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what do you need to prepare for it do i shave between there how do i become less tense?

i kinda wanna know how to bottom too...i tried once but it hurt like hell and i quit

loosen up....like pushing shit out....when it's in enjoy

clean



lube



practice



practice more



Protect



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if your sugar daddy wants it shaved he can shave it himself
also quit smoking; its bad for your circulation, bad for the elasticity of your skin and thus bad for bottoming

Truly LostBoy gives the best advise above. I love to TOP and crave it like a mad man. But... as they say, many a great Top makes some of the best ass you can ever fuck. If you know what it takes to be a good bottom you can show someone how.

After you are totally clean from the shower, your experienced partner needs to get you good and relaxed. There are many ways to do this. Some really great kissing while loosing up your hole with his fingers and lube is a good start. If you are open to letting a guy rim you, then there in no better way that I know of to relax your fuck hole than to take a nice talented tongue up your ass. I love to rim and also love to be rimmed.

For some guys it's easier to bend over and kiss me while I am on my back and they sit back slowly at their own pace on my cock and rock back and forth till they are all the way in and ready to heat things up and ride me cowboy style.
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Others like me love to be on all 4's and have an experienced tongue rim you and then enter while you are on your knees. As the bottom you get to be aggressive with your ass and fuck them back as you push back onto their cock and pleasure yourself at the same time.
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

TheGuyNextDoor said
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

I've become interested sort of late in the game, but am have trouble finding someone who is patient and willing to educate me - are you available for personal training sessions?

Deep breathing... It's a different experience on the bottom, so let the top do his thing and focus first and not tensing up down there. When it's comfortable you can always tease him by clenching and releasing.

TheGuyNextDoor saidTruly LostBoy gives the best advise above. I love to TOP and crave it like a mad man. But... as they say, many a great Top makes some of the best ass you can ever fuck. If you know what it takes to be a good bottom you can show someone how.

After you are totally clean from the shower, your experienced partner needs to get you good and relaxed. There are many ways to do this. Some really great kissing while loosing up your hole with his fingers and lube is a good start. If you are open to letting a guy rim you, then there in no better way that I know of to relax your fuck hole than to take a nice talented tongue up your ass. I love to rim and also love to be rimmed.

For some guys it's easier to bend over and kiss me while I am on my back and they sit back slowly at their own pace on my cock and rock back and forth till they are all the way in and ready to heat things up and ride me cowboy style.
.
Others like me love to be on all 4's and have an experienced tongue rim you and then enter while you are on your knees. As the bottom you get to be aggressive with your ass and fuck them back as you push back onto their cock and pleasure yourself at the same time.
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

These are all great pointers. If it is one of your first times, don't be afraid to use more lube. Another common starter is the old one, two, three fingers, dick technique.

As my boyfriend is on the thicker end, we've had to learn all about going slow and which positions work better to start. I definitely agree with the cowboy position The Guy Next Door recommended. That way you can go down at your own pace. Another position that I find to be easy is while I'm on my back and then my boyfriend and I take turns pushing. He goes forward a little bit and then pauses. Then I push back like I am trying to poop him out.

If your top is patient and caring, there is no need to rush it. It is not worth hurting yourself initially so that the rest of the night is ruined (the next morning as well). Taking your time during the initial entry can mean hours of pleasure after. Have fun and definitely play safe!

jawrhed said

TheGuyNextDoor said
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

I've become interested sort of late in the game, but am have trouble finding someone who is patient and willing to educate me - are you available for personal training sessions?

Patience is my middle name or I'd never get any....

Yes, well... some of us are better equipped to handle that club than others.

but the sentiment is valid. Don't rush it now... you'll only regret it later.

TheGuyNextDoor saidTruly LostBoy gives the best advise above. I love to TOP and crave it like a mad man. But... as they say, many a great Top makes some of the best ass you can ever fuck. If you know what it takes to be a good bottom you can show someone how.

After you are totally clean from the shower, your experienced partner needs to get you good and relaxed. There are many ways to do this. Some really great kissing while loosing up your hole with his fingers and lube is a good start. If you are open to letting a guy rim you, then there in no better way that I know of to relax your fuck hole than to take a nice talented tongue up your ass. I love to rim and also love to be rimmed.

