Not so perfect body, mature men and no so good looking guy shouldnt be in Real Jock?

  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 03, 2009 11:15 PM GMT
    I am all of the above. Sometimes I feel out of place here. With all the emphasize on looking good, hard muscle, and all this young stuff. Stuff about men of the week, hottest guy and etc. But Real Jock is a good place to socialize and getting to know other gay men from all over the world. It is fun , educational, and informative.

    For those guys in my categories, please share your thought.
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    Nov 04, 2009 5:20 AM GMT
    lol, zakariahzol, In another topic we mentioned taking nude pictures of ourselves and terrorizing people with them.

    ..but then we realized it would give everyone permanent psychological damage.icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif



    "...Real Jock is a good place to socialize and getting to know other gay men from all over the world. It is fun , educational, and informative."

    ...and that's why a lot of guys are here.

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    Nov 04, 2009 7:46 AM GMT
    If we didn't have each other - I wouldn't really know any gay guys. I spoke to Doug (meninlove) yesterday and it was like water in the desert.
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    Nov 04, 2009 9:56 AM GMT

    Stop it. Gay men come in all shapes, sizes, and trollness. All are welcome in a community setting.
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  • drypin

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    Nov 04, 2009 1:51 PM GMT
    It might be a lot harder to win someone over online with your charisma and sparkling personality, but that just means it takes some patience and perhaps thick skin.
  • Matia79

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    Nov 04, 2009 2:01 PM GMT
    I'm pleased the RJ has such a wide variety of shapes, ages, and fitness levels. I see absolutely no problem with it whatsoever. As a matter of fact I find the information, advice and words of a large number of these so-called "un-RJ" people to be a wonderful addition and voice in an otherwise chaotic and sometimes narcissistic forum.

    What I DO have an issue with however is the prattling morons who spout nothing but negative comments and prattle on about non-issues and then proceed to take offense when someone doesn't necessarily agree. It's so much of a turn off that, in one case, when I see this person make a comment I usually leave the forum without bothering to read ... knowing full well that a "flame war" has been instigated (and no, I'm not talking about Chucky...he's actually got some logic behind his madness...:winkicon_smile.gif

    I feel comforted by others however (for example meninlove) when I read their words of encouragement and advice and I have great affection for various others (young/old, fit/unfit) because of their sensitivity, empathy and pathos....also their twisted humour (case in point, Lostboy)
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    Matia79 said..also their twisted humour (case in point, Lostboy)


    I am not twisted. icon_lol.gif

    Never heard such insults. (BTW "ignore their posts"is such a great feature.. it has improved RJ no end to blank out some people and their idiot ramblings)

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    Nov 04, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    lol... I know real jock supposed to be for this stereotype gay guy, and ive chatted with guys that have been bashed and told to get off the site! I think that is so stupid! I think that this site is for everyone! dont be shy! talk to people! there are some people still out there that arent looking for the "brad pitts" or "tyson beckfords" on this site! we need variety! and honest people!
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:08 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidI am all of the above. Sometimes I feel out of place here. With all the emphasize on looking good, hard muscle, and all this young stuff. Stuff about men of the week, hottest guy and etc. But Real Jock is a good place to socialize and getting to know other gay men from all over the world. It is fun , educational, and informative.

    For those guys in my categories, please share your thought.



    AND PUT A FACE PIC UP OR SOMETHING! :")
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:11 PM GMT
    zakariahzol saidI am all of the above. Sometimes I feel out of place here. With all the emphasize on looking good, hard muscle, and all this young stuff. Stuff about men of the week, hottest guy and etc. But Real Jock is a good place to socialize and getting to know other gay men from all over the world. It is fun , educational, and informative.


    Yes, I agree. I have had a real love/hate relationship with RJ ever since I discovered this site precisely because of what you are describing. If there was another site like RJ that was just for us 40+ guys, that maybe had just the more serious stuff from RJ and left out all the body image drama, the dating drama and stuff about Lady GaGa and Chris Evans vs Channing Tatum, then I would gladly go over to that site and leave RJ to the younguns with the 28-inch waistlines. But I just LOVE reading the contributions that jprichva, McGay, Guerillasodomite, Tapper, Celticmuscle, you and others make in the more intelligent forum topics. It's one of the highlights of my day.
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:16 PM GMT
    i like seeing the older gents on here...sharing their wisdom...and life experiences.
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    Everyone has something to contribute in their own way. That is what makes this site so interesting. Many different perspectives, ideas, personalities, backgrounds, fitness levels, etc. If you keep an open mind, you can learn a lot from other people. This site is not about how hot, young, and goodlooking you are. It's more about learning and contributing information in an open social setting that benefits everyone.
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    well there are tons of sites like beautifulpeople.com where only goodlooking people are allowed access if they're voted attractive enough by existing members.
    Charming right? icon_rolleyes.gif

