Happy Update Regarding My Partner in the Hospital

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    Nov 03, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
    This is my 3rd thread about my partner, still in the hospital at day 11, likely to be there a few more. But the news is very good, and I wanted to start a new thread, as the last one was numbering something over 100 posts.

    He was brought down from the critical care unit (CCU) yesterday afternoon (Mon) after 6 days there, into a conventional room, though still with telemetry monitoring 24/7. They continue to believe he will keep his leg & foot, and a parade of doctors has been visiting him, literally telling him & me that he is the hospital's "miracle patient."

    His attending physician told him Sunday in my presence that in his entire medical career, he'd never seen anyone avoid amputation at the extreme stage of arterial blockage he had. The doctor was positively beaming, and said, quote: "I need to pat myself on the back for this one."

    The final verdict is my partner had an extremely rare and unpredictable reaction to the blood thinner Heparin, commonly given after surgery. The initial belief that he has advanced arteriosclerosis (hardening of the arteries) is not correct, though he does have some build-up in his arteries, typical for his age. This suggests his overall circulatory health is otherwise good, with no risk for the immediate future.

    He was also put in a chair this morning, first time out of the bed in 7 days. A physical therapist is supposed to see him today, to help him begin walking again. So strange, because he was previously walking up and down the hospital hall following a total hip replacement the day after his surgery Oct 12, and 10 days later his doctor told him he no longer needed a walker or a cane, and now he's worse than when he started.

    But the long-term prognosis remains good. And I want to thank everyone here for your support & patience, as I related this thing online. It was very helpful to me, dare I say therapeutic, to chat this out, enabling me to deal with the stress, and your kind & encouraging remarks were a great comfort.

    If anyone in the Fort Lauderdale area would like to visit him, up in Pompano Beach at North Broward Medical Center on Sample Road, please email me here and I'll give you the info. And I'll continue to post to RJ as this thing hopefully winds down.

    We've already discussed giving ourselves a few days at a local gay resort, to just get away from everything familiar and do an emotional dump after this ordeal. Lie out under the sun, mindless & naked, drunk & detached, surrounded by sweet eye-candy under shady palms with warm breezes, and forgetting that this ever happened. That thought is now our goal that keeps us going. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 03, 2009 4:55 PM GMT
    That's SUPER news Vespa! icon_razz.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 03, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
    Glad to hear the issues are under control Bob ... and soon hopefully all will be history. Keep us updated on all as he leaves the hospital!

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    Nov 03, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidThat's SUPER news Vespa! icon_razz.gif

    Yeah, and all the time I'm in his room I keep touching his foot to feel the warmth, that was dead cold for 5 days, and see the near-normal coloration when it looked like liver until last Thursday morning. And my eyes start to tear, but I hide that from him. I'm told the remaining skin mottling is normal, the places where gangrene was already starting, that will clear in time like a bruise does.

    I'm still home today, though, when normally I'd already be in his room, posting this from his laptop right there. I may have caught something in the hospital, giving me some bad diarrhea (I know, TMI), so I can't drive up there yet, and I may pose a risk to him. But I know others are going to be visiting him, so he won't be alone, and we've talked several time on the phone today, since he can have his cell again in that room.

    I guess I'm running out of steam, and last night a gay couple visited him, our dearest friends, one of them driving me home in our car at my request. With the time change it's darker earlier now, and tackling crazy Florida drivers at night on I-95 is more than my reflexes can handle right now.

    Laying out in that gay resort looks better & better to me. LOL!
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    Nov 03, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    Hearing all this, and me without any health insurance at all, makes me really skeptical about Obama's universal health care. How can any system hope to
    pay out more than an individual makes, for just one bout of illness, x 350,000,000 people.
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    Nov 03, 2009 6:18 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidHearing all this, and me without any health insurance at all, makes me really skeptical about Obama's universal health care. How can any system hope to
    pay out more than an individual makes, for just one bout of illness, x 350,000,000 people.

    I don't know. I estimate the cost of this to be several hundred thousand dollars. I don't know yet what his insurance will cover and what it won't. I'm waiting for the hammer to fall.

    My late partner's final illness wiped me out financially, and maybe this will, too. I'll face that later. Right now he's doing well and that's all I care about. If I can get him out of that place in good shape, I'll deal with the bill collectors later. They can seize many things, but they can't take back his health.

    He's talked about the cost a little, and I've deflected & minimized that topic, because I don't want him to focus on anything else at this point, except his getting better. I'll take care of the bills somehow, that's my concern, not his.