For some guys it's easier to bend over and kiss me while I am on my back and they sit back slowly at their own pace on my cock and rock back and forth till they are all the way in and ready to heat things up and ride me cowboy style.
.
Others like me love to be on all 4's and have an experienced tongue rim you and then enter while you are on your knees. As the bottom you get to be aggressive with your ass and fuck them back as you push back onto their cock and pleasure yourself at the same time.
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

I got wood...

If I could expand a little on LostBoy's excellent advice.

1) Don't use lube. Use lots of good lube. Too little can really bang a guy up. The friction can tear up a bottom's bottom, creating opportunities for STIs and increasing the risk of transmission. Likewise, too little for the top can also rip skin on the penis, particularly if you are uncut. Lube it up, and make sure all your naughty bits are in tip top shape so you can do it all again shortly after.

2) Practice: bottoms have trouble with breathing and relaxing. Practicing does more than just make you familiar with the process. It also gives you confidence so you can look down the barrel of a beer can cock and know you can swallow it without hesitation. Confidence is sexy as hell. And a bottom who doesn't just lie there, but actively chews up a cock with his ass is a treasure.

TheGuyNextDoor saidTruly LostBoy gives the best advise above. I love to TOP and crave it like a mad man. But... as they say, many a great Top makes some of the best ass you can ever fuck. If you know what it takes to be a good bottom you can show someone how.

After you are totally clean from the shower, your experienced partner needs to get you good and relaxed. There are many ways to do this. Some really great kissing while loosing up your hole with his fingers and lube is a good start. If you are open to letting a guy rim you, then there in no better way that I know of to relax your fuck hole than to take a nice talented tongue up your ass. I love to rim and also love to be rimmed.

For some guys it's easier to bend over and kiss me while I am on my back and they sit back slowly at their own pace on my cock and rock back and forth till they are all the way in and ready to heat things up and ride me cowboy style.
.
Others like me love to be on all 4's and have an experienced tongue rim you and then enter while you are on your knees. As the bottom you get to be aggressive with your ass and fuck them back as you push back onto their cock and pleasure yourself at the same time.
If you can learn to relax you can be in for a really hot fuck that you'd wish would never end!

I can't ride on top. I get too tight because my legs are trying to keep me balanced. I do best face down on my stomach or on my back with the top standing at the edge of the bed.

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this is the best info i could find on the web.

Let me underline:

ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. Always, with EVERYONE. If they say they were just tested negative yesterday, STILL use a rubber. ALWAYS.

Clear? STIs ares not something that you want if you can avoid them.

BB stands for "fuckwitted cunt"

Whether you're practicing solo or warming up with your top, you can do the anal equivalent of kegel exercises to increase control and pleasure.

You have two sphincters muscles back there. One obviously is your butthole. The other one is an inch or so further inside.

Start at the outter one, say with your finger, and practice alternating between gently squeezing down, then pushing out. If you're new to anal play, you'll discover a lot of new sensations and get a feel for how you can control the flexing and contraction of the muscle.

When you comfortable with that, slowly and gently move your finger or toy further in until you feel it against the inner sphincter and repeat the process. With a little bit of verrrry pleasant practice, you can gain a level of muscle control that gives you a lot of control over the comfort and pleasure during a good reaming.

And if you really practice, you can learn to work those muscles in unison in a way that's literally like sucking that hog with your ass. When you can do that, you have become a Black Belt Bottom.

thanks guys this may sound stupid but other then practice is there anyway for it not to hurt initially i mean he can throw me around and all that but when its goin in does it always hurt the 1st time ? oh by kind of embarassing but i have stretch marks on my ass cheeks i guess from working out but is there anything that can hide those scars besides make up or sumthin

There are a couple of sprays or products that numb the area for a moment or that warm it up. You might try one of them, though don't overdo it, because your body creates the sensation of pain for a reason... to say stop.

As for the stretch marks... I'm gonna say you're overthinking this one. I can't imagine anyone getting to the point where the clothes come off and suddenly seeing stretch marks on an otherwise nice ass and thinking... "well, that ruins it. I'm outta here."

