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We were hanging out again and he bought me a drink.
DanielH Posts: 778	Oct 28, 2009 4:25 AM GMT And he'll never know what it meant to me.

MsclDrew Posts: 2545	Oct 28, 2009 11:04 AM GMT Damn lil dude you're easy to please, here's hoping you don't go jumping into bed with every guy that buys you a drink
Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 12:43 PM GMT Ha... I know that feeling. I think one of the best dates I've had in recent times was just going by a local gay bar. Cute looking guy walks up and starts talking to me and offers to by me a drink. Kindof went a little like this. We are good friends now.
MercuryMax Posts: 602	Oct 28, 2009 1:10 PM GMT MsclDrew saidDamn lil dude you're easy to please, here's hoping you don't go jumping into bed with every guy that buys you a drink When was the last time you bought a drink for somone like that on a date? Guys have lowered their rate of effort put into meeting someone and yet have increased their expectation of getting anywhere with someone.... So I understand why it was almost meaningful that this guy appreciated the other guy buying the drink...there are so many effortless, broke, jobless, good for nothing, pig headed guys out there that wouldn't even think to make the gesture of doing such. And just because he appreciated the gesture doesn't mean that he's going to jump into bed or anything crazy like that. It just means he appreciated the gesture. You probably are not in tune with these type of social habits as you probably just go for pretty boys that like to play games all the time and be superficial so you may not understand where he's coming from. However there are people out there like him and myself and others that look for genuine characteristics on top of just physical attraction that can create a genuine connection between two like-minded persons. Its called being civilized and well-mannered. Which was something your response was not. Try it sometimes.
DolGe Posts: 77	Oct 28, 2009 1:23 PM GMT MercuryMax said MsclDrew saidDamn lil dude you're easy to please, here's hoping you don't go jumping into bed with every guy that buys you a drink When was the last time you bought a drink for somone like that on a date? Guys have lowered their rate of effort put into meeting someone and yet have increased their expectation of getting anywhere with someone.... So I understand why it was almost meaningful that this guy appreciated the other guy buying the drink...there are so many effortless, broke, jobless, good for nothing, pig headed guys out there that wouldn't even think to make the gesture of doing such. And just because he appreciated the gesture doesn't mean that he's going to jump into bed or anything crazy like that. It just means he appreciated the gesture. You probably are not in tune with these type of social habits as you probably just go for pretty boys that like to play games all the time and be superficial so you may not understand where he's coming from. However there are people out there like him and myself and others that look for genuine characteristics on top of just physical attraction that can create a genuine connection between two like-minded persons. Its called being civilized and well-mannered. Which was something your response was not. Try it sometimes. Mercury: You are so right - so many people don't follow any kind of social graces anymore. For me, it's almost habitual that I pull out my wallet to pick up the tab for drinks. Just the other day, I went on the first date with a guy, and paid for the wine we had. He was almost floored, and so thankful, he didn't stop thanking me... I told him to think nothing of it. Date #2 - We had a nice seafood dinner with a great bottle of wine, and this time, he grabbed the cheque and wouldn't take my visa card. This was very nice - but made me extremely uncomfortable... the bill was large enough that I felt the need to go dutch. Oh well - today is Date #3 .. we'll see how that goes Sometimes a little chivalry goes a LONG way
rnch Posts: 1529	Oct 28, 2009 1:27 PM GMT DanielH saidAnd he'll never know what it meant to me. so, for chrisssake...tell him what you have told us! he's prolly NOT a mind reader.
jpopenb Posts: 367	Oct 28, 2009 1:44 PM GMT I think it s a nice gesture and you should be flattered. We are sometimes too mean and vindictive with each other. Its nice to hear of someone extending a nice gesture.
Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 1:52 PM GMT yeah.. reminds me of my bf and I in ways.. though usually because he was either in school or not working I picked up the tab but in the beginning it was either dutch or he would get it.
Halfstep Posts: 534	Oct 28, 2009 2:28 PM GMT I have to agree. Those muscle studs out there probably wouldn't get it, but we smaller guys, especially we smaller bottoms and bottom/verses, its very easy to get looked over romantically. Our youthful looks radiate this misconceived innocence, and many people just find themselves desperately wanting to sleep with us and not actually get to know us or pursue anything with us. Many of us tend to be very intellectual, so many people are often times intimidated by that also and it can truly make you feel like you're from another world. Those of us that tend to look for true connections on some level often times don't have a place in these clubs/bars. Hell, sometimes we don't even have a place in everyday life because people are so use to summing their worth up by looks and confidence. Suddenly that alone becomes the grand gesture. That you should be grateful that they are taking the time to talk to you at all. Its just stupid and is really the reason why I don't miss being single. I use to think so, but not anymore. I couldn't go back to that world of people saying things that they don't mean and lying to get laid and just dealing with people completely incapable of handling any form of human intamacy other than getting their dicks sucked. My boyfriend was the first guy to ask me out in public. That was unheard of to me. Gay male courtship is just so undefined and vague that it causes such dilemas I guess.
