Why Singles?

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    Oct 28, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    There are many Hot guys in RJ, and most of them are singles. why?
    they seem like handmade, nice profile, whats wrong?
    they just love themselves that much?
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    Oct 28, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    saintpaul07 saidThere are many Hot guys in RJ, and most of them are singles. why?
    they seem like handmade, nice profile, whats wrong?
    they just love themselves that much?


    Well..take a look in the mirror and answer that question for yourself!

    Not everyone is wanting an LTR of a BF or even an FB....some are just that busy being active, volunteering, educated , industrious or other reasons...... or yeah, some really do LOVE themselves that much....ok switch hands! and get some more lube! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 28, 2009 5:01 AM GMT
    um... if someone told me that in real life, i'd get offended and just walk away with a confused look on my face.

    Other than that... it's because of the old saying:

    "Gay men are like parking lots; all the good ones are either too far away or taken. All the others are handicapped."

    (just a lil joke in there, no harm meant to anyone who is handicapped. honestly.)
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    Oct 28, 2009 5:34 AM GMT
    kaicho saidum... if someone told me that in real life, i'd get offended and just walk away with a confused look on my face.

    Other than that... it's because of the old saying:

    "Gay men are like parking lots; all the good ones are either too far away or taken. All the others are handicapped."

    (just a lil joke in there, no harm meant to anyone who is handicapped. honestly.)


    LMAO. That's funny but it's true. Just because some men are single doesn't mean that they are in love with themselves.
  • jrs1

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    Oct 28, 2009 6:40 AM GMT
    speaking for myself, I am single because RJ introduces me to a wealth of amazing, single, and genuine men ... who are either hundreds or thousands of miles away ... that and I don't know how to talk to guys in person ... in terms of breaking the ice.
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    Oct 28, 2009 7:08 AM GMT
    Im single bc I havent met anyone compatible yet.
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    Oct 28, 2009 7:31 AM GMT
    I thought this was gonna be recipes for Kraft American cheese
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    Oct 28, 2009 7:42 AM GMT
    Guys that I've met on this site have all been 1) so far away, 2) taken, 3) looking for different things, or worst of all 4) creepy. I haven't found a guy outside of the site for god knows why... maybe cause I'm too picky or not open enough with my sexuality... Meh, this is all pretty new for me... I'm sure I'll find someone soon.
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
    All the best men are in Canada.
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:06 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidAll the best men are in Canada.


    I've noticed that lately.
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:11 AM GMT
    axl88 said
    Webster666 saidAll the best men are in Canada.


    I've noticed that lately.


    Seriously, Im gonna migrate lol.
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:18 AM GMT
    cupidshold said
    axl88 said
    Webster666 saidAll the best men are in Canada.


    I've noticed that lately.


    Seriously, Im gonna migrate lol.


    I think I'm gonna go ahead and disagree with all three of you on that one... they're in America... Europe... really anywhere I am not as long as its very far... icon_sad.gif lol
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:31 AM GMT
    costaki said
    cupidshold said
    axl88 said
    Webster666 saidAll the best men are in Canada.


    I've noticed that lately.


    Seriously, Im gonna migrate lol.


    I think I'm gonna go ahead and disagree with all three of you on that one... they're in America... Europe... really anywhere I am not as long as its very far... icon_sad.gif lol


    the grass is always greener on the other side

    perhaps that's why i am, and have always been, single

    but i think there are several factors that play into it:

    - yes, it has to do with coming across amazing people here and not seeing them where i live
    - i also don't go out to gay places in my city that often, and when i do go to clubs and such, i find them rather ... unappealing to meet people
    - i am a fairly guarded individual and i may push people away at times
    - and like jrs said, learning how to properly communicate with boys and men in person is a lesson i am still learning

    i could write a book on why i am single, and one chapter could be dedicated to just how much i HATE that question.

    everyone has reasons, everyone is different
    i think it's as simple as that
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    Oct 28, 2009 8:41 AM GMT
    I don't mind being single at the moment.
    Also how I live and work right now is an obstacle. I'm not sure I'm able to find many guys who would put up with my schedule. I'm not home a lot on weekends and I mostly work late afternoon-evening on weekdays, when other people are off work.

    so if I meet a new guy, he can't expect me to see him several times a week, after just a few dates. when I get to know him better and if he's a possible keeper, of course I'd try to make my free time about him.