    I pride myself on being the rock in our relationship, the former Army Colonel who will protect his partner at all costs. For which I merit little praise, wondering if I do it as much for my own ego & vanity as I do it for love of him. But in any case he's the one who benefits, and we'll sort out the motives later.
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    Nov 03, 2009 6:51 PM GMT
    I missed the other posts, but it is great new to here that he is doing so much better. I can't imagine how relieved you must feel, and I hope you guys have a great time when you take a trip to that resort.
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    Nov 03, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    Vespa,

    I am so glad to hear your good news! It is important that both of you take care and recuperate. Medical crisis can take a lot out of you: Whether it is happening to you or your loved one.

    We are sending you both positive and healing thoughts icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 03, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    brandohsaurus saidI missed the other posts, but it is great new to here that he is doing so much better. I can't imagine how relieved you must feel, and I hope you guys have a great time when you take a trip to that resort.

    Thanks much! The "trip" may consist of no more than a 4-mile drive down to the gay resorts at the beach. Or even a walk down the street, to a new resort that opened recently.

    A nice place I've toured, and met the owners, but that close may not give us the escape we need. I'd love to try for Key West, where we already have reservations for January, but over a 4-hour drive that may be pushing it right now. We'll see...
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    Nov 03, 2009 7:36 PM GMT

    RV

    It's great to see you considering where to spend a reparative dirty weekend with your hubby. That's a huge change from where things were last week! My thoughts and prayers remain with you both.
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    Nov 03, 2009 7:41 PM GMT
    brandohsaurus saidI missed the other posts, but it is great new to here that he is doing so much better. I can't imagine how relieved you must feel, and I hope you guys have a great time when you take a trip to that resort.

    You can't imagine how I cried when I felt his foot and found it warm, for the first time in 6 days. Tears I hid from him, mostly doped up and sleeping at that time.

    This at the same time when the doctors were telling me there was a slim chance he would keep his leg, as eventually happened. I'm not being a drama queen here about how close he came to amputation; the doctors told the same thing to his sister, and eventually to him, too, that he was mere hours from the deadline they had set for removal of his leg. I'm still not happy they later shared that with him.

    But my focus now is his coming home in a few days, mustering all the positive thoughts I can for him. And planning to whisk him away to a hedonistic gay resort, as soon as he can handle it, for a uniquely gay recovery.
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    Nov 03, 2009 7:47 PM GMT
    That's great to hear.

    I'm wondering, how much positive thinking your partner did on getting through this medical ordeal with positive results?

    I've had an experience before from a rugby injury and the doctor said there would only be a 2% chance that I could recover without having surgery to my knee, and I totally invested a lot of mental energy in thinking of a positive outcome. I've also read in several sources, some of which were brought to the attention of these RJ forums that some people believe that positive thinking can help the body recover from an illness or injury better than if they didn't think positive.
  • metta

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    Nov 03, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
    YES! Love hearing all of this great news. I have a friend in the hospital right now, that they thought she was not going to make it last week after being on a respirator for over a week from the flu and no improvement but they finally were able to take her off the drug induced coma and she is breathing on her own and is able to talk normally. YEAH!!!! So, so happy! I hope my banner to welcome her home comes in time.
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    Nov 03, 2009 9:46 PM GMT
    Great to hear! I'm glad to hear and will keep you both in my prayers. Take care of yourself too. Keep us informed! icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 03, 2009 11:26 PM GMT
    Great to hear things are working out so well Bobby.
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    Nov 03, 2009 11:36 PM GMT
    Wishing the best of luck to both of you! Hope your ordeal will be over soon. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 03, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    Woo hoo!
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    Nov 03, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    Somehow I just new you'ed be taking him home soon and well on the mend !!!! I am so glad for him and you !!!! Bless you guys !!!! Dennis
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    Nov 03, 2009 11:55 PM GMT
    Terrific news - I'm so happy for the both of you!
  • creature

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    Nov 03, 2009 11:55 PM GMT
    This is terrific. And after all you two have been through, you definitely deserve that vacation at the resort.
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    Nov 04, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    Fantastic news!!!!!!!!!!!! My continued best wishes to you both icon_biggrin.gif
  • tim_id

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    Nov 04, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    Excellent news Red!! Keep us updated icon_biggrin.gif

    Tim
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    Nov 04, 2009 12:56 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidHearing all this, and me without any health insurance at all, makes me really skeptical about Obama's universal health care. How can any system hope to
    pay out more than an individual makes, for just one bout of illness, x 350,000,000 people.


    if all 350 million people get sick or injured to the tune of this at once, we might as well light a friggen nuke over every city in the US for the upcoming outbreak of swine flu half everyone is going to die from. after all, we need to protect the other half.

    such a straw man argument is nonsense icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 04, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
    that is excellent news, great to hear icon_biggrin.gif here is to more finger crossing for the next few days icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 04, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
    It is great to hear some good news, and I pray for you that his recovery will be a speedy and healthy one. I am sure you have been through a lot over the past weeks, and that the end result will be both happy and fulfilling for each of you. My best to you both. icon_smile.gif