    I'd be surprised if there isn't a gay version of such, that people could turn to if they get too unhappy with, or think they're too hot for RJ.
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    Nov 04, 2009 2:32 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    Stop it. Gay men come in all shapes, sizes, and trollness. All are welcome in a community setting.
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    I love how you always find the perfect picture.
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 04, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    I like the diversity, it makes me feel comfortable and welcome. I like hearing from the younger(ah memories) and the older. I think we all have something valid to contribute.

    I think it is very appropriate that this site is called "Real Jock". Most members here are more "real" than any website I belong to.

    I am very thankful that the majority of posts and threads are not incredibly crude and profane.

    So......welcome! I don't think anyone has called you out and that you should't be here? Claim some space, put a stake down, you're one of us now. one of us, one of us, one of us.........mwhahahahaha!
  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 04, 2009 4:24 PM GMT
    brandohsaurus said
    GuiltyGear said
    Stop it. Gay men come in all shapes, sizes, and trollness. All are welcome in a community setting.
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    I love how you always find the perfect picture.



    This wouldn't happen to be a daisy chain?
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    Nov 04, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    Presumably the unifying theme behind people joining and/or participating on Realjock.com is fitness. That is not to suggest that anything else is out of place, but that the fitness aspect (along with the gay) is core.

    If one is not interested in fitness and merely looking for an online community in which to participate, RJ fulfills that as well, via the email capabilities, the chat, the forums. As the site places no restrictions on who can join and/or participate, the question of the OP makes little sense beyond that those feelings are what the OP is bringing to the experience and thus getting from it.

    RJ being a fitness oriented website is going to largely attract/draw from a certain segment of PEOPLE who are fit. People who have nice bodies and live a certain way with certain ideas about diet, exercise, so on and so on. Does that automatically exclude others? No it doesn't. Individuals might feel it does or want it to, but alas they are not a god and cannot make that so.

    If one does not have the 'perfect body' and is 'not so good looking,' the key is to realize 1. you are perfectly fine to participate here; 2. some people might not like that you do; and 3. who cares what they think.

    Just enjoy the site as you like and stop worrying about what someone else wants.
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    Nov 04, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    I enjoy this site because of it's difference. Everyone feels welcome and can share advice or get advice on what to do to stay healthy. Also the other topics gives us a voice to question society and who we are.

    I want to thank all who have commented, given advice, or just said "hello".
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    Nov 04, 2009 4:43 PM GMT
    The quality of the men on Realjock is unmatched by another site. The nice bodies are a bonus IMHO.
  • troy_par

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    Nov 04, 2009 4:50 PM GMT
    The great thing about the mix of guys on this site is that WE represent the real world. All of us have lumps in places that we do not want to. This is a reality of life. For me, RJ is a reminder to me that we are all guys who have feelings, interests, and soul. RJ site allows more of us to connect with each other than we would have otherwise!
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    Nov 04, 2009 4:52 PM GMT
    What I like about this site is that it shows that one can have a great body, and at the same time have something to say.

    It also gives us the opportunity to see that even guys who we consider "perfect" aren't that, and that they suffer the same insecurities about life like we all do.

    When I first joined the site, I thought I wouldn't have fit in because I don't have the ideal muscular body. So what? There's a lot of really cool guys who are so much more than a great body.
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    Nov 04, 2009 4:56 PM GMT

    If this site was anymore exclusive, it would be BigMuscle.com. icon_neutral.gif

  • Celticmusl

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    Nov 04, 2009 6:02 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    If this site was anymore exclusive, it would be BigMuscle.com. icon_neutral.gif



    Yeah, bigmuslce.com is vapid. The only contacts I ever got there while I had a profile was "hook up" booty calls.

    Bigmusclebears.com is much better. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 04, 2009 6:12 PM GMT
    drypin saidIt might be a lot harder to win someone over online with your charisma and sparkling personality


    Only way to win my heart icon_wink.gif

    It's unfair to say that all supremely pretty gay men are narcissistic, shallow and kind of downright bad people, but ya know, I've met way too many physically gorgeous assholes. On the flipside, I've met so many men who don't physically look like magazine covers, but damn, they're the only ones who I can say are truly, truly beautiful.
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    Nov 04, 2009 6:20 PM GMT
    Well, I'm not a jock or a hunk or anything like that... but I've always felt just as welcome as the others here. icon_smile.gif