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    Oct 28, 2009 9:14 AM GMT
    judoguy saidI don't mind being single at the moment.
    Also how I live and work right now is an obstacle. I'm not sure I'm able to find many guys who would put up with my schedule. I'm not home a lot on weekends and I mostly work late afternoon-evening on weekdays, when other people are off work.

    so if I meet a new guy, he can't expect me to see him several times a week, after just a few dates. when I get to know him better and if he's a possible keeper, of course I'd try to make my free time about him.





    you are too endearing for words. your honesty and genuine qualities have always struck me as you being a good person ... even when you find yourself busy.

    I don't actually mind being single either ... until the work for the day is done and night falls. then the shadows playing on the walls remind me of how much fun it would be to come home to my man and have him both mentally and physically present - making the dream a reality, so to speak.
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    Oct 28, 2009 9:55 AM GMT
    kaicho saidum... if someone told me that in real life, i'd get offended and just walk away with a confused look on my face.
    Don't you just love it when someone IMs and immediately asks you, "So why are you single?"

    Might as well say, "So how long have you been kicking puppies?" or "How long have you had leprosy?" icon_lol.gif

    /FAIL
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    Oct 28, 2009 10:44 AM GMT
    I'm cursed with somewhat high standards
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    Oct 28, 2009 10:52 AM GMT
    MsclDrew saidI'm cursed with somewhat high standards
    If you'd like to lower them sometime, come sit by me ... icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 28, 2009 10:57 AM GMT
    people are single for a multitude of reasons, from choice to inability to have a healthy relationship.

    developing and maintaining a relationship requires not only a great deal of physical and emotional effort it also takes maturity that doesn't come with age but with experience, understanding and acceptance of other people and their fatal flaws.

    Some people reject the idea of a relationship because of perceived requirements to maintain such a thing, to simply being unwilling to alter there own life to make room for another person in that capacity.

    others are just down right psychotic and have yet to met there kindred psycho.

    Your question makes me wonder about you though.
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    Oct 28, 2009 11:03 AM GMT
    I am single...only because I chose to be. Where does it say that we, as gay people, have to hook up and become partnered? Where in the Gay Manuel does it say that? That I must hook up with someone else before I am a citizen? That I need to hook up? Fuck that. I have no need to hook up. I am pretty damn awesome by my self.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:09 PM GMT
    lilTanker said others are just down right psychotic and have yet to met there kindred psycho.


    The moment of mutual recognition is how you'll know when you've met the One.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:27 PM GMT
    jrs1 saidspeaking for myself, I am single because RJ introduces me to a wealth of amazing, single, and genuine men ... who are either hundreds or thousands of miles away ... that and I don't know how to talk to guys in person ... in terms of breaking the ice.



    haha, just take off your shirt and say..."hey would u wanna go to the movies with me..." and they'd be like.....icon_redface.gif uuuhhh ya.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:31 PM GMT
    Im single but taken in a way. Its confusing. My Ex and I are working on things but I am seeing other people.
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    Oct 28, 2009 12:37 PM GMT
    There's lots of normal reasons why a guy is single. And there are tons of not hot guys out there who are single. But I don't understand the connection between "loving yourself" and being single.

    What a sad, mixed up looser way of thinking.

    Since when is loving yourself a negative for developing meaningful relationships? I always thought loving yourself helps gives you confidence and happiness which means you are more able to share that with someone else.

    Its the people who don't love themselves that prolly don't have the capacity to love someone else. Nothing like a desparate guy who doesn't like himself searching for that special someone to fill the void.

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    Oct 28, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    Fear of rejection
    Cowards
    Bi-polar
    Looking for their twin, even if they claim this not to be the case
    Looking for the perfect man
    Don't know what they are looking for
    Have hooked up so much, they do not know how to exist outside of this type of dynamic
    Closeted and scared of anyone finding out

    Just some of the reasons I can think of off the top of my head