I hate the lack of "happy" gays, or better, gays that are not at peace. I sense a lot of guys really internalize feeling like a social or religious misfit and they spend their lives carrying this sadness and trying to 'heal' the wound - sometimes at the expense of those around them, i.e., their partners. All the while, they try to overcompensate on the outside or with their actions to ACT "ok" when they're not....and everyone else pays for it in the end when their true feelings surface and expose themselves.
If I summed up what I hate most about the "scene", it would be the mind games. The lying. The deception. We are dealing with MASTER deceptionists. People who (in order to survive in life) had to hide from the world both who and what they were, play the social roles expected, and in the process, became skilled at the art of dishonesty and deception.
Dishonest with others, dishonest with themselves. The PROBLEM is that many people don't know when to stop playing games. Instead, some guys incorporate those ways of living into their lives today, and continue using them as a means to live when they don't have to, or shouldn't have to, with each other.
We all had to do what we had to do in order to survive and live. BUT, now that we are in the company of 'others' like ourselves, some guys seem to be in a rut with the old ways of living. I found that to be true in my last relationship. Deception was so convenient with my ex, he couldn't tell the truth to save his life. Deception and trickery got him "short term" happiness, but killed the relationship in the end.
So I would say, as for the "scene", I don't like the lies and inability for some guys to be honest - and to be at peace.