Military Gym

  • AngloAm

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    Dec 19, 2007 1:49 AM GMT
    Okay I really need some support.

    My personal trainer wants me to go to a gym to work out and the best one for my schedule and work hours is the one available near my office. And it's free. Thing is, I'm really shy about my weight and my office is on an Army base, so there'll be very fit people working out. And me. And I'm nervous.

    Any ideas how to get over it?

    I really appreciate this. I'd gotten so much confidence walking around the neighbourhood but now it's a matter of the cold trying to drive me indoors. I feel so inferior to these guys, who are all twenty years younger than me and 'Army Strong.'
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    Dec 19, 2007 7:44 AM GMT
    it doesn't matter which gym you're going to, there is always that inital level of intimidation.

    Just muster up the courage to go, and you'll see that not all of them are quite so fit, and eventually you'll get used to it.

    There's no need to be embarassed about going to a gym, especially when it's to get in shape!
  • BlackJock79

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    Dec 19, 2007 4:43 PM GMT
    Well I know exactly where you are coming from. I've always been skinny and going in the gym when I was in the military and seeing all those HUGE muscle guys #1 was a turn on and #2 intimidated me because I felt like they were always watching me and looking at me do things incorrectly. I got over it though, and now that I'm out of the military I can go now and I can use the free weights and not feel like all eyes are on me. I just told myself to focus on my workout and not the guys around me. Which can be kinda hard because some of them are so FINE. LOL icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 19, 2007 4:49 PM GMT
    I always feel very self-conscious at the gym if it's a new place or if I haven't been going very often. The worst part is stumbling around looking like I am trying to figure out what to lift or pull next. If I go consistently about four or five times, it at least begins to seem not quite so weird that I am there. I still feel somewhat self-conscious, esp. because if I am using free weights I can only lift a fraction of what other men can. But I begin to feel like I belong there, just like everyone else.

    I also set myself very low goals when I start at the new place. I tell myself, "You have to be in here only twenty-five minutes, and you have to do these five exercises." Once I feel more comfortable, I start staying longer. When I first go, I am really just checking out the place and seeing where the different equipment I want is. I go, check it out, exercise a bit, and leave. Once I've done that several times, I can concentrate on what I am doing, I don't care as much how strong I am compared to other people, and I stay longer.

    There's no comparison between using the equipment at a gym and exercising at home; I feel like I get a better workout if I go to a gym with a range of free weights to use.
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    Dec 19, 2007 4:55 PM GMT
    Hey,
    No matter who or what you are, or what condition you may be in, you are usually not alone. Go and check it out before you decide that you don't fit in. I've got some really nice friends who are military and built like brick houses and score very low on the ATTITUDE register. There's always a few A-holes in every group but you are not going there for them, you are going there for you. A lot of more advanced guys will be happy to lend their advice if you ask ( not during the middle of a set, of course). What you have to do is face down your fears and be a MAN! ;-)
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    Dec 19, 2007 5:09 PM GMT
    Hey man , the best thing you can do and be is just be yourself. Learning and Re Training yourself is the best thing that can be done for now. Keep up a positive attitude with yourself and you will gain more from the inside to out. Let me know how it works for you. Thanks , Coach Damon Harper, at DrSporty.com Personal Trainer and Life Coach.
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    Dec 19, 2007 5:59 PM GMT
    I would be careful about psyching yourself out before you even step foot in the place. I think you may be really surprised once you get in there and actually start working out.

    Bringing an iPod or some other mp3 player may help you focus a little bit more. Just focus on yourself, your exercises, and some good tunes to help you along. It may be a little awkward at first, but what in life isn't a little weird at first. Just get yourself into the habit and you'll be fine. Just don't psych yourself out of going even before you step foot in there.

    My best friend always tell me, "Get comfortable with being uncomfortable." A lot of things in life are going to be daunting and a little uncomfortable at first, but you just have to push through and do it. Working out is one of these, so you might want to get used to it. ;)

    Good luck man.
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    Dec 19, 2007 6:20 PM GMT
    Go.

    Just do it. Get Healthy.

    Realize that no matter how hard you try, no matter how much work you put in, you will never - ever - look like one of those 20 something jocks.

    And thats ok. Fitnes is acheivable for those of us 40 something +'s, and we can look great. We just can't look like teenageers and twentysomethings.

    Learn to be comfortable with yourself and strive for excellence.

    On the other hand I know a lot of people - my partner for one - who could run any fit group of army recruits into the ground (and he has for years).

  • AngloAm

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    Dec 20, 2007 1:17 AM GMT
    I really appreciate all this - it wasn't half as bad as I feared. Even when I set the treadmill on far too fast for me and just like in the movies flew off the back end onto my very own back end. Nobody laughed out loud except me!

    Everyone was very nice. And really, really thank you for your kindness. I'm very grateful to all of you and my partner and so glad I took you all up on it. icon_biggrin.gif

    Already looking forward to day two! And again, thank you.
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    Dec 20, 2007 4:30 AM GMT
    You should also remember that everyone in the gym started out in worse shape than they are now. Gym bodies are not built overnight. Also remember that most people are in the gym to work out and quite honestly don't notice you. Just go and do your thing and stick with it and you will be amazed with results sooner than you think.

