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  • fitone

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    Oct 29, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    Gay guys are generous with our compliments, and I'm always glad to get one. However, I think it diminishes the compliment when a guy says "You look great for your age". I've often replied "Thanks, but lose the qualifier". You may be surprised to learn how often this gets the reaction of a vacant stare.

    The other odd one is "You're really cute". This often comes from guys that could be my son. I think sometimes guys are  embarrassed to say something more substantial.

    Don't get me wrong, I love to get compliments, but when I give them I try to make sure they're taken in a positive light.
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    Oct 30, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    I know it sounds odd, but I don't like (or need) to be complimented, I feel awkward, as if the person were trying a shortcut to my sympathy. Apparently I'm not alone when it comes to finding these compliments cheap.

    I have the most serious antipathy to people who really need compliments, we can't be in the same room. They are usually too vain and feel offended with anything I say and demonstrate it in an attempt to censor me.
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    Oct 30, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    And you think this is such a major issue to start a new forum topic on???

    Well i'm sorry to say - but you are 54...and have only pictures of your body... at 54 .. I would not be on a "jock" website...looking for compliments... but thats just me... no offence.

    I've also noticed huge differences in the gay culture that exists in USA from Europe... in Europe people are more direct... confident and honest about what they want... in the US they give "flirty" half hearted unsure compliments...to get a reaction.

    For the OP - if you get a compliment take it and move on... its rather immature of you to firstly post pics of your body (which means you are indeed looking for compliments) and then being bitter about your age??? Why???

    What I really hate is people on this site "hot listing" me and "buddy listing" me but never sending a personal message or saying a "hello" even wanting to get to know me... that's really stupid.
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    Oct 30, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    I give a lot of compliments. I hope my compliment helps make someone's day a little better...
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    Oct 30, 2009 12:59 AM GMT
    ANDCB saidI give a lot of compliments. I hope my compliment helps make someone's day a little better...


    ditto and they are always sincere too. icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Oct 30, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    Compliments with qualifiers can be backhanded, but if it seems genuine I try to take it as intended.
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:05 AM GMT
    There's a compliment and then there's a compliment. There's 'dude ur hawt', which I can do without. And then there is someone looking into your eyes and telling you you are a unique person they are grateful to have met. That will melt me icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
    Miguel, I am grateful to have met you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    Ciarsolo7 saidThere's a compliment and then there's a compliment. There's 'dude ur hawt', which I can do without. And then there is someone looking into your eyes and telling you you are a unique person they are grateful to have met. That will melt me icon_cry.gif

    Dude, ur a unike prsn & im gr8ful dat we met. & ur hawt!!!


    marry me j
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 saidmarry me j


    Awww... what about me? icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 saidThere's a compliment and then there's a compliment. There's 'dude ur hawt', which I can do without. And then there is someone looking into your eyes and telling you you are a unique person they are grateful to have met. That will melt me icon_cry.gif


    OMG DUDE, your like, fine and shit, like a lump of stone, perfectly chipped away until they got your sandy arse...

    Totally agree bad compliments are just bad..

    I think playfulness is much more a nice way of letting someone know you think there hawt
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Papa JP --

    Please don't marry ciarsolo. I think he's about the purdiest thing that I ever done seen, and sometimes I have bad thoughts about him. If you married him, wouldn't that be almost like incest? I don't wanna move to Arkansas, paw!

    lil ZD
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    This thread is pretty good given the topic.
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Ganymede0 said
    Ciarsolo7 saidmarry me j


    Awww... what about me? icon_cry.gif


    :O I totally did not see your post Rob. Let's all get hitched!
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 said
    Ganymede0 said
    Ciarsolo7 saidmarry me j


    Awww... what about me? icon_cry.gif


    :O I totally did not see your post Rob. Let's all get hitched!


    icon_razz.gif I'll have the chapel booked by morning.
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    zdrew saidPapa JP --

    Please don't marry ciarsolo. I think he's about the purdiest thing that I ever done seen, and sometimes I have bad thoughts about him. If you married him, wouldn't that be almost like incest? I don't wanna move to Arkansas, paw!

    lil ZD


    see these bad thoughts need to be put into writing and sent on over to me icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:18 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 said
    zdrew saidPapa JP --

    Please don't marry ciarsolo. I think he's about the purdiest thing that I ever done seen, and sometimes I have bad thoughts about him. If you married him, wouldn't that be almost like incest? I don't wanna move to Arkansas, paw!

    lil ZD


    see these bad thoughts need to be put into writing and sent on over to me icon_wink.gif


    Oh, sugababe, are you the pope? 'Cuz only the high pontiff is holy enough to hear these confessions. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:22 AM GMT
    zdrew said
    Ciarsolo7 said
    zdrew saidPapa JP --

    Please don't marry ciarsolo. I think he's about the purdiest thing that I ever done seen, and sometimes I have bad thoughts about him. If you married him, wouldn't that be almost like incest? I don't wanna move to Arkansas, paw!

    lil ZD


    see these bad thoughts need to be put into writing and sent on over to me icon_wink.gif


    Oh, sugababe, are you the pope? 'Cuz only the high pontiff is holy enough to hear these confessions. icon_razz.gif


    I could potentially make a 'kneel down and dig deep' joke, I shall not!
  • Timbales

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    Oct 30, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    When I looked into your eyes, I get lost in the depths of you.
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidWhen I looked into your eyes, I get lost in the depths of you.


    Actually, it looks like one of your eyes is just about to get lost, Tim. Might wanna superglue that sucker in.

    Edit: Dammit JP! You tied me to the punch!
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:26 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    Timberoo saidWhen I looked into your eyes, I get lost in the depths of you.

    Yeah? When I looked into YOUR eyes, all I saw were empty sockets filled with dried blood. Also, maybe you need to see a dentist? Just sayin'.


    ROFLMAO!

    What is in the water tonight here in RJ land?
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    Ganymede0 said
    jprichva said
    Timberoo saidWhen I looked into your eyes, I get lost in the depths of you.

    Yeah? When I looked into YOUR eyes, all I saw were empty sockets filled with dried blood. Also, maybe you need to see a dentist? Just sayin'.


    ROFLMAO!

    What is in the water tonight here in RJ land?


    Oh, ye of few posts...the water's always like this here. Drink up!
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    zdrew said
    Timberoo saidWhen I looked into your eyes, I get lost in the depths of you.


    Actually, it looks like one of your eyes is just about to get lost, Tim. Might wanna superglue that sucker in.

    Edit: Dammit JP! You tied me to the punch!

    bugger superglue, use ducttape, that shit can fix anything from saggy tits to sticking a man to the wall!
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
    thread derailment: epic win!
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    Oct 30, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
    Hey, 310... I'm playing catch up. Gimme sometime. icon_wink.gif