MercuryMax Posts: 602	Oct 28, 2009 2:35 PM GMT Halfstep said My boyfriend was the first guy to ask me out in public. That was unheard of to me.. That's adorable.....
Celticmusl Posts: 2364	Oct 28, 2009 2:37 PM GMT Halfstep saidI have to agree. Those muscle studs out there probably wouldn't get it, but we smaller guys, especially we smaller bottoms and bottom/verses, its very easy to get looked over romantically. Our youthful looks radiate this misconceived innocence, and many people just find themselves desperately wanting to sleep with us and not actually get to know us or pursue anything with us. Many of us tend to be very intellectual, so many people are often times intimidated by that also and it can truly make you feel like you're from another world. Wow, I could say the same thing about being a Top that's built a little bit bigger. It just seems like all the bottoms just want a hookup, and could care less about wanting to date or get to know someone. I like bigger builds, but then again I usually think smaller guys with smaller builds are quite adorable(I wouldn't use that word to describe them though, they might get mad). We both might be wrong in our assumptions.
MsclDrew Posts: 2545	Oct 28, 2009 2:37 PM GMT MercuryMax said MsclDrew saidDamn lil dude you're easy to please, here's hoping you don't go jumping into bed with every guy that buys you a drink When was the last time you bought a drink for somone like that on a date? Guys have lowered their rate of effort put into meeting someone and yet have increased their expectation of getting anywhere with someone.... So I understand why it was almost meaningful that this guy appreciated the other guy buying the drink...there are so many effortless, broke, jobless, good for nothing, pig headed guys out there that wouldn't even think to make the gesture of doing such. And just because he appreciated the gesture doesn't mean that he's going to jump into bed or anything crazy like that. It just means he appreciated the gesture. You probably are not in tune with these type of social habits as you probably just go for pretty boys that like to play games all the time and be superficial so you may not understand where he's coming from. However there are people out there like him and myself and others that look for genuine characteristics on top of just physical attraction that can create a genuine connection between two like-minded persons. Its called being civilized and well-mannered. Which was something your response was not. Try it sometimes. God damn bitter queens need to learn to take a joke...but then guys probably walk into the bar and see you up on a soap box just radiating contempt for all around you and walk straight back out of their again And I Spontaniously picked up the drinks for a RJer last week tried to be non challant ended up bring back the wrong drin
Celticmusl Posts: 2364	Oct 28, 2009 2:47 PM GMT Eek.....around in this area it is very common to buy drinks for each other. Since I am currently not working full time I admit I am given more drinks than I can supply, but when a friend txts me from across the bar and says "next round is on you" I know I'm well due for buying the drinks. There have been weekends when I spend no money on drinks at all but I drink all night....a lot of guys seem to hate it when I'm just standing around without a drink in my hand....maybe they're afraid I will get too frisky with my hands free!
collegekid200... Posts: 565	Oct 28, 2009 2:48 PM GMT Celticmusl saidEek.....around in this area it is very common to buy drinks for each other. Since I am currently not working full time I admit I am given more drinks than I can supply, but when a friend txts me from across the bar and says "next round is on you" I know I'm well due for buying the drinks. There have been weekends when I spend no money on drinks at all but I drink all night....a lot of guys seem to hate it when I'm just standing around without a drink in my hand....maybe they're afraid I will get too frisky with my hands free! I need to go to whatever bar you're at and make sure you don't have a drink in your hand hehehe
Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 6:14 PM GMT So much drama; so little time.
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Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 6:27 PM GMT Careful he doesn't slip a roofie in your drink. Watch out a nice gesture can have ulterior motives too. not always but somtimes.
Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 6:36 PM GMT We were hanging out again and he bought me a drink. A root beer, I trust. Aren't you 20?

Hidden member	Oct 28, 2009 6:52 PM GMT I feel like a jack ass. I read that like it was a poem and I was like OMG THATS SWEET! And then, I realized oh shit.. I know this... ITS THAT SONG FROM ADVENTURES IN BABYSITTING! yeah... blonde moment... sorry Im watching Obama sign the Hate Crime bill that he just spent 1 minuet talking about... grrr.