Good things about being single

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    Oct 30, 2009 11:08 AM GMT
    Ok - I'd rather be in a relationship - but I'm single. Sometimes I get up at night and can't go back to sleep, so I read (no one complains about the light) or watch TV, or do laundry. I don't have any in-laws to get along with, nobody to argue about chores or dishes - and when I'm "in the mood" --- so is my hand. I don't know if I snore and I generally do what I want when I want to............so some of being single is good right?

    What else is good about being single? It's one of those weeks where I need to be reminded - thanks - J
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    Oct 30, 2009 11:16 AM GMT
    no answers to anyone on anything i do.

    I can sleep when I like, as I like and have the whole bed to my self

    I can finally eat how I want morning noon and night and don't have to worry about anyone (besides my self) getting bored with it.

    I can chase hot guys icon_biggrin.gif
  • a2507

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    Oct 30, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    what tank said!

    and if I catch a hot guy (or two) and want to fuck them all, I can.
    I think I might be ok dating some but I like the freedom.
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    Oct 30, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
    I get more ass than a toilet seat

    I enjoy coming and going as I please

    I have the whole bed to myself

    I dont think I snore but I dont care either

    I can perv the net without anyone accusing me of perving the net

    I am not being accused of cheating since I tell everyone the truth

    I don't have to cuddle with anyone since I hate to cuddle
  • Celticmusl

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    Oct 30, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    Like the OP I would rather be in a relationship, but single is ok too. You can go out when you like, and I guess I like the thrill of the chase....the whole adventure of finding someone that might be a good fit. Being single now I can have closer relationships with my siblings that I didn't really have before. They had young children before, and I was in a relationship with a guy that didn't want to know my family.

    In terms of lifestyle, when I do meet a guy, I don't want much to change. I would want him to be a part of it and not detract from it.
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    Oct 30, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    I'd give up all the good things that come with being single in a heartbeat to be with a special guy in a healthy relationship.

    However, you don't have to worry about regret when you're single. Sometimes people come out of long relationships and feel that they've wasted so much of their life wrapped up in a relationship that eventually failed.
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    Oct 30, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    The list is endless. For me it all boils down to not having to compromise my life for anyone. I do what I want, when I want, how I want. Total independence, answer to no one. Real relationships require hard work and present constant challenges. Being an "I" instead of a "we." I am not going to lie, I don't understand the idea of wanting to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship or preferring to being in a relationship over being single. Some people actively go out looking to get into a relationship. For me, it's the opposite: I want to be single and only consider something different when I meet a guy where the connection is so strong that I'm willing to compromise for it.
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:12 PM GMT
    * Having the pleasure of finding strengths I never knew I had because I have to do it alone.
    * Learning from each day and knowing the lessons and life unfolding is because of, for and about *Me*
    * Finding the power and fabulous strength in being my own individual
    * Feeling and knowing that companionship is a compliment to a life that is meaningful on it's own... *very* meaningful and fulfilling on its own.
    * Loving people enough to not expect them to stick around forever, but love and value the contributions they make to my life as if they were going to
    * Being happy *by* myself has taught me how to be truly happy with others, whether they are lovers, ex-husbands, friends or family.
    * The most meaningful life experience is taking that feeling of "One" that people inherently fear, facing it and conquering it
    * Single, I am strong, capable and fearless. That is what I bring to my relationships... all of them
    * I can stand alone in a room, I can go to dinner by myself, I can travel to strange places alone, I can be with myself *anywhere* and am happy... maybe it's because the voices keep me company. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    I love doing what i want , when i want to, cause i wanted to..

    me me me
    maybe thats what my problem is.....
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:34 PM GMT
    SlackerJock saidI love doing what i want , when i want to, cause i wanted to..

    me me me
    maybe thats what my problem is.....


    That is not a problem... it's a gift that you believe in yourself so much.
    As long as it doesn't come at the expense of another.

    I find a guy with a strong sense of self HOTTER than a searing hot fire! I hate being responsible for someone elses happiness or fulfillment. I don't expect anyone to be responsible for mine... no one knows what I need more than me.
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:34 PM GMT
    being able to do what you want, when you want, without having to consult anyone ;)
  • cowboyathlete

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    Oct 30, 2009 7:36 PM GMT
    Asulikeit saidbeing able to do what you want, when you want, without having to consult anyone ;)
    Yep.
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
    I tend to think that all the great things about being single have direct corollary to the best things about being in a relationship. I don't think that they are diametric.

    If you think that either one of the two states is better than the other, there's a good chance that you've got issues to deal with. If you're single and miserable, then being in a relationship will not likely help. You'll just be making someone else miserable too.

    If you are happy on a personal/internal level and not based on outward appearance, then whether your single or in a relationship doesn't matter.

    When you are single, you can do what you want, when you want to satisfy yourself.
    When you're in a relationship, you can share that joy in what you do with someone special.

    If you look a being single as the constraint of being alone, you're likely to look at being in a relationship as the constraint of someone who's always there.

