I oddly feel like more of a gay individual because

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    Oct 31, 2009 6:09 PM GMT
    I was out with my date around college campus. I was on his right and had my hand hanging off his left shoulder. We're on our way to the truck because I'm about to go back to my dorm room. So we're talking and having a great time, everything is going good- then it happens.


    "FAGGOTS"

    From some guy in this white car. Well, we happened to be in the parking lot. We just stand there for a moment laughing and I notice that he parked in the parking lot.

    So we both walk up to him and say, "What'cha say man?" The once delightful young man that just got his thrills for calling someone faggots quickly told us that he said something else.

    I don't know why that made me feel so proud of myself. Perhaps it's because I stood my ground and stood up for myself.

    Anything like that happen to you guys? I was so surprised at myself. o.o
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    Oct 31, 2009 6:48 PM GMT
    I greatly admire your guts, and reluctance to being shamed over your orientation.

    At the same time, these confrontations are unpredictable, and you never know what you're facing. You may be in the right, morally & legally, but if some fundamentalist wing-nut pulls out his gun, you're dead, while he earns a place in Heaven, at least in his own mind.

    I generally avoid these characters, considering them no more than annoyances, much like encounters with public drunks or barking dogs. I would no more try to win an argument or a point with them than I would with a psycho in a mental institution. I can silently walk away from them with no sense of personal failure whatsoever.
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    Oct 31, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
    That's great - You handled yourself well. My bloodpressure goes through the roof.
    Someone in the locker room made a joke about Ellen Degeneres. I got all defensive - in retrospect it was pretty funny.
    Anyway you kept your cool - good going.
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    Oct 31, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    Good for you icon_smile.gif

    I once had a bunch of guys in an SUV call me and my friends "fags" as they crossed the street in their car...

    I was drunk and I yelled back, "Hey F*CK YOU ASSHOLES"

    lol. The looks on their faces were priceless. I guess they didnt expect me to say anything!
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    Oct 31, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
    you know people always say stuff like that in the car where they cant be confronted cos they dont have the balls to say it elsewhere, and if you do confront them they just turn to using pathetic excuses...you have bigger balls to walk around campus showing your feelings to your guy
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    Oct 31, 2009 10:50 PM GMT
    so, what was it he pretended to have said ? lol

    i've never had any experiences like that.
    i have no idea what my reaction might be if it happens ever.
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    Nov 01, 2009 2:14 AM GMT

    Wow, Soulasphyxia, That's exemplary! It worked, we think , because the two of you sound like you exhibited a complacent calm state of normalcy that probably undid him.

    Had you been inflammatory, nasty and confrontational, the outcome might have been different. (you two have class, lol. Love it!)


    admiringly, us
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    Nov 01, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    The only time i've ever faced any "Homophobia" was in the US.. that too in the middle of New York city... and in a supposedly very gay-friendly part of NYC... the west village.. it happened 2-3 times around there so now I am very careful in the US..... in Paris i've kissed guys on the champs elysee and under the eiffel tower with a million people around us... no one cares...

    I think even big cities in the US are still getting used to Gay people.. its a very conservative society in many ways.. most european countries have had gay marriages and equal gay rights for several years already.
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    Nov 01, 2009 6:20 AM GMT
    In high school I put up with two months of name calling and enuendo's about my being queer, by someone who had been a friend and when I had my fill of it, I let all that angst come out on him one evening in front of about 100 fellow students. He lost two teeth, suffered cut lips, broken glasses and lived through a very undignified flogging at my hands, while I stood on the second step higher than he was, so I could reach him since he was so much taller than I was. He only said 5 words to me throughout the rest of high school, then died of aids about 15 years later. He was bringing attention to me to take it off himself.
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    Nov 01, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    Not much, just K-12 icon_lol.gif Actually kids were nice to me in Kindergarten, but 1st grade through senior year was pretty much one continuous emotional, physical and psychological hate crime from my peers towards me. Oh well!
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    Nov 01, 2009 7:00 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 saidNot much, just K-12 icon_lol.gif Actually kids were nice to me in Kindergarten, but 1st grade through senior year was pretty much one continuous emotional, physical and psychological hate crime from my peers towards me. Oh well!

    Wow you just reminded me how I handled it in school - I was part of an Extortion ring! I gave these big dumb guys the answers on tests in exchange for thier protection against my tormentors. So I was a criminal child test cheater - but I got racked in the balls less often.