin's wedding that was held outdoors under a full moon and in the most romantic setting and seeing the love that my cousin and his wife have for each other... It was too much. I snapped. I had to tell him. The next time was when he was thinking of joining the Air Force because he felt trapped by bills and his family's crap over him being gay. I was ready to walk away because I couldn't bare to be away from him and the thought of losing him (the last guy I loved my fiance was killed on 9-11) was too much. It was then when he told me that when he looked at his life he saw it as a puzzle and that I was the last piece that made it up... that he couldn't be complete without me. Everything was going great until Aug. when he abruptly ended everything. He tried telling me that someone was in the picture now but I later found out that he lied about that. He became scared because he saw where the relationship was going and I guess like most guys commitment scares him. I love him. I want him like nothing else in this world. Everyday since that day he left me, I remember getting down on my knees and ask and praying thanking God for him being in my life and like other things in my life... if he is not the right one for me than to close this door and show me to a new one. Well... fast-forward to today... we are working to fix this and talking about bigger and longer term things. He wants to take things slow but he wants me to know how very serious he is about me. I told him that he knows where I stand about things but I don't want to be hanging on forever. He knows I go out with guys and that scares him. He knows that is fear that led to this whole little mess has made me a stronger person and Im no longer scared of being alone. I know what I have to offer and have a better confidence than ever before. He sees it and likes it but knows if he doesn't do better by me he will lose me for good... so he things. I was working hard trying to pull him from that environment that he is in... basically trying to save him and even though my plan didn't work out... I saved myself in the process and now he knows just how far my love for him went/goes. He's told me that he knows no one will ever love him and care for him like I did. We are like Yin and Yang.. a little similarity but different and we feed of each others strengths. My parents that still call him the "other son" have both said that even thought they don't approve of us dating or being gay... they accept us and know how much of a power house we can be when we work together. The history of the last 4yrs keeps me strong and thinking forward of what lies ahead for us. I want him to be my husband when he is ready. He's already asked me to move in with him once we move to San Antonio which should be this coming spring. I had a dream once that I was marrying him and it was on our 7th Anniversary... its year 4 going 5 maybe there is something to be said. Only time will tell.
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:30 PM GMT
    Ryan_Andrew said We are like Yin and Yang.. a little similarity but different and we feed of each others strengths. .


    Man that is just like me and Blu. I guess we were lucky that neither of us were scared of commitment. I don't understand that. What are people afraid of? If it feels right, why run away from it?

    I really, truly hope this works out for you two, because you do sound right for each other.

    Damn that was romantic.
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    Oct 29, 2009 11:44 AM GMT
    IHG84 saidYea and he is. It felt that way 5 years ago when we became friends. Then was shown by both of us the way we've looked out for each other, and have taken care of each other in rough periods of our lives


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    Oct 29, 2009 11:51 AM GMT
    Yes.

    My Right Hand and I have been together since birth... it was only until middle school that I knew it was "the one". I mean... it was my first time I masturbated. Couldn't stop since then lolicon_lol.gif
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    Oct 29, 2009 11:58 AM GMT
    Oxonium saidYes.

    My Right Hand and I have been together since birth... it was only until middle school that I knew it was "the one". I mean... it was my first time I masturbated. Couldn't stop since then lolicon_lol.gif

    Masturbation, the only thing a man truly commits to!
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    Oct 29, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    Does anybody have a partner and think that he isn't "the one?" If so, you're being selfish, and will end up hurting your partner more than you can imagine. If the guy you've shacked up with doesn't seem to fit the bill, break it off with him so that he can find someone who will love him equally.
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    Nov 06, 2009 1:08 PM GMT
    Tapper saidDoes anybody have a partner and think that he isn't "the one?" If so, you're being selfish, and will end up hurting your partner more than you can imagine. If the guy you've shacked up with doesn't seem to fit the bill, break it off with him so that he can find someone who will love him equally.


    I agree - - alot of guys don't get this concept though. Sadly.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Nov 06, 2009 1:11 PM GMT
    A lot of that depends on me. I'm a romantic though, and would probably hope for the best in any relationship.