Don't be misled by all those photos of "perfect", round, muscular, lily white asses. Even the greatest ones sometimes get ingrown hairs and pimples. Keep breathing deep and focus on the pleasure you can both get and give with that sexy, if imperfect, ass.

Guy Next Door,

I am getting all hot, just reading you post and I have to go to work. I have never meet anyone as sexually straight to the point as you. You are driving me crazy. Goodness................

Doing some poppers can also help you relax and loosen you up. Not everyone is in to them, but I enjoy them and have found them to be helpful.

Koaa2 saidDoing some poppers can also help you relax and loosen you up. Not everyone is in to them, but I enjoy them and have found them to be helpful.

I respectfully disagree. Poppers are not a beginners toy. In that momentary numbness you could really do so damage, completely unaware while he is pounding away.

The way to get around that first bit of pain it to... use lube, practice, and warm up When starting out, go real slow Toker. Sit on his face and grind his tongue up your ass. Lube up a finger and work it in there. Don't just pull it in and out, find your prostate and go to town. Work your way up to two fingers, then three fingers. Then, when you have primed yourself, and your ass is begging for a good fucking, that cock will just slide in. BUT, you have to use lube, practice, and warm up.

Then, when you join the big leagues and you know what you can comfortably take, try poppers.

Purr, men like it when you purrrr.

Don't shave in there unless it's a jungle in there. A light dusting of hair, I think is nicer then a jungle or a shaved area, kinda babyish, which....gross.

How to loosen up....how do you master the perfect jump shot, PRACTICE.
Some of these tops may say, fuck and fuck a lot, which, that's one way to practice. Just buy a dildo, no need to sacrifice anything beyond the tautness, dear.

gus...DONT shave your ass!

CLIP CLIP CLIP

i work in operating theatres...the amount of gay guys we get in with abcesses from ingrown hairs is incredible! and the surgery will put you out of action for WEEKS (pilonidal sinus)............i am not talking pimples here...but massive boils that require laying open and LEAVING open....be scared of the razor!

little bit of hair is healthy.....CLIP!

Be careful!!! Anal/Rectal prolapse can occur... Better hope your not allergic to latex... that could really be a mess. And what about hemmorhoids? OOOH

Trim don't shave if you need to. If you do decide to shave treat the shaved area for several days after with a tea tree oil or after shave to prevent infections such as ingrown hairs.
Get *good* lube... the brand is kind of personal preference.
I like Liquid Silk. I prefer water based over silicone as silicone based is harder than hell to get off, it's like fucking on an oil slick. Some water based lube gets tacky after it's been moved around and exposed to the air. Quality is everything with lube and you get what you pay for.
LostBoy gave the best advice: Clean, Lube, Practice, Protect

Most of all enjoy the process and make sure you're with someone who will make your first time "all about you". If you get taken through all the steps of how FABULOUS bottoming is, chances are you'll be better able to negotiate and navigate it in the future with someone less experienced.

I'm a proficient top but much prefer to bottom, once you find a rhythm the sky is the limit! The prostate is God's gift to men, a little stimulation down there and I found multiple orgasms and an almost non-existent refractory period.

Don't forget: Clean, Lube, Practice, Protect

agree.....the prostate is next to heaven. when it's been pounded enough you will be in such a state of pure melt down.

another method used by friends of mine is to use a shower douche....a tube that goes up your ass and cleans it out. such a nice feeling to be clean....also to blow up your ass with water.

djohn767 saidBe careful!!! Anal/Rectal prolapse can occur... Better hope your not allergic to latex... that could really be a mess. And what about hemmorhoids? OOOH

Oh,,, good lord. Someone needs to loose their virginity here...

TheGuyNextDoor said

djohn767 saidBe careful!!! Anal/Rectal prolapse can occur... Better hope your not allergic to latex... that could really be a mess. And what about hemmorhoids? OOOH

Oh,,, good lord. Someone needs to loose their virginity here...

But if all goes well, you will have the most fun ever getting those hemorrhoids

btw, it´s good to practice anal kegels on a regular basis just as a precaution, and also as it gives you extra control on muscles that you can use to your partner´s advantage haha

I also wanted to post a few pics

whats anal kegels?