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    Dec 20, 2007 1:43 PM GMT
    It doesn't matter where you go. If you go and work hard everyone will see your determination and will give you tons of support. A lot of other people have and had hurdles to over come no matter what size they are. Go for it. Before you know it you will be one of those people that you are intimated by now.
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    Feb 26, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    AngloAm said
    My personal trainer wants me to go to a gym to work out and the best one for my schedule and work hours is the one available near my office. And it's free. Thing is, I'm really shy about my weight and my office is on an Army base, so there'll be very fit people working out. And me. And I'm nervous.

    Any ideas how to get over it?

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    Just go, you will get over it quickly once you get comfortable with working out in public.

    I had a Tony Robbins motivational tape set that I liked, in it he had a part about forming a mantra for workouts where you hammer a phrase over and over. You could do it while you drive there. The Marines do this stuff in different ways and it works well.

    Some good ones to use are as follows but you can use anything that gives you power.

    "I have all the confidence inside of me that I need"
    "I have all the motivation I need inside of me now"
    "I have all the endurance I need inside of me now"
    "I have all the determination I need inside of me now"

    You get the idea. Translate desire into an attitude.
    When making changes and breaking out of old undesirable patterns we need to encourage ourselves by using positive words. Your brain does not really have a the context of time at emotional levels, then is now is future... just displace thoughts that don't work with confidence builders.
    Its REALLY that easy, it just takes repetition.

    So like Nike Bo says... Go for it. The military guys there will respect you as you show up every day, you will obtain your goals, and you will get encouragement and reward from others outside of you. But don't make the mistake of not giving it to yourself at the start.
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    Feb 26, 2008 3:50 PM GMT
    I enjoy having really hot better built guys than me in the gym I go to. First, it is nice to have the eye candy and I also use it as motivation for myself. Watch these guys and learn from them.
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    Feb 26, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    Use it as plain motivation!!!
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    Feb 26, 2008 6:49 PM GMT
    Oh puleeeeze. Do you really see yourself as the center of universe? Do you really think those people are all wrapped up in you?

    My friend, nobody is going to give you a second thought.

    All those voices you hear telling you what others are thinking....are in your head!!! It is just YOU putting yourself down. You are projecting your own views of yourself out onto them and then having them to "say" them back to you. Nobody else cares that much about you.

    Now that you have your head straight.

    Think about this....who is being hurt by these thoughts? You or those other people? Obviously, it's you. It's you who are doing this to yourself.

    Now, let your voices tell you how proud they are that you are doing something about your weight (or whatever is your problem). Realize that as time passes you are going to be improving. And when the time has passed, you are going to have achieved your goal. With your current behavior, when the time has passed...and it will....you are going to be no better off than you are now.

    And, finally, even if everybody in that gym lined up to insult you, so what? Who are they to pass any judgment on you? And no matter what anyone says or think, you are taking the action to correct your situation.

    Go for it....and start a thread on here just about you and your experiences. I did it for my prostate cancer. It was a real comfort to sit down and be able to "talk" to everybody. And people read it...and gave me such great encouragement. It helped fantastically.

    Go for it!!!!!

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  • AngloAm

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    Mar 03, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    Thanks - it's been great. Everyone at the gym has been supportively indifferent if you know what I mean. And I love going. I see the eye candy guys, but I also see how hard they work at it and I see changes in my own body - in my own weight and endurance.

    I will also tell you I really appreciate everything everyone here has said. Thanks so much.
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    Mar 11, 2008 2:26 PM GMT
    The same way you got fat, one day at a time.

    Honestly, in the picture, no one gives a shit about you at the gym. There are 6.6 BILLION folks on the planet, so, it really doesn't matter. If someone does make fun of you for being so far gone, well, it's not like you don't look the part, right? Use anything like that as motivation to never be so careless again. Use it as motivation to say "I will never let myself go like that again." It's a glass is half full, or half-empty thing. Might as well look at it as being half full, and use the rest to channel you into a modality of change. Wallowing will do you NO GOOD. All the vanity won't make you better. What you need to do is to get into motion. You walked, now, run.

    Put one foot front of the other, and get it done.

    Stop with the bullshit excuses, and make your mind up that you are going to change, but, never forget that you did not get so bad off overnight, nor will you get well overnight.

    Wax on. Wax off. It's as simple as that.

    Being so self-involved, and self-loathing is stupid. Time to get on with your life. The past is the past. Get on with fixing yourself so the future can be better.

    Remember: you haven't spent decades as an athlete. The poster above is wrong. Most guy that really have it in the gym grew up with it integrated into the lifestyle. The thing about them being out of shape is a myth. Their lifestyle has very likely always revolved around sport and fitness. You need to accept that you didn't get so bad off, overnight, as I said, and put forth your best effort, and the rest will follow, but, you need to be realistic, and patient. Embrace a new life style; get rid of people that make you fat; get rid of situations where you engage in bad behavior; resolve that you'll never let it happen again. In a nutshell, if you want it, go get it, and quit making up excuses. Nobody really gives a shit about you at the gym...that's all self-involved, self-vanity, I,I,I, and you have to get past it, and focus on yourself, and making the changes for success.
  • AngloAm

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    Apr 21, 2008 2:39 PM GMT
    Snivelling has ended! icon_smile.gif