    If you look at being in a relationship as having to compromise, do you think that there is no other compromises in your life if your single. The compromises of being in a relationship may in fact open doors for you that would have been unknown to you as a single man.

    As a single man, you can sleep with a different guy every time you go out. That variety is amazing, but you'll not have the option of someone who loves you and and just holds you when you need it. The man in a relationship (depending on whether that relationship is monogamous or open) may lack that variety but he has the comfort. The guy who is single isn't likely to go out on a date so he can spend the night with someone to just cuddle and hold him because he had a bad week.

    While I love the idea of being able to eat donuts for dinner, I'm smart enough not to. Having someone in my life to give me an occasional 'kick in the ass' when I'm not at my best is a good thing even though I may not feel that way at the moment. Being single in that sense requires more discipline.

    The last years of my LTR were miserable in the relationship. When I was newly single, much of that was miserable too. In the last two years, I became very happy in my life. 3/4 of that time was as a single man, and the last ~6 months, in a relationship. I was happy 7 months ago, and I'm happy now.
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    Oct 30, 2009 7:58 PM GMT
    Yes, somethings about being single are good.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 30, 2009 9:18 PM GMT
    Nobody nagging me to go somewhere.
    My Ex was a sweet heart, but every morning, the first words out of his mouth were, "What are we going to do, today ?"
    I guess he thought that I was the entertainment director.
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidNobody nagging me to go somewhere.
    My Ex was a sweet heart, but every morning, the first words out of his mouth were, "What are we going to do, today ?"
    I guess he thought that I was the entertainment director.


    OMG I HATE that!!
    I refer to that DMS ---> "Dancing Monkey Syndrome"

    I'm very outgoing, have a lot of energy and I frequently find myself being the equivalent of a dancing monkey for someone who doesn't want to make decisions or who can't engage in life without being lead to it.
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    jawrhed said

    What else is good about being single? It's one of those weeks where I need to be reminded - thanks - J
    Well, one of the things, right off the top, is that you can bring anyone home that you want for sleepovers and no "splaining" to do... icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    theantijock saidTwice widowed, neither of my two 10-year ltrs were monogomous relationships and in both we completely respected each other's space. So I don't find much benefit in being single unless you consider being a little less happy a benefit.


    Your unhappiness in being single is unfortunate, and I am sincerely sorry for that and the loses of the people you loved.
    But I can unequivocally report that being unhappy is not every person's experience in not being coupled.
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:46 PM GMT
    I once thought being single was great sometimes, boring others. I later learned that being part of a couple could have the same results. I learned that being single and having a quiet (boring) weekend once in awhile was far, far better than being stuck in a relationship with someone who is wrong for me.

    If we're happy and in a good place as a single - we stand a far better chance of being happy in a good relationship - - - as some have said above. I am happy either way.......however having someone very special in my life who actually cares about me - loves me - is the ultimate. It doesn't get any better.

    We make our own happiness in life. Others notice it - and will be drawn to us.
  • swimbikerun

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    Oct 30, 2009 9:56 PM GMT
    Doing what I want on the fly, no need for checking in.
    Leaving the place messy or getting into a cleaning fit, however I please.
    Hitting the bong and hanging out naked with no judgments, lol
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:58 PM GMT

    Well jawrhed, one of the biggest best things about being single is that you're available. This would not be the case if you were in a relationship, and we refer to one where every day is a pain.

    Count yer blessings! One day someone will count them with you, and that's a possibility that makes being single rather worthwhile, wouldn't you say?

    Both of us had times when we wished we weren't single. Now we look back at those times and shake our heads - if either of us had been taken, then 'we' wouldn't have happened! icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2009 9:58 PM GMT
    jawrhed saidOk - I'd rather be in a relationship - but I'm single. Sometimes I get up at night and can't go back to sleep, so I read (no one complains about the light) or watch TV, or do laundry. I don't have any in-laws to get along with, nobody to argue about chores or dishes - and when I'm "in the mood" --- so is my hand. I don't know if I snore and I generally do what I want when I want to............so some of being single is good right?

    What else is good about being single? It's one of those weeks where I need to be reminded - thanks - J
    Well these all fit in with how great it is to not have a room mate too! My ex used to do all those things in the other rooms when he couldnt sleep. Id never hear him, But youre right!
  • JP85257

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    Oct 30, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
    I dont have to answer to anyone (not that I would).

    Im not in jail for kickin his ass.

    I dont have to make a mother in law happy (not that I would)

    If I see someone I wanna sleep with I can.

    After a good work out I feel like a new man....And he is RIGHT there in the shower.

    I dont have anyone to fight with.

    I hate sharing beds with people.

    ..................But I want to tho.......
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    Oct 30, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    I have the whole bed (and pillows, quilt and comforter) to myself! Try to take any of those away, and I will kill someone for it!!!
  • dannyboy1101

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    Oct 30, 2009 10:58 PM GMT
    Single and relationship states are both filled with positives and negatives. Let's just take a moment to reflect on how lucky we ALL are that we don't have to be with women who create all of the negatives listed above to the sixteenth power.