HOT LISTS

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    Dec 18, 2007 5:45 PM GMT
    I think of my hot-list of like 20 guys, there is only one mutual match. So my Hot List compatibility is a paltry 5%.

    I wonder do we aspire to a physicality one rung up the superficiality ladder.

    Any thoughts?
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Dec 18, 2007 5:56 PM GMT
    Apparently it is common for all of us to admire those we consider "Ideal" or "hot" and that they find US in that category or not has NO relation to how much we like them. In other words..... "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" After looking at your profile and those you like, I would think many of them would in fact find you desirable other than being geographically challenged.

    What has been other people's experiences?
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    Dec 18, 2007 9:36 PM GMT
    I'm just grateful to be hot listed.
  • EricLA

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    Dec 18, 2007 9:39 PM GMT
    5%? That seems pretty good. I have over 300 on my Hot List. About 9 have hotlisted me, so about 3%.

    Let's face it, we live in a society that puts youth and attractiveness on a pedestal. And being beautiful isn't enough, where both men and women models are expected to have less-than-realistic bodies that most of us will never attain, even if we had the time. I remember there was one of the men health mags over the summer that photoshopped Andy Roddick's head on the body of a much buffer man. The cover even made him do a double-take.

    So, to a great degree I think we're programmed to be attracted to the most beautiful and buffed men.

    Why should gay men be any less superficial than straight men?

    I'm just glad that I don't have to deal with all those horendous breast implants. Repulsive!
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    Dec 18, 2007 9:42 PM GMT
    Fuck that noise.

    Considering it is indeed flattering when the physical attraction is mutual, I'm not out to get the approval or hot listing of everyone. I've been in that sort of situation before, trying to get everyone to like me, and I spent so much time not being myself that I found the people didn't like me for my true self, and that made me rethink it all and decide I'll be me, and if someone likes me, cool. If not, oh well; can't please everyone.
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    Dec 18, 2007 9:56 PM GMT
    Here's that Andy Roddick link...

    They even photoshopped him!

    www.tmz.com/2007/05/18/did-mens-fitness-pump-up-andy-roddick/
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    Dec 19, 2007 1:42 AM GMT
    It's interesting. There are some men on my hotlist that are included purely for their physical attractiveness in the aestethic sense, whilst some of the guys I find really attractive are very much eye of the beholder.

    xxp
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    Dec 19, 2007 2:24 AM GMT
    Well, Thomeiza - of my hotlist of 754 guys, there are 211 (just under 28%) who have returned the compliment. It took me a bit to find out how you guys were calculating that - the advanced search.

    Actually, I think it's probably more the fact that I find lots of people attractive for lots of different reasons than anything else.

    Sometimes a great smile, a muscular body, an impressive resume, or just an overwhelming sense that someone is a really nice guy provokes me to click the hot button.

    When I read an amazing post in the forums - or stumble on a profile of a guy who is admirable for one reason or another - well... that makes a guy "hot" to me, too.

    As for why they click me back... I haven't a clue, and I don't dwell on it. I'm just appreciative of it....

    Thomeiza, if the guys you click don't return the favor, please don't be concerned about it. Besides, 20 guys is a very small sample in a site with thousands of members.

    J.
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    Dec 19, 2007 2:34 AM GMT
    I hot list guys on this website to give them a compliment, not expecting to be hotlisted in return. It is not just their looks though, it is also their personality. Guys that don't say anything about themselves I won